Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community.
\n\nEvie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lot of understanding verbally and have other partners can seem confused or disappointed when it remains that I'm asexual several months into a relationship." We talk a little about the contrast between the polyamorous "public face" of "it's about the LOVE not the SEX" versus her actual lived experience.
\n\nThe episode actually opens with a detailed discussion of the many platforms that have come and gone for sharing information on sexuality, nonmonogamy, and kink, and the ways it's informed and changed the actual experience of end users and of educators and creators, as well.
\n\nEvie Lupine is a YouTuber, asexual sex educator, and loud advocate for understanding in the BDSM community online. You can find twice-weekly videos from her on non-monogamy and kink on her YouTube channel, and some additional information and services (she does advice!) on her Patreon; Twitter and Instagram have pages for her but are somewhat disused.
\n\nYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/c/EvieLupine
\nPatreon: https://www.patreon.com/EvieLupine &
\nhttps://www.patreon.com/evielupine2 for 1:1 chats, video calls and advice
\nTwitter: https://twitter.com/EvieLupine
\nInstagram: @evie.lupine
Laura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more.
\n\nBuy Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. Paperback, ebook, and audiobook available.
\nDirect from Alex | Support them!
\nBookshop.org | Support indie bookstores!
\nAmazon | If you must.
Subscribe to Entwined Mag for stories of polyamory, friendship, and family
\n[entwinedmag.com](entwinedmag.com) - and watch that space for adding your own stories!
Follow Alex Alberto
\n[Website](alexalberto.com) | Instagram | TikTok
Check out Laura's upcoming [events](readyforpolyamory.com/events), the women & femmes support group (every second sunday - [first meeting March 24](femmessupport1.eventbrite.com) ) and preorder Monogamy? In This Economy? on Bookshop
Special Guest: Alex Alberto.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more","date_published":"2024-03-23T15:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/2186008f-949c-4667-b8ad-2367ebddb824.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":41282583,"duration_in_seconds":2579}]},{"id":"af900158-5103-4f32-8997-faeb4c676d2d","title":"Season 7 Episode 8: A Polyamory Devotional","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyamdevotional","content_text":"Evita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series \"Today's Polyamory Reminder.\" Her book \"A Polyamory Devotional,\" out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy. \n\nOn today's episode she discusses with Laura how the same issues of nonmonogamy that drive these reflections can drive self-knowledge that serve all our relationships, as well as discussing her work with Chanée Jackson-Kendall on the Metamour's Bill of Rights, and general ideas of growth via conflict and discomfort. \n\nFind A Polyamory Devotional here: https://www.amazon.com/Polyamory-Devotional-Reflections-Consensually-Nonmonogamous/dp/1990869238\n\nFind Evita on Instagram @lavitaloca34, and her linktree at https://linktr.ee/lavitalocasawyers","content_html":"Evita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series "Today's Polyamory Reminder." Her book "A Polyamory Devotional," out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy.
\n\nOn today's episode she discusses with Laura how the same issues of nonmonogamy that drive these reflections can drive self-knowledge that serve all our relationships, as well as discussing her work with Chanée Jackson-Kendall on the Metamour's Bill of Rights, and general ideas of growth via conflict and discomfort.
\n\nFind A Polyamory Devotional here: https://www.amazon.com/Polyamory-Devotional-Reflections-Consensually-Nonmonogamous/dp/1990869238
\n\nFind Evita on Instagram @lavitaloca34, and her linktree at https://linktr.ee/lavitalocasawyers
","summary":"Laura sits down with Evita Sawyers to discuss her new book A Polyamory Devotional, as well as the growth potential in discomfort and conflict. ","date_published":"2023-10-19T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/af900158-5103-4f32-8997-faeb4c676d2d.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":46394642,"duration_in_seconds":2899}]},{"id":"431ed2ff-cd2c-4b9e-bde6-8d41db2d8a6b","title":"Season 7 Episode 7: Living in Small Spaces","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/smallspaces","content_text":"So much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe other people get to have. Laura and Gabrielle Noel (@gabalexa on social media) discuss the practical and emotional realities of living in small spaces in today's episode. \n\nFollow Gabrielle everywhere @gabalexa, or leave the whims of platforms out of it and keep in touch via her website, https://gabalexa.com, where you can find a selection of her writing and links to much of her work. \n\nLaura will be teaching a workshop on various forms of polyam cohabitation with Leanne Yau on October 15, you can still get tickets here: https://polyam-nest.eventbrite.com and find her work in general at readyforpolyamory.com.Special Guest: Gabrielle Aelexa Noel.","content_html":"So much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe other people get to have. Laura and Gabrielle Noel (@gabalexa on social media) discuss the practical and emotional realities of living in small spaces in today's episode.
\n\nFollow Gabrielle everywhere @gabalexa, or leave the whims of platforms out of it and keep in touch via her website, https://gabalexa.com, where you can find a selection of her writing and links to much of her work.
\n\nLaura will be teaching a workshop on various forms of polyam cohabitation with Leanne Yau on October 15, you can still get tickets here: https://polyam-nest.eventbrite.com and find her work in general at readyforpolyamory.com.
Special Guest: Gabrielle Aelexa Noel.
","summary":"Laura talks with Gabrielle Alexa Noel about cohabiting in smaller spaces when you're polyamorous and what the practical and emotional ramifications of that can be. ","date_published":"2023-10-12T14:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/431ed2ff-cd2c-4b9e-bde6-8d41db2d8a6b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":58220379,"duration_in_seconds":3638}]},{"id":"4618f0e3-a70b-4a94-b0ea-7c065e1f097b","title":"Season 7 Episode 6: Polysaturation","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polysaturation","content_text":"Polysaturation is the state of realizing you have enough relationally - that more would be too much. This can be a really beautiful, welcome thing - or a really challenging one. It can make folks feel like they've done something wrong and that's why their internal warning lights about energy or capacity to handle issues with partners are going off. The answer is seldom simple - these are people we care for and are relating to, we aren't going to \"get rid of\" them - but often, there are times in life when we need to recalibrate in order to care for ourselves. So how do we do that? \n\nThis week's podcast episode is all about this. \n\nLove, sex, kink, and non-monogamy make up the bulk of Violet Fawkes’ work as a sex & pleasure educator. She is a long-time relationship anarchist and kinkster, sprinkling sex-positivity wherever she goes. Helping you find self exploration, self-empowerment, and living your best, most authentic intimate life is what Violet’s work is all about. \n\nYou can find Violet at violetfawkes.com \n\n@FawkesViolet on X\n\n@Violet_Fawkes on Insta\n\n@violetfawkes@mastodon.social\n\n@violetfawkes.bsky.social\n\nand you can find her newest, a dildo collab with Freely Toys, here: https://freelytoys.com/freely-x/violet-fawkes. \n\nYou can find Laura and @readyforpolyamory all over during October and November. On Oct 9, she'll be teaching for Wicked Grounds, a class on Narrative Ageplay. On October 15, Laura and Leanne Yau of polyphiliablog are collaborating on a workshop called The Polyamorous Home, which we hope you'll join us for! In November, back at Wicked Grounds teaching Home for the Polydays, a class about managing expectations for the holiday season with your polycule; and there are 3 spaces left for the November [Growth Cycles Retreat](readyforpolyamory.com/retreats) in CT which Laura is facilitating, if you and your partner(s) would like to attend. Special Guest: Violet Fawkes.","content_html":"Polysaturation is the state of realizing you have enough relationally - that more would be too much. This can be a really beautiful, welcome thing - or a really challenging one. It can make folks feel like they've done something wrong and that's why their internal warning lights about energy or capacity to handle issues with partners are going off. The answer is seldom simple - these are people we care for and are relating to, we aren't going to "get rid of" them - but often, there are times in life when we need to recalibrate in order to care for ourselves. So how do we do that?
\n\nThis week's podcast episode is all about this.
\n\nLove, sex, kink, and non-monogamy make up the bulk of Violet Fawkes’ work as a sex & pleasure educator. She is a long-time relationship anarchist and kinkster, sprinkling sex-positivity wherever she goes. Helping you find self exploration, self-empowerment, and living your best, most authentic intimate life is what Violet’s work is all about.
\n\nYou can find Violet at violetfawkes.com
\n\n@FawkesViolet on X
\n\n@Violet_Fawkes on Insta
\n\n\n\n@violetfawkes.bsky.social
\n\nand you can find her newest, a dildo collab with Freely Toys, here: https://freelytoys.com/freely-x/violet-fawkes.
\n\nYou can find Laura and @readyforpolyamory all over during October and November. On Oct 9, she'll be teaching for Wicked Grounds, a class on Narrative Ageplay. On October 15, Laura and Leanne Yau of polyphiliablog are collaborating on a workshop called The Polyamorous Home, which we hope you'll join us for! In November, back at Wicked Grounds teaching Home for the Polydays, a class about managing expectations for the holiday season with your polycule; and there are 3 spaces left for the November [Growth Cycles Retreat](readyforpolyamory.com/retreats) in CT which Laura is facilitating, if you and your partner(s) would like to attend.
