The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

Season 2 Episode 9: Love and Apology Languages

February 20th, 2021

Why We Fight and How We Make Up

"What if your partner made you a bouquet of spoons?"

This week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain amount of delicate handling. They've been polyamorous and out in all areas of their life for about five years and were happy to lend their perspective on interpersonal conflict and conflict resolution for this podcast episode focused broadly on Love Languages and Apology Languages, and how these concepts apply in polyamorous networks.

They have a broad ranging conversation rolling between general information about love languages and apology languages to trauma informed interpersonal interaction to what different kinds of more and less invested conflict can look like (and whether we agree about only getting in big fights if it's a hill we're willing to die on). It was a pretty great conversation to get to have, and we hope you enjoy listening to it.

Related blog posts at Ready for Polyamory include:
Love Languages:
Apology Languages:
Is this fight a hill worth dying on?
Fighting to lose:
Breakups in polyamory:

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