In this episode, Laura examines the cultural reality of couple's privilege - the ways in which pair-bonding is encouraged and rewarded in our mono-normative culture - and the ways that folks sometimes unthinkingly or out of additional cultural conditioning work to uphold that privilege by enforcing hierarchies and prioritizing relationships over the needs of individuals. This episode looks at which parts of that are avoidable or mitigatable in our present society, which parts need "working around," and offers some options for folks who choose to stay within largely couple-based and hierarchical frameworks as well as those who prefer to explode those frameworks in their relational choices.
Related articles mentioned in the episode:
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/privacy-and-honesty
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/inherent-hierarchy
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-and-hierarchy
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/feelings-rules-and-hierarchy
https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fluid-bonding-feelings-and-risk-profile
As always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com .
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