Special Guest: Violet Fawkes.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Violet Fawkes to discuss polysaturation and how to handle being in more relationships than you have bandwidth for. ","date_published":"2023-09-28T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/4618f0e3-a70b-4a94-b0ea-7c065e1f097b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":60623227,"duration_in_seconds":3788}]},{"id":"7575e122-9c76-4487-8a2e-c0530f946086","title":"Season 7 Episode 5: Mom Rage","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/momrage","content_text":"\"Matrescence - the process of becoming a mother - is something we only talk about in the most glorified tone culturally, and it is in fact really difficult and isolating and kind of awful - and holding that duality can be enormously challenging and shameful for moms who already lack support.\"\n\n\"I talk about non-monogamy in the book both because I’m from the Bay Area and it’s everywhere but also because I wanted to examine social changes and social frameworks that might be available as alternatives to just straight policy changes that can build some of this support for mothers that’s clearly needed. So one of the moms whose rage story I share is in a non-monogamous relationship.\"\n\nOn today's episode, Laura sits down with Minna Dubin, author of Mom Rage, to discuss motherhood, the force of social expectations and stepping outside of them, the ways non-monogamy can be a positive force of support for family life, and more. The book examines the universal issue of maternal rage, its roots, and social changes that might improve the situation for mothers. \n\nPick up Mom Rage at your local bookstore, or online at: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/minna-dubin/mom-rage/9781541601307/ and follow her on Instagram @minnadubin. \n\nThe Ready for Polyamory Podcast will be back next week with Violet Fawkes as our guest chatting about polysaturation - and you can find Laura on all the socials @readyforpolyamory and upcoming class info at www.readyforpolyamory.com/events. There's three classes coming up in October - go give it a look! Only 4 spaces remain for the November Growth Cycles retreat in CT, so if you're interested in an intensive weekend working on relationship agreements and communication skills, check out info at readyforpolyamory.com/retreats ","content_html":""Matrescence - the process of becoming a mother - is something we only talk about in the most glorified tone culturally, and it is in fact really difficult and isolating and kind of awful - and holding that duality can be enormously challenging and shameful for moms who already lack support."
\n\n"I talk about non-monogamy in the book both because I’m from the Bay Area and it’s everywhere but also because I wanted to examine social changes and social frameworks that might be available as alternatives to just straight policy changes that can build some of this support for mothers that’s clearly needed. So one of the moms whose rage story I share is in a non-monogamous relationship."
\n\nOn today's episode, Laura sits down with Minna Dubin, author of Mom Rage, to discuss motherhood, the force of social expectations and stepping outside of them, the ways non-monogamy can be a positive force of support for family life, and more. The book examines the universal issue of maternal rage, its roots, and social changes that might improve the situation for mothers.
\n\nPick up Mom Rage at your local bookstore, or online at: https://www.hachettebookgroup.com/titles/minna-dubin/mom-rage/9781541601307/ and follow her on Instagram @minnadubin.
\n\nThe Ready for Polyamory Podcast will be back next week with Violet Fawkes as our guest chatting about polysaturation - and you can find Laura on all the socials @readyforpolyamory and upcoming class info at www.readyforpolyamory.com/events. There's three classes coming up in October - go give it a look! Only 4 spaces remain for the November Growth Cycles retreat in CT, so if you're interested in an intensive weekend working on relationship agreements and communication skills, check out info at readyforpolyamory.com/retreats
","summary":"On today's episode, Laura sits down with Minna Dubin, author of Mom Rage, to discuss motherhood, the force of social expectations and stepping outside of them, the ways non-monogamy can be a positive force of support for family life, and more.","date_published":"2023-09-21T13:30:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/7575e122-9c76-4487-8a2e-c0530f946086.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":37441538,"duration_in_seconds":2339}]},{"id":"e096b00b-4cc5-48b3-8fdd-dd60a6188f53","title":"Season 7 Episode 4: Polyamory and D/s","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyamds1","content_text":"\"Both these dynamics - D/s and polyamory - are emotional edgeplay, are like peeling a layer of your skin back, and there’s so much growth and power to be found in continuing to engage there.\"\n\nWriting Spicy registration closes October 5, 2023, and runs October 6 - November 19, 2023 - More information & register at - http://writingspicy.com/\n\nOn September 19, Laura is teaching Negotiation for Edgeplay at Wicked Grounds - More info and tickets here: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2023-09-19-online-bottoming-safety-201-negotiating-edgeplay-safely-as-a-bottom-or-submissive\n\nOn September 26, Sinclair is leading The Vulnerable Dominant online workshop through Wicked Grounds - More information & tickets here https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2023-09-26-online-the-vulnerable-dominant \n\ncalendar of Sinclair's upcoming workshops & events: https://www.sugarbutch.net/2023/01/calendar/\n\nall the places to find Sinclair online: http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair\n\nD/s & polyamory things:\n\n\noutermost bracket: https://www.sugarbutch.net/2019/01/outermost-bracket/\nareas of control: https://www.sugarbutch.net/2019/12/cartography-of-control/ \ninfo about future Paradox workshops + resources: https://www.sugarbutch.net/paradox \nPower Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic by Raven Kaldera (the only book I know of on polyamory & D/s!) - https://amzn.to/45Ef8IG \n\n\nmisc ... \n\nM/s language - https://www.sugarbutch.net/tag/m-s-language/ \n\nSweet & Rough audio book will be posted here, when it's ready: https://www.sugarbutch.net/shop/sweet-and-rough/ \n\nEroSomatic Arts Collective - Liberating Bodies through Radical Pleasure - workshops, forthcoming podcast, retreats, & more - http://erosomatics.com/\n\nReady For Polyamory Growth Cycles Retreats Link: readyforpolyamory.com/retreatsSpecial Guest: Sinclair Sexsmith.","content_html":""Both these dynamics - D/s and polyamory - are emotional edgeplay, are like peeling a layer of your skin back, and there’s so much growth and power to be found in continuing to engage there."
\n\nWriting Spicy registration closes October 5, 2023, and runs October 6 - November 19, 2023 - More information & register at - http://writingspicy.com/
\n\nOn September 19, Laura is teaching Negotiation for Edgeplay at Wicked Grounds - More info and tickets here: https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2023-09-19-online-bottoming-safety-201-negotiating-edgeplay-safely-as-a-bottom-or-submissive
\n\nOn September 26, Sinclair is leading The Vulnerable Dominant online workshop through Wicked Grounds - More information & tickets here https://forbiddentickets.com/events/wicked-grounds/2023-09-26-online-the-vulnerable-dominant
\n\ncalendar of Sinclair's upcoming workshops & events: https://www.sugarbutch.net/2023/01/calendar/
\n\nall the places to find Sinclair online: http://sugarbutch.net/find-sinclair
\n\nD/s & polyamory things:
\n\nmisc ...
\n\nM/s language - https://www.sugarbutch.net/tag/m-s-language/
\n\nSweet & Rough audio book will be posted here, when it's ready: https://www.sugarbutch.net/shop/sweet-and-rough/
\n\nEroSomatic Arts Collective - Liberating Bodies through Radical Pleasure - workshops, forthcoming podcast, retreats, & more - http://erosomatics.com/
\n\nReady For Polyamory Growth Cycles Retreats Link: readyforpolyamory.com/retreats
Special Guest: Sinclair Sexsmith.
","summary":"Laura and Sinclair Sexsmith sit down to discuss polyamory and power exchange","date_published":"2023-09-14T21:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/e096b00b-4cc5-48b3-8fdd-dd60a6188f53.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":69743514,"duration_in_seconds":4358}]},{"id":"9c43088b-2cd0-4acd-8ae3-eb59496194d7","title":"Season 7 Episode 3: Polyamory in Media 2023","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/media2023","content_text":"\"I need to have a word with the people at Netflix about teasing polyamory\"\n\n\"Books are just leaps and bounds ahead of tv in representation, so my standards are way higher\"\n\nIn today's episode, Laura and Abbie of PolyAnarchy discuss polyamorous representation in various tv properties and books. \n\nTheir favorites include the book To Shape a Dragon's Breath and they universally pan what they term \"all the Netflix reality shows that use the word throuple and don't give us one.\" Special Guest: Abbie K.","content_html":""I need to have a word with the people at Netflix about teasing polyamory"
\n\n"Books are just leaps and bounds ahead of tv in representation, so my standards are way higher"
\n\nIn today's episode, Laura and Abbie of PolyAnarchy discuss polyamorous representation in various tv properties and books.
