The Ready For Polyamory Podcast

Season 2 Episode 12: Insecurity and Polyamory

March 13th, 2021

This week, in the last episode of season 2, I talked with Seva about different ways that polyamory can serve as a format to work through personal insecurities. Obviously, this is a subject everyone approaches in their own way, and we primarily speak through the lens of personal experiences and a little bit through theory in this episode.

We focus on:
-the concept of security vs insecurity in general;
-how meeting metamours to not build them up into personifications of our insecurities can be helpful;
-the process of growing in individual relationships over time and returning to those relationships makes each of those relationships more secure;
-and choosing individual partners and having them choose us is security building.

There are other directions we could have gone in, but we were trying to keep faithful to our own insecurities, envies and jealousies that we’ve grown through over the last several years, and our own experiences. We were also trying to stick to a timeline you might all listen to! Hopefully folks enjoy this episode.

If you have some time over the next couple weeks, I’m taking a couple weeks off to record the beginning of Season 3 before starting to release it. In my opinion, Season 2 really got its sea legs in terms of quality, compared to season 1, so if you missed any Season 2 episodes, I’d recommend going back and checking them out, and I’d love it if you left me a review, especially if you’re listening on one of the big platforms like Apple Podcasts. It helps me get more visibility and into more ears. Thanks so much.

In case anyone didn’t notice, during the week after last week’s podcast, the ordinance in Cambridge was successfully amended and I have an update here on the blog explaining the exact changes and why they’re positive in [Wednesday’s post. ](

I’ll be teaching my Beyond the Kitchen Table: Modes and Models of Parallel Polyamory class at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, the digital version of Tethered Together, on Saturday March 20 from 11:30am -1pm. The con as a whole runs from the 19-21 and you can get tickets at Tickets are $30 until sales close the day before the event. There are a lot of great presenters on topics ranging from relationships to movement to rope and a couple cool shows; come play with us!

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