The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

Season 3 Episode 7: Early Relationship Agreements

May 22nd, 2021

"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least."

In today's episode, Laura tells the story of two of her earliest non-monogamous relationships as a frame for explaining ways to make relationship agreements (and some really good examples of ways not to). You can get out some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle of her insecure and underinformed early 20s in between listening to excellent advice.

Here are some resources she wishes she'd had (or had already read) before several short-lived relationships where terms were dictated to her:

The Ethical Slut
The Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory
Building Open Relationships
The Jealousy Workbook
The Relationship Escalator
The "Relationship Spectrum" posts from Ready for Polyamory to think about kinds of relationship one might want to have.

And here are a couple more related posts from the blog on things to consider when making relationship agreements:
What are relationship agreements?
Agreements when you're both polyamorous?

As always, our music provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](

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