\n\nTheir favorites include the book To Shape a Dragon's Breath and they universally pan what they term "all the Netflix reality shows that use the word throuple and don't give us one."
Special Guest: Abbie K.
","summary":"Laura and Abbie of PolyAnarchy discuss polyam representation on various books & tv shows from the past year.","date_published":"2023-09-07T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/9c43088b-2cd0-4acd-8ae3-eb59496194d7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":65487852,"duration_in_seconds":2728}]},{"id":"4b183560-8791-4e7e-86e1-1d1f60bac306","title":"Season 7 Episode 2: Microscripts with Multiamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/microscripts","content_text":"\"You need the self-awareness and the meta-communication to make using the tools easier for you. It's about waking up to doing it intentionally.\"\n\n\"In my romantic relationships and my friendships, I feel so empowered in my communication - we have so many tools we can turn to.\"\n\nThe new book from Dedeker, Emily and Jase of Multiamory is a tool kit for communication in relationships of all kinds. In today's podcast episode we focus on one in particular that they delve into - microscripts - but we also range through topics like conflict resolution, our peeves in relationship advice, and which two of the four of us have been to therapy with our moms. \n\nFind the Ready for Polyamory review of the Multiamory book here: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/recent-reading\n\nJase, Emily, and Dedeker created the Multiamory Podcast in 2014 to raise awareness, provide approachable resources, and combat the stigma faced by people in non-traditional relationships. Today, with hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to offering practical advice and communication tools, grounded in the latest relationship research, guest experts, and years of professional experience. Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, Cosmopolitan, and Elle. In addition to their national tours, they have presented at the Google campus in Seattle and have been keynote speakers and presenters at numerous conferences. For more information and links to buy the book, please visit: https://www.multiamory.com/book.","content_html":""You need the self-awareness and the meta-communication to make using the tools easier for you. It's about waking up to doing it intentionally."
\n\n"In my romantic relationships and my friendships, I feel so empowered in my communication - we have so many tools we can turn to."
\n\nThe new book from Dedeker, Emily and Jase of Multiamory is a tool kit for communication in relationships of all kinds. In today's podcast episode we focus on one in particular that they delve into - microscripts - but we also range through topics like conflict resolution, our peeves in relationship advice, and which two of the four of us have been to therapy with our moms.
\n\nFind the Ready for Polyamory review of the Multiamory book here: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/recent-reading
\n\nJase, Emily, and Dedeker created the Multiamory Podcast in 2014 to raise awareness, provide approachable resources, and combat the stigma faced by people in non-traditional relationships. Today, with hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a rapidly growing community, they are dedicated to offering practical advice and communication tools, grounded in the latest relationship research, guest experts, and years of professional experience. Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Oprah Daily, Cosmopolitan, and Elle. In addition to their national tours, they have presented at the Google campus in Seattle and have been keynote speakers and presenters at numerous conferences. For more information and links to buy the book, please visit: https://www.multiamory.com/book.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Jase, Emily, and Dedeker of Multiamory to discuss conflict resolution, microscripts, their pet peeves in relationship advice, and more.","date_published":"2023-09-01T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/4b183560-8791-4e7e-86e1-1d1f60bac306.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":59175206,"duration_in_seconds":2465}]},{"id":"34c494c3-f463-4ccb-b518-a2c65aa4add4","title":"Season 7 Episode 1: PolyWise","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polywise","content_text":"Laura speaks with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, PolyWise, paradigm shifts for folks making changes in non monogamous relationships, and restorative rather than punitive views of conflict.\n\nThey discuss why the authors included so many different psychological modalities and approaches in their book, the value of different tools for folks encountering big transitions in relationships, and more. \n\n\"It's about intentionality - being willing to lead with your feelings, hearing when your partner does as well, and keeping in mind that healing and relating are verbs.\"\n\n\"Paradigms were an important focus for us because we're all so steeped in them - and getting to a place where we identify our values and shift them intentionally is really powerful.\"\n\nPolyWise is available at all booksellers August 25, 2023. \n\nJessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com. \n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory @readyforpolyamory on social media and at [readyforpolyamory.com ](www.readyforpolyamory.com). New podcast episodes will be up Thursdays all fall!Special Guest: Jessica Fern.","content_html":"Laura speaks with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, PolyWise, paradigm shifts for folks making changes in non monogamous relationships, and restorative rather than punitive views of conflict.
\n\nThey discuss why the authors included so many different psychological modalities and approaches in their book, the value of different tools for folks encountering big transitions in relationships, and more.
\n\n"It's about intentionality - being willing to lead with your feelings, hearing when your partner does as well, and keeping in mind that healing and relating are verbs."
\n\n"Paradigms were an important focus for us because we're all so steeped in them - and getting to a place where we identify our values and shift them intentionally is really powerful."
\n\nPolyWise is available at all booksellers August 25, 2023.
\n\nJessica Fern is a Psychotherapist, Coach, and Certified Clinical Trauma Professional. Jessica is the author of Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and NonMonomgamy and The Polyseucre Workbook: Healing Your Attachment and Creating Security in Loving Relationships. In her international private practice, Jessica works with individuals, couples, and people in multiple-partner relationships who no longer want to be limited by their reactive patterns, cultural conditioning, insecure attachment styles, and past traumas, helping them to embody new possibilities in life and love. Learn more at JessicaFern.com.
\n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory @readyforpolyamory on social media and at [readyforpolyamory.com ](www.readyforpolyamory.com). New podcast episodes will be up Thursdays all fall!
Special Guest: Jessica Fern.
","summary":"Laura speaks with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, PolyWise, paradigm shifts for folks making changes in non monogamous relationships, and restorative rather than punitive views of conflict.","date_published":"2023-08-24T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/34c494c3-f463-4ccb-b518-a2c65aa4add4.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":66731621,"duration_in_seconds":2768}]},{"id":"c9c56433-cc18-4664-9809-83eaea493417","title":"Season 6 Episode 11: Breakups vs De-escalations","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/breakups2","content_text":"\"The relationship they need to feel secure is not always the one you need to deescalate to the 'good parts' of your relationship with them.\"\n\n\"It can be really triggering to watch someone greive so outwardly about someone else and their relationship while you're still with them.\"\n\nLeanne Yau of PolyPhiliaBlog guests on this week's episode to discuss her recent breakup and breakups in general, and when they end up being necessary over de-escalations, with Laura. We talk about breakups when you're 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon or less from your former partners by staying in community, how these can be even more difficult than leaving a relationship, that people sometimes stay in relationships to \"prove the haters wrong,\" and more. The episode includes a section on \n\nRelated blog posts at the Ready for Polyamory Blog include: \n\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory \nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/guest-post-is-there-a-problem-with-hierarchy (on automatic promotion to primary)\nhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/laugh-cry-live/201809/how-respond-people-in-crisis-comfort-in-dump-out (Grief ring theory dump in comfort out)\n\nLeanne Yau, aka Poly Philia, is a polyamory educator and sex-positive influencer on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, Patreon, and YouTube. She creates and curates humorous and educational memes, tips, videos, and other bite-size content on non-monogamy, queer relationships, and sex positivity, and was named #1 in Cosmopolitan's '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok'.\n\nYou can find her on all social media as @polyphiliablog; and her patreon and shop at http://patreon.com/polyphiliablog; http://polyphiliashop.Redbubble.com. Special Guest: Leanne Yau.","content_html":""The relationship they need to feel secure is not always the one you need to deescalate to the 'good parts' of your relationship with them."
\n\n"It can be really triggering to watch someone greive so outwardly about someone else and their relationship while you're still with them."
\n\nLeanne Yau of PolyPhiliaBlog guests on this week's episode to discuss her recent breakup and breakups in general, and when they end up being necessary over de-escalations, with Laura. We talk about breakups when you're 6 degrees of Kevin Bacon or less from your former partners by staying in community, how these can be even more difficult than leaving a relationship, that people sometimes stay in relationships to "prove the haters wrong," and more. The episode includes a section on
\n\nRelated blog posts at the Ready for Polyamory Blog include:
\n\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breaking-up-is-hard-to-do
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/guest-post-is-there-a-problem-with-hierarchy (on automatic promotion to primary)
\nhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/laugh-cry-live/201809/how-respond-people-in-crisis-comfort-in-dump-out (Grief ring theory dump in comfort out)
Leanne Yau, aka Poly Philia, is a polyamory educator and sex-positive influencer on Instagram, TikTok, Facebook, Twitter, Patreon, and YouTube. She creates and curates humorous and educational memes, tips, videos, and other bite-size content on non-monogamy, queer relationships, and sex positivity, and was named #1 in Cosmopolitan's '10 Polyamory Experts to Follow on TikTok'.
\n\nYou can find her on all social media as @polyphiliablog; and her patreon and shop at http://patreon.com/polyphiliablog; http://polyphiliashop.Redbubble.com.
Special Guest: Leanne Yau.
","summary":"Laura and Leanne Yau sit down to discuss when a breakup is more necessary than a de-escalation or a de-escalation doesn't work in polyam relationships.","date_published":"2023-04-13T13:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c9c56433-cc18-4664-9809-83eaea493417.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":77899986,"duration_in_seconds":3245}]},{"id":"2c9a15bc-3df9-46c6-a2da-fa80e95e48a7","title":"Season 6 Episode 10: The Relationship Anarchy Book","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/rabook","content_text":"\"Start the revolution from your affections is an imperfect translation, but it's as close as we could get to the idea that we don't want freedom from our bonds, we want freedom made by our bonds\"\n\n\"Relationship Anarchy is essentially the everyday decision to make visible and question all of the presumptions that underlie all our relationships.\" \n\nIf you find discussions of Relationship Anarchy to be dismissive, surface level, or fail to explain what the political anarchist principles that are being applied to relationships ARE, this book may be for you. We discuss the idea that self-care is useless without community care, that the idea is to make all relationships more valuable, not romantic relationships less so, and other overarching themes. \n\nThe concept of the book, originally published in Spanish in 2020, is to clarify a more radical framework for sustainable interpersonal relationships based on communication and free conscientious commitment, based on alternatives to hegemonic monogamous patriarchal systems. It argues, among other points, that the difference between \"nonhierarchical polyamory\" and \"relationship anarchy\" is a willingness to engage in the political meaning of our relationship choices. \n\nGet the Relationship Anarchy book and more information here: https://relationshipanarchybook.com/\n\nAs always you can find the latest happenings for Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com ; on the ko-fi shop at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop there are newly uploaded class copies. ","content_html":""Start the revolution from your affections is an imperfect translation, but it's as close as we could get to the idea that we don't want freedom from our bonds, we want freedom made by our bonds"
\n\n"Relationship Anarchy is essentially the everyday decision to make visible and question all of the presumptions that underlie all our relationships."
\n\nIf you find discussions of Relationship Anarchy to be dismissive, surface level, or fail to explain what the political anarchist principles that are being applied to relationships ARE, this book may be for you. We discuss the idea that self-care is useless without community care, that the idea is to make all relationships more valuable, not romantic relationships less so, and other overarching themes.
\n\nThe concept of the book, originally published in Spanish in 2020, is to clarify a more radical framework for sustainable interpersonal relationships based on communication and free conscientious commitment, based on alternatives to hegemonic monogamous patriarchal systems. It argues, among other points, that the difference between "nonhierarchical polyamory" and "relationship anarchy" is a willingness to engage in the political meaning of our relationship choices.
\n\nGet the Relationship Anarchy book and more information here: https://relationshipanarchybook.com/
\n\nAs always you can find the latest happenings for Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com ; on the ko-fi shop at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop there are newly uploaded class copies.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Juan-Carlos Perez-Cortes, author of the book Relationship Anarchy, and Elisabeth Sheff, who wrote the forward to the English-language edition, to discuss some of the principles of relationship anarchy and ways in which it applies to everyday life.","date_published":"2023-04-06T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/2c9a15bc-3df9-46c6-a2da-fa80e95e48a7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":89562301,"duration_in_seconds":3731}]},{"id":"cdd50a93-9d02-4bec-b582-88a5485e2041","title":"Season 6 Episode 9: Abuse in Polyamory Part 3 Survivorship in Community","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/abuse3","content_text":"Content Warning: we discuss abusive relationships, and (without details) sexual assault and the process of reporting and discussing such incidents in community and with organizations that were around us at that time. Folks should use their discretion in deciding if this is an episode they can listen to and when they should do so. \n\n\"A lot of survivors get given the impression they can't be non-monogamous. That isn't necessarily true.\"\n\n\"Trauma-informed non-monogamy and non-monogamous spaces can be harder to find than we want them to be.\"\n\nSydney Rae Chin is a chef, pleasure curator, and sex worker. They nourish people through body, mind, and soul through curated pleasure centered experiences. \nSydney's work is informed by their ancestral roots in Guangdong/Hong Kong, non-monogamy practice, and experiences with survivorship (intimate partner and sexual violence). If you want to book Sydney's alter ego, head to eatwithlydialim.com to experience the more submissive and spicier side of their life. \n\nLinks: eatwithlydialim.com and sexysoupdumplings.com incoming soon \nhttps://msha.ke/sexysoupdumplings/\nhttps://onlyfans.com/smexysoupdumplings","content_html":"Content Warning: we discuss abusive relationships, and (without details) sexual assault and the process of reporting and discussing such incidents in community and with organizations that were around us at that time. Folks should use their discretion in deciding if this is an episode they can listen to and when they should do so.
\n\n"A lot of survivors get given the impression they can't be non-monogamous. That isn't necessarily true."
\n\n"Trauma-informed non-monogamy and non-monogamous spaces can be harder to find than we want them to be."
\n\nSydney Rae Chin is a chef, pleasure curator, and sex worker. They nourish people through body, mind, and soul through curated pleasure centered experiences.
\nSydney's work is informed by their ancestral roots in Guangdong/Hong Kong, non-monogamy practice, and experiences with survivorship (intimate partner and sexual violence). If you want to book Sydney's alter ego, head to eatwithlydialim.com to experience the more submissive and spicier side of their life.
Links: eatwithlydialim.com and sexysoupdumplings.com incoming soon
\nhttps://msha.ke/sexysoupdumplings/
\nhttps://onlyfans.com/smexysoupdumplings
"The definition I prefer to use is that abuse is a pattern of behavior with the design, intent, or consequence of making someone unable to leave a situation."
\n\n"We need to expand our conceptions of abuse because so many support systems are using methods of understanding that are heteronormative and based entirely on married people, much less mononormative."
\n\nCW: this episode speaks about patterns of behavior and harm that can comprise abusive relationships, and while it strives not to be explicit, it may be triggering for some survivors of abuse. Use your discretion for if or the timing of when you listen.
\n\nLaura speaks with Claire Travers of Poly Pages regarding abuse in polyamory, resources for folks who believe they may be in abusive relationships, and the most well known examples of abuse in polyam relationships.
\n\nClaire Travers runs events, a podcast, webcasts, and research hubs for Poly Pages, an academic-focused resource on polyamory, which you can find at www.polypages.org. You can also find her on instagram and tiktok @polypages.
\n\nPoly Pages is partnered with The Network La Red in the USA and Refuge in the UK to expand definitions and understandings of abuse outside of hetero-mononormative views. You can find The Network La Red at https://www.tnlr.org/en/ and they have a Zoom event "Coffee with The Network La Red" this sunday about the nuance in "the myth of mutual abuse" and some of the "flying monkey" and "DARVO" issues Claire and I discuss in this episode as well as the "no perfect victim" issues Alicia and I discussed in the previous one on March 26 at 10 am. You can find the registration link and more at their linktree here: https://linktr.ee/thenetworklared Refuge for those in the UK can be found here: https://refuge.org.uk/
","summary":"Laura speaks with Claire Travers of Poly Pages regarding Abuse in Polyamory, resources for folks who believe they may be in abusive relationships, and the most well known examples of abuse in polyam relationships. ","date_published":"2023-03-23T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/78544155-62e3-4720-b334-ef57e4333ddb.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":63027117,"duration_in_seconds":2625}]},{"id":"3a8c5fd0-9d88-46ba-ae10-7b028b133ae5","title":"Season 6 Episode 7: Abuse in Polyamory Part 1","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/abuse1","content_text":"Content Warning: throughout this episode, we speak frankly of forms of emotional, financial, and physical abuse. There is no particularly graphic content and the episode is \"safe for work\" in a traditional sense, but it may be triggering to some listeners and begins with a similar audio content warning. Listen at a time and in a place when you have the capacity to care for yourself, especially if you are a survivor of abuse. \n\n\"There are several conversations our community should be having about abuse but the first step should be to acknowledge it happens in polyamorous relationships.\"\n\n\"Mainstream polyamorous discourse is simply not trauma-informed and therefore is mostly ridiculous. It ignores people's reality and becomes a richer tool for abusers.\"\n\nIn this episode, Laura sits down with Alicia Bunyan-Sampson, of Polyamorous Black Girl, to discuss abuse in polyamorous relationships and the conversations the polyam community needs to be having around this challenging topic. They go over the ways the polyam community's wider conversation fails survivors by implying that polyamory is \"more enlightened\" than monogamy; the ways being a subculture can begin the work of isolating a victim for an abuser; the fact that there is no such thing as a \"perfect victim\" and that this complicates public perception of abuse; some conversations the community needs to have more often; and more. \n\nYou can find a listing of all Alicia's websites and social media at https://bio.site/polyamorousblackgirl, but she is frequently posting on instagram @polyamorousblackgirl on tiktok @polyamorousblkgrl and on twitter @polyamblackgirl.\n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com and the full links to all her social media and upcoming projects at linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory. Special Guest: Alicia Bunyan-Sampson .","content_html":"Content Warning: throughout this episode, we speak frankly of forms of emotional, financial, and physical abuse. There is no particularly graphic content and the episode is "safe for work" in a traditional sense, but it may be triggering to some listeners and begins with a similar audio content warning. Listen at a time and in a place when you have the capacity to care for yourself, especially if you are a survivor of abuse.
\n\n"There are several conversations our community should be having about abuse but the first step should be to acknowledge it happens in polyamorous relationships."
\n\n"Mainstream polyamorous discourse is simply not trauma-informed and therefore is mostly ridiculous. It ignores people's reality and becomes a richer tool for abusers."
\n\nIn this episode, Laura sits down with Alicia Bunyan-Sampson, of Polyamorous Black Girl, to discuss abuse in polyamorous relationships and the conversations the polyam community needs to be having around this challenging topic. They go over the ways the polyam community's wider conversation fails survivors by implying that polyamory is "more enlightened" than monogamy; the ways being a subculture can begin the work of isolating a victim for an abuser; the fact that there is no such thing as a "perfect victim" and that this complicates public perception of abuse; some conversations the community needs to have more often; and more.
\n\nYou can find a listing of all Alicia's websites and social media at https://bio.site/polyamorousblackgirl, but she is frequently posting on instagram @polyamorousblackgirl on tiktok @polyamorousblkgrl and on twitter @polyamblackgirl.
\n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com and the full links to all her social media and upcoming projects at linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guest: Alicia Bunyan-Sampson .
","summary":"Laura sits down with Alicia Bunyan-Sampson, of Polyamorous Black Girl, to discuss abuse in polyamorous relationships and the conversations the polyam community needs to be having around this challenging topic. ","date_published":"2023-03-16T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/3a8c5fd0-9d88-46ba-ae10-7b028b133ae5.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":68884607,"duration_in_seconds":2870}]},{"id":"6ef8fb45-9271-4f16-bda4-0a9acc4e5d75","title":"Season 6 Episode 6: Swinging and Polyamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/swinging","content_text":"Non-monogamy is a big umbrella! polyamory isn't the only thing that falls under it. Often, folks can be a little Holier-than-thou (polier-than-thou?) about their nonmonogamy, implying that polyamory is more evolved than other kinds of consensual non-monogamy or being decidedly sex-negative when they learn that folks entered their nonmonogamous journey from opening to swinging or being \"monogamish\" instead of polyamorous. So on today's episode we're going to talk about the kind of middle spaces that many folks actually continue to exist in (eg, polyam people with ongoing relationships who also have casual encounters or attend sex parties, or swingers who play with the same people for many years and become exceptionally close), as well as what these communities can learn from one another. \n\nOur guests today are Emma and Fin of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast, who interview hundreds of non-mono individuals to share the extremely broad variation in the realities of nonmonogamous folks' lives. They share their own story with us here. You can find their podcast on most podcast platforms and their site here: https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/\nhttps://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/community","content_html":"Non-monogamy is a big umbrella! polyamory isn't the only thing that falls under it. Often, folks can be a little Holier-than-thou (polier-than-thou?) about their nonmonogamy, implying that polyamory is more evolved than other kinds of consensual non-monogamy or being decidedly sex-negative when they learn that folks entered their nonmonogamous journey from opening to swinging or being "monogamish" instead of polyamorous. So on today's episode we're going to talk about the kind of middle spaces that many folks actually continue to exist in (eg, polyam people with ongoing relationships who also have casual encounters or attend sex parties, or swingers who play with the same people for many years and become exceptionally close), as well as what these communities can learn from one another.
\n\nOur guests today are Emma and Fin of the Normalizing Non-Monogamy podcast, who interview hundreds of non-mono individuals to share the extremely broad variation in the realities of nonmonogamous folks' lives. They share their own story with us here. You can find their podcast on most podcast platforms and their site here: https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/
\nhttps://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/community
"It's really just a matter of making sure people really see me, Ebony, and me includes non-binary identity as well as the experience of Black womanhood."
\n\n"It's been one thing to have issues in dating, but more than wrong pronouns or disrepect from partners, it's been metamours seeing me as a woman because of shared partners."
\n\nIn response to listener questions about non-binary experience in a polyamorous relationship landscape, Laura sits down with Ebony of Marjani Lane to gain first person perspective on this issue. Ebony shares their perspective on the ways being non-binary can narrow dating pool, how other privileges and marginalized identities intersect with nonbinary identity, and ways that the polyam community tricks itself into thinking it's more inclusive while not walking that talk.
\n\nYou can find Marjani Lane the account on Instagram @MarjaniLane as well as using the Direct Me page to find other social media, ways to tip Ebony, and a subscribe button to hear when they update.
\n\nIf you're interested in following Laura and readyforpolyamory, check out the website [readyforpolyamory.com](readyforpolyamory.com) or [her linktree ](linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory)to find all social media, the book, and peer support options.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Ebony of Marjani Lane to discuss their experiences as a non-binary person in the polyamorous community.","date_published":"2022-10-06T12:15:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/03d764a3-2774-4261-86eb-bf0342e19d58.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":90596750,"duration_in_seconds":3774}]},{"id":"b2d31810-4e44-4aac-b637-d1f9d66891f0","title":"Season 6 Episode 4: Hierarchy and Change","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/hierarchyandchange","content_text":"\"My relationship structure now is significantly less hierarchical than it was when my partner and I came back to polyamory with one another.\" \n\n\"Dangling possibilities for years is just so much worse than admitting 'this is a thing that I cannot offer.\"\n\nLaura and Amy discuss the practical applications of hierarchy - whether strictly applied or tacitly existing, and ways that it can be both positive and negative depending on treatment, in this week's episode. They also make some commentary on the most common issues they see brought up online in large polyam groups and the commonalities of those. \n\nAmy Norton is a sex writer who can be found talking about polyamory on Twitter @AmyisPolyam. ","content_html":""My relationship structure now is significantly less hierarchical than it was when my partner and I came back to polyamory with one another."
\n\n"Dangling possibilities for years is just so much worse than admitting 'this is a thing that I cannot offer."
\n\nLaura and Amy discuss the practical applications of hierarchy - whether strictly applied or tacitly existing, and ways that it can be both positive and negative depending on treatment, in this week's episode. They also make some commentary on the most common issues they see brought up online in large polyam groups and the commonalities of those.
\n\nAmy Norton is a sex writer who can be found talking about polyamory on Twitter @AmyisPolyam.
","summary":"Laura and Amy Norton sit down to discuss the ways changes in relationships affect agreements around hierarchy, their nonmonogamous lives, and Facebook polyam groups.","date_published":"2022-09-22T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/b2d31810-4e44-4aac-b637-d1f9d66891f0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":86281531,"duration_in_seconds":3594}]},{"id":"2878a875-b8d6-4c4a-b7fc-a52aa0b1f7cc","title":"Season 6 Episode 3: Polyamory on TV","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyamtv","content_text":"\"It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years.\"\n\n\"When I started my polyamory in media series there were like 2 movies and me digging for 30 year old comics and 60 year old books, and now there is so much available.\" \n\nLaura and Abbie sit down to talk about recent tv series portraying polyamory (and other nonmonogamy and how the two get conflated in media), as well as the proliferation of content referencing these shows in a positive way, and casual mentions of polyamory in \"non-polyam\" tv becoming more common. Listen to understand why they love Trigonometry, find You meh but fine, and enjoyed the Gossip Girl reboot, among other shows. \n\nWhen Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok (@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with direct action in her community. They have been polyamorous for 4 years and practices non-hierarchical Kitchen Table Polyamory.\n\nFollow Abbie @polyanarchy on tiktok to get their detailed takes on books, movies and tv featuring non-monogamy.\n\nAs always you, can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory; and her book on Amazon & Audible.Special Guest: Abbie K.","content_html":""It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years."
\n\n"When I started my polyamory in media series there were like 2 movies and me digging for 30 year old comics and 60 year old books, and now there is so much available."
\n\nLaura and Abbie sit down to talk about recent tv series portraying polyamory (and other nonmonogamy and how the two get conflated in media), as well as the proliferation of content referencing these shows in a positive way, and casual mentions of polyamory in "non-polyam" tv becoming more common. Listen to understand why they love Trigonometry, find You meh but fine, and enjoyed the Gossip Girl reboot, among other shows.
\n\nWhen Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok (@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with direct action in her community. They have been polyamorous for 4 years and practices non-hierarchical Kitchen Table Polyamory.
\n\nFollow Abbie @polyanarchy on tiktok to get their detailed takes on books, movies and tv featuring non-monogamy.
\n\nAs always you, can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory; and her book on Amazon & Audible.
Special Guest: Abbie K.
","summary":"Laura and Abbie (polyanarchy) discuss recent TV series portraying polyamory","date_published":"2022-08-18T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/2878a875-b8d6-4c4a-b7fc-a52aa0b1f7cc.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":86744839,"duration_in_seconds":3614}]},{"id":"4592cdd9-7725-41e9-8cb6-abc4d8cc5008","title":"Season 6 Episode 2: Asking for Wants and Needs","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/wantsandneeds","content_text":"“I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think it will- you have to move through discomfort anyway.”\n\n“If you can’t talk about a kind of sex or a relationship style with the people you want it with, you may not be ready to have it.”\n\nOn today's podcast, Laura sits down with Yana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, to discuss the comforts and complications of polyam relationship networks when it comes to communicating our needs and wants, especially regarding our sex lives. From communicating with partners and polycule members about STI status to changes in relationships, she's got lots of useful advice for the practicalities of having these conversations. They also discuss nonmonogamy while parenting and communicating bandwidth to new and potential partners. \n\nYana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, is a couples and relationships therapist and a consent, sex, and sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive and consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world. Connect with her socially on Instagram @the_vspot and professionally at [yanatallonhicks.com](yanatallonhicks.com). Order your copy of Hot and Unbothered (out August 16) at [yanatallonhicks.com/preorder](yanatallonhicks.com/preorder) or wherever you buy books.\n\nAs always you, can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory; and her book on Amazon & Audible.","content_html":"“I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think it will- you have to move through discomfort anyway.”
\n\n“If you can’t talk about a kind of sex or a relationship style with the people you want it with, you may not be ready to have it.”
\n\nOn today's podcast, Laura sits down with Yana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, to discuss the comforts and complications of polyam relationship networks when it comes to communicating our needs and wants, especially regarding our sex lives. From communicating with partners and polycule members about STI status to changes in relationships, she's got lots of useful advice for the practicalities of having these conversations. They also discuss nonmonogamy while parenting and communicating bandwidth to new and potential partners.
\n\nYana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, is a couples and relationships therapist and a consent, sex, and sexuality writer and educator living in Western Massachusetts. Her work centers around the belief that pleasure-positive and consent-based sex education can positively impact our lives and the world. Connect with her socially on Instagram @the_vspot and professionally at [yanatallonhicks.com](yanatallonhicks.com). Order your copy of Hot and Unbothered (out August 16) at [yanatallonhicks.com/preorder](yanatallonhicks.com/preorder) or wherever you buy books.
\n\nAs always you, can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory; and her book on Amazon & Audible.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Yana Tallon-Hicks to discuss asking for your wants and needs in & around your relationships and the ways being in polyamorous networks can complicate that. ","date_published":"2022-08-11T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/4592cdd9-7725-41e9-8cb6-abc4d8cc5008.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":77899986,"duration_in_seconds":3245}]},{"id":"deeee583-b781-429a-9818-19e4fa515bd1","title":"Season 6 Episode 1: High Standards and Low Expectations","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/standards","content_text":"\"We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict.\" \n\n\"To heck with the hyper independent BS - community and the autonomous individual existing together is where it's at.\"\n\nLaura and Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian chat about solopolyamorous dating, creating symbolism in your relationships, and the cocreation of expectations within a relationship. Learn about Mchelle's dating approach of \"High standards, low expectations,\" ideas about community focus and coregulation in relationships while maintaining autonomy, and the possible radical and anticapitalist applications of polyamory as a framework for relationships. \n\nYou can find Michelle at https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/ and on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian. The original \"High Standards, Low Expectations\" post can be found at https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/articles/high-standards-low-expectations\n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory. ","content_html":""We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict."
\n\n"To heck with the hyper independent BS - community and the autonomous individual existing together is where it's at."
\n\nLaura and Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian chat about solopolyamorous dating, creating symbolism in your relationships, and the cocreation of expectations within a relationship. Learn about Mchelle's dating approach of "High standards, low expectations," ideas about community focus and coregulation in relationships while maintaining autonomy, and the possible radical and anticapitalist applications of polyamory as a framework for relationships.
\n\nYou can find Michelle at https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/ and on Instagram @polyamorouswhileasian. The original "High Standards, Low Expectations" post can be found at https://polyamorouswhileasian.com/articles/high-standards-low-expectations
\n\nAs always you can find Laura and Ready for Polyamory at readyforpolyamory.com, on Instagram and Tiktok @readyforpolyamory, and on Twitter @ready4polyamory.
","summary":"Laura chats with Michelle Hy about the solopolyamorous dating experience, avoiding the feeling of stagnation, and what it means to date with what Michelle calls \"High Standards and Low Expectations.\"","date_published":"2022-08-04T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/deeee583-b781-429a-9818-19e4fa515bd1.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":61076209,"duration_in_seconds":2515}]},{"id":"29f0da3b-0f7c-47ab-8f38-b45dca7ab227","title":"Season 5 Episode 10: Polyamory and Parenting (Part 2)","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyamparenting2","content_text":"\"Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that serial monogamists imagine with polyamorous dating because we've built a lot of community.\"\n\n\"We were really anxious about coming out to the kids, and did, and asked if they had questions, and one of them, very in character for him, said 'Yes - can I have another hamburger?'\"\n\nIn today's episode, Laura sits down with her friends Jim Miles and Shanon Murray to talk about what it's like being the polyamorous parents of five kids between the ages of 2 and 19. They share the story of coming out to their 4 older children, what various family reception of this information was like, and advice for other polyamorous parents of tweens and teens in talking about nonmonogamous relationships with their kids. \n\nJim is an engineer with a large media company; Shanon is a parenting coach with professional training in art therapy and marriage and family therapy; they live in Southern CT with their 5 children and maintain an extended polycule of partners and chosen family locally. \n\nShanon Murray is a parenting coach in Stratford CT, helping families reach their full potential utilizing art along with other techniques and strategies. She is a nationally certified art therapist, and holds a certification as an early childhood educator in Montessori education. She is accepting new clients, and is happy to work with families virtually or in person. She can be reached by phone: 914-388-7343 email shanon.murray@yahoo.com\nOr though her Facebook page:\n\nhttps://m.facebook.com/329129277228489/\n\nYou can find some of Laura's Polyamorous Parenting FAQs on the blog here.\n\nAs always, the podcast's music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com. \n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book on Amazon in kindle and paperback here; the audiobook can be found here; links to first appointments for peer support with Laura here; and we'll be back at the end of the summer with Season 6. ","content_html":""Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that serial monogamists imagine with polyamorous dating because we've built a lot of community."
\n\n"We were really anxious about coming out to the kids, and did, and asked if they had questions, and one of them, very in character for him, said 'Yes - can I have another hamburger?'"
\n\nIn today's episode, Laura sits down with her friends Jim Miles and Shanon Murray to talk about what it's like being the polyamorous parents of five kids between the ages of 2 and 19. They share the story of coming out to their 4 older children, what various family reception of this information was like, and advice for other polyamorous parents of tweens and teens in talking about nonmonogamous relationships with their kids.
\n\nJim is an engineer with a large media company; Shanon is a parenting coach with professional training in art therapy and marriage and family therapy; they live in Southern CT with their 5 children and maintain an extended polycule of partners and chosen family locally.
\n\nShanon Murray is a parenting coach in Stratford CT, helping families reach their full potential utilizing art along with other techniques and strategies. She is a nationally certified art therapist, and holds a certification as an early childhood educator in Montessori education. She is accepting new clients, and is happy to work with families virtually or in person. She can be reached by phone: 914-388-7343 email shanon.murray@yahoo.com
\nOr though her Facebook page:
https://m.facebook.com/329129277228489/
\n\nYou can find some of Laura's Polyamorous Parenting FAQs on the blog here.
\n\nAs always, the podcast's music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com.
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book on Amazon in kindle and paperback here; the audiobook can be found here; links to first appointments for peer support with Laura here; and we'll be back at the end of the summer with Season 6.
","summary":"The promised sequel to episode 1 of the season, Laura sits down with the nonmonogamous parents of 4 teens and a toddler to talk about the various concerns of polyam parenting through older stages of childhood.","date_published":"2022-06-09T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/29f0da3b-0f7c-47ab-8f38-b45dca7ab227.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":73987437,"duration_in_seconds":3053}]},{"id":"1851db98-70a8-4b4e-b6eb-908fa0a42f27","title":"Season 5 Episode 9: Compersion & Jealousy","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/compandjeal","content_text":"\"Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once.\"\n\n\"We shouldn't beat ourselves up if we don't feel compersion the first day, just like we don't beat up our gardens for not sprouting the day we first plant and water the seeds.\" \n\nLaura and Dr. Liz Powell talk about how to interpret your jealousy, use it as information to keep yourself moving toward your values even when it's hard, and to see compersion as a non-required but aquirable skill that you can work on if you want to. \n\nPolyamorous references often make jealousy into a sort of boogeyman spectre and compersion into its antidote, and neither of these things are true - pretty much at all. Emotions are a lot messier than the idea of putting them on opposing spectrums makes it sound, and relationships are a lot more fluid than blaming all problems on \"you're just jealous\" and all solutions on \"being more compersive\" could ever cover. So join us for today's podcast episode for a discussion of some of the why and some of the how of both parts of this issue. \n\nReady For Polyamory links that touch on Jealousy and Compersion:\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/hard-won-compersion\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/podcast-episode-5-compersion\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/compersion-is-not-mandatory\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/emotional-ergonomics-boundaries-and-self-compassion\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-insecurity-and-nesting\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/season-3-episode-9-practical-solutions-for-jealousy-and-fomo\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-and-hierarchy\n\nLink to Dr. Liz's compersion slides and worksheets that they were kind enough to make available: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/15wgY-uA33jwiHXZ80y7tfYXQKRiIEOLK\n\nDr. Liz is a sex educator, therapist, speaker, and author who works with singles, couples, and polycules across the sexual spectra to improve their lives - including the sexual portions of them. They work with anyone who wants to cultivate healthy, consent-driven, and autonomy-focused relationships, although non-monogamists, non-binary folx, kinksters, and queerdos are a special focus. You can learn more about their therapy practice (licensed in CA and OR) and coaching at their site, become a backer of their Patreon for early access and exclusive content at their Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/drliz, buy their book \"Building Open Relationships\" here or follow their social media for more information on their future work. The Indiegogo for the audiobook version of their book Building Open Relationships is running now, check it out: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/building-open-relationships-audiobook#/\n\nAs always the Ready for Polyamory blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; you can find Laura at Twitter @lauracb88 and IG and TikTok @readyforpolyamory; the Ready for Polyamory facebook group at facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, links to peer support sessions with Laura here, and the Ready for Polyamory Audiobook here, as well as paperback and Kindle on Amazon. Special Guest: Dr. Liz Powell.","content_html":""Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once."
\n\n"We shouldn't beat ourselves up if we don't feel compersion the first day, just like we don't beat up our gardens for not sprouting the day we first plant and water the seeds."
\n\nLaura and Dr. Liz Powell talk about how to interpret your jealousy, use it as information to keep yourself moving toward your values even when it's hard, and to see compersion as a non-required but aquirable skill that you can work on if you want to.
\n\nPolyamorous references often make jealousy into a sort of boogeyman spectre and compersion into its antidote, and neither of these things are true - pretty much at all. Emotions are a lot messier than the idea of putting them on opposing spectrums makes it sound, and relationships are a lot more fluid than blaming all problems on "you're just jealous" and all solutions on "being more compersive" could ever cover. So join us for today's podcast episode for a discussion of some of the why and some of the how of both parts of this issue.
\n\nReady For Polyamory links that touch on Jealousy and Compersion:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/hard-won-compersion
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/podcast-episode-5-compersion
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/compersion-is-not-mandatory
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/emotional-ergonomics-boundaries-and-self-compassion
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-insecurity-and-nesting
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/season-3-episode-9-practical-solutions-for-jealousy-and-fomo
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-and-hierarchy
Link to Dr. Liz's compersion slides and worksheets that they were kind enough to make available: https://drive.google.com/drive/folders/15wgY-uA33jwiHXZ80y7tfYXQKRiIEOLK
\n\nDr. Liz is a sex educator, therapist, speaker, and author who works with singles, couples, and polycules across the sexual spectra to improve their lives - including the sexual portions of them. They work with anyone who wants to cultivate healthy, consent-driven, and autonomy-focused relationships, although non-monogamists, non-binary folx, kinksters, and queerdos are a special focus. You can learn more about their therapy practice (licensed in CA and OR) and coaching at their site, become a backer of their Patreon for early access and exclusive content at their Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/drliz, buy their book "Building Open Relationships" here or follow their social media for more information on their future work. The Indiegogo for the audiobook version of their book Building Open Relationships is running now, check it out: https://www.indiegogo.com/projects/building-open-relationships-audiobook#/
\n\nAs always the Ready for Polyamory blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; you can find Laura at Twitter @lauracb88 and IG and TikTok @readyforpolyamory; the Ready for Polyamory facebook group at facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, links to peer support sessions with Laura here, and the Ready for Polyamory Audiobook here, as well as paperback and Kindle on Amazon.
Special Guest: Dr. Liz Powell.
","summary":"Laura and Dr. Liz Powell talk about how to interpret your jealousy, use it as information to keep yourself moving toward your values even when it's hard, and to see compersion as a non-required but aquirable skill that you can work on if you want to. ","date_published":"2022-06-02T12:15:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/1851db98-70a8-4b4e-b6eb-908fa0a42f27.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":70838148,"duration_in_seconds":2951}]},{"id":"019e194d-0056-48f2-8e7b-d71415e19fe7","title":"Season 5 Episode 8: De-escalations","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/deescalation","content_text":"\"I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe instead. It's more accurate.\"\n\n\"De-escalating literally implies stepping down, a level lower, that something is less or worse, but often what is happening is a re-calibration so that relationships suit the needs of the people rather than preferencing a label over the humans using it.\"\n\nMany polyamorous and other nonmonogamous people (as well as some monogamous folks, especially separating coparents) are beginning to refer to major relationship changes or ends as de-escalations, regardless of the kind or intensity or direction of the change in the relationship. Laura and Roy of Open Relating talk about the mononormative implications of \"break up\" that seem to be driving this within the polyam community, and about alternative frameworks that don't give so much preference to relationships that are consistently romantic and sexual over long periods of time - because change is the only certainty in long term relating. \n\nThe RfP blog on deescalation: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/why-de-escalation\n\nRoy Graff is a relationship coach and trainee psychotherapist based in London, who works with individuals, dyads, and polycules of various configurations and relationship styles. You can find Roy at [openrelating.love](openrelating.love) and see his upcoming in person and digital events; he runs a digital support session and London, UK based in person events. His Instagram and Twitter are @openrelating\n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; Laura at Twitter @lauracb88 and IG and TikTok @readyforpolyamory; the Ready for Polyamory facebook group at facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, links to peer support sessions with Laura here, and the Ready for Polyamory Audiobook here, as well as paperback and Kindle on Amazon. ","content_html":""I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe instead. It's more accurate."
\n\n"De-escalating literally implies stepping down, a level lower, that something is less or worse, but often what is happening is a re-calibration so that relationships suit the needs of the people rather than preferencing a label over the humans using it."
\n\nMany polyamorous and other nonmonogamous people (as well as some monogamous folks, especially separating coparents) are beginning to refer to major relationship changes or ends as de-escalations, regardless of the kind or intensity or direction of the change in the relationship. Laura and Roy of Open Relating talk about the mononormative implications of "break up" that seem to be driving this within the polyam community, and about alternative frameworks that don't give so much preference to relationships that are consistently romantic and sexual over long periods of time - because change is the only certainty in long term relating.
\n\nThe RfP blog on deescalation: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/why-de-escalation
\n\nRoy Graff is a relationship coach and trainee psychotherapist based in London, who works with individuals, dyads, and polycules of various configurations and relationship styles. You can find Roy at [openrelating.love](openrelating.love) and see his upcoming in person and digital events; he runs a digital support session and London, UK based in person events. His Instagram and Twitter are @openrelating
\n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; Laura at Twitter @lauracb88 and IG and TikTok @readyforpolyamory; the Ready for Polyamory facebook group at facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, links to peer support sessions with Laura here, and the Ready for Polyamory Audiobook here, as well as paperback and Kindle on Amazon.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Roy Graff of Open Relating to talk about de-escalation, why it's a popular mode of relationship change in the nonmonogamous community, and what other ways folks can talk about their relationships changing and ending.","date_published":"2022-05-26T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/019e194d-0056-48f2-8e7b-d71415e19fe7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":72692633,"duration_in_seconds":3028}]},{"id":"c51b30af-eb7f-4886-918d-e85c1cb06cc9","title":"Season 5 Episode 7: Polyamorous Pride","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyampride","content_text":"\"The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither.\" \n\n\"If you say polyamory or kink or leather can't be at pride 'for the kids,' then it's your choice where to bring them, not our responsibility to celebrate differently for your comfort.\"\n\nIn today's episode, Laura talks to Kristian of Polyamproud, the not-for-profit tryign to update polyamory's pride flag, about the polyam flag, pride parades, the purpose of pride, history behind different Pride events, and why any of this is important in the first place. We also have a pleasant little vent about people trying to gatekeep who can attend Pride events and how and why, and there is a bit more foul language than usual on my (Laura's) part in that bit, because as those of you who follow my Twitter (lauracb88) know, I really can't stand the \"every Pride event must be appropriate for my five year old and my banker\" crowd. \n\nEssentially, we're here, many of us are queer, and we'd like a better flag, please, and today we talk about why. I hope you enjoy the ride. There's a lot of good background info on this at polyamproud's site listed below, and at their [linktree here](linktr.ee/polyamproud).\n\nPolyamproud is a volunteer-operated not-for-profit organization aimed at updating polyamory’s pride flag. Focusing on representation, inclusivity, and transparency, polyamproud is dedicated to ensuring as many polyamorous and non-monogamous people as possible have their voice heard in the democratic selection of an all-new pride flag. You can find them at [polyamproud.com](polyamproud.com) or @polyamproud on Instagram and Twitter.\n\nIn Ready for Polyamory news, the AUDIOBOOK IS HERE!! I'm excited about it and I know podcast listeners are a big chunk of who asked me about when it would be available in audio, so I'm glad to say, now! As always, you can visit the blog for weekly new posts or our archive of 250+ articles on polyamory at www.readyforpolyamory.com, and follow @readyforpolyamory on Instagram and Tiktok, as well as following the facebook page or joining the [Group](www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory). \n\nPeer support sessions are available, to book a single session to meet and see if we're a good fit use the link at my linktree or here or if you know you'd like to work with me longer term, send an inquiry to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com and we'll discuss a plan that meets your needs. ","content_html":""The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither."
\n\n"If you say polyamory or kink or leather can't be at pride 'for the kids,' then it's your choice where to bring them, not our responsibility to celebrate differently for your comfort."
\n\nIn today's episode, Laura talks to Kristian of Polyamproud, the not-for-profit tryign to update polyamory's pride flag, about the polyam flag, pride parades, the purpose of pride, history behind different Pride events, and why any of this is important in the first place. We also have a pleasant little vent about people trying to gatekeep who can attend Pride events and how and why, and there is a bit more foul language than usual on my (Laura's) part in that bit, because as those of you who follow my Twitter (lauracb88) know, I really can't stand the "every Pride event must be appropriate for my five year old and my banker" crowd.
\n\nEssentially, we're here, many of us are queer, and we'd like a better flag, please, and today we talk about why. I hope you enjoy the ride. There's a lot of good background info on this at polyamproud's site listed below, and at their [linktree here](linktr.ee/polyamproud).
\n\nPolyamproud is a volunteer-operated not-for-profit organization aimed at updating polyamory’s pride flag. Focusing on representation, inclusivity, and transparency, polyamproud is dedicated to ensuring as many polyamorous and non-monogamous people as possible have their voice heard in the democratic selection of an all-new pride flag. You can find them at [polyamproud.com](polyamproud.com) or @polyamproud on Instagram and Twitter.
\n\nIn Ready for Polyamory news, the AUDIOBOOK IS HERE!! I'm excited about it and I know podcast listeners are a big chunk of who asked me about when it would be available in audio, so I'm glad to say, now! As always, you can visit the blog for weekly new posts or our archive of 250+ articles on polyamory at www.readyforpolyamory.com, and follow @readyforpolyamory on Instagram and Tiktok, as well as following the facebook page or joining the [Group](www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory).
\n\nPeer support sessions are available, to book a single session to meet and see if we're a good fit use the link at my linktree or here or if you know you'd like to work with me longer term, send an inquiry to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com and we'll discuss a plan that meets your needs.
","summary":"What's the deal with the Polyamorous flag? is there Discourse about polyam folks at Pride? About the kinksters being there again? Laura and Kristian of PolyamProud discuss all this and more","date_published":"2022-05-19T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c51b30af-eb7f-4886-918d-e85c1cb06cc9.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":68483993,"duration_in_seconds":2853}]},{"id":"4a7f5c16-d66a-4a92-a820-43921a7ffdff","title":"Season 5 Episode 6: Solo Polyamorous Living","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/solopoly","content_text":"\"Solopolyamory flies in the face of this idea that if you love someone you'll want to be with them 24/7. It's just not true. We're here in defiance of it.\"\n\n\"it's about this extreme representation of maintaining your personhood within relationships and re-inforcing that with your lifestyle choices.\"\n\nToday, the podcast discusses solo polyamory - what is it? How do solopolyam people live? What are some of the equivalent changes and balances in a space to accomodate partners that solopolyam partners can make, like the accomodation of partners discussed in our polyam cohabitation episode from Season 4, which ended up being unnecessarily couple-centric. \n\nWith details like logistics of Ro's space as an example of how to lay out your boundaries for partners who come to your space, roommates and shared spaces, and answering listener questions that followed off of the cohabitation episode, this episode disambiguated solopolyamorous living for listeners who don't practice their polyamory this way.\n\nRo Moëd is a relationship coach and passionate advocate for polyamory and relationship anarchy awareness. On their instagram (@unapolygetically) they use their background in adult education and linguistics to blend text, video and illustration, in order to cover various topics including conscious relating, solo polyamory, the language we use about relationships, and common issues in non-monogamy. You can also find them on Twitter @unapolygetic and find their coaching calendar at calendly.com/romoed.\n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the book at Amazon, Laura on Instagram and TikTok @readyforpolyamory and Twitter @lauracb88. The audiobook has just released and you can find it at audible .","content_html":""Solopolyamory flies in the face of this idea that if you love someone you'll want to be with them 24/7. It's just not true. We're here in defiance of it."
\n\n"it's about this extreme representation of maintaining your personhood within relationships and re-inforcing that with your lifestyle choices."
\n\nToday, the podcast discusses solo polyamory - what is it? How do solopolyam people live? What are some of the equivalent changes and balances in a space to accomodate partners that solopolyam partners can make, like the accomodation of partners discussed in our polyam cohabitation episode from Season 4, which ended up being unnecessarily couple-centric.
\n\nWith details like logistics of Ro's space as an example of how to lay out your boundaries for partners who come to your space, roommates and shared spaces, and answering listener questions that followed off of the cohabitation episode, this episode disambiguated solopolyamorous living for listeners who don't practice their polyamory this way.
\n\nRo Moëd is a relationship coach and passionate advocate for polyamory and relationship anarchy awareness. On their instagram (@unapolygetically) they use their background in adult education and linguistics to blend text, video and illustration, in order to cover various topics including conscious relating, solo polyamory, the language we use about relationships, and common issues in non-monogamy. You can also find them on Twitter @unapolygetic and find their coaching calendar at calendly.com/romoed.
\n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the book at Amazon, Laura on Instagram and TikTok @readyforpolyamory and Twitter @lauracb88. The audiobook has just released and you can find it at audible .
","summary":"Ro Moed sits down with Laura to discuss solo polyamory and the concerns around relationship and living arrangements that are unique to those who practice this style of relating.","date_published":"2022-05-12T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/4a7f5c16-d66a-4a92-a820-43921a7ffdff.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":69018771,"duration_in_seconds":2875}]},{"id":"b1001e81-811a-4227-84dd-2b705b7e9a33","title":"Season 5 Episode 5: Mono Plus Polyam Relationships","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/monopluspoly","content_text":"\"In this structure now, I have been able to figure out who I am and what I want. That isn't to say I haven't gone on dates - I've tried it - but my polysaturation point really is 1, and this way I have time for myself.\"\n\n\"A lot of the time, people don't know what they will want yet - and they say and ask for what makes them feel safe. So it can make sense to not want to date a monogamous person if you're polyam. But also, give each other a chance to see how it works out if the connection is real and you have the emotional space to do it, when this is someone you really like. Because maybe they'll break your heart or you'll break theirs. But maybe you won't.\"\n\nOn today's podcast episode, we discuss one of the most contentious segments of the polyamorous community: the Mono + Polyam relationship, where one partner truly feels monogamously oriented but is happy to engage with their polyam partner, who sees others. Phi of the Polyammering Blog and Monocorn Sanctuary facebook group is our guest today, talking about her essential beliefs that mono + polyam relationships work best when everyone approaches them from a relationship anarchist lens, when the monog person is essentially polyamorously-minded but polysaturated at one, and when communication is extremely open between partners. \n\nWith a hint of \"dating isn't fun, but polycules can be!\" and a discussion of how polyamory freed her from codependent patterns in previous relationships where she lost herself in couplehood, Phi shares a lot of intimate relationship history about her last several years in mono + polyam relationships.\n\nPhoebe \"Phi\" Philips of polyammering.blog is a self-proclaimed Monocorn who has been writing, supporting, and educating on begalf of mono plus polyam relationships since 2015. She was recently named one of the top ten creators to follow on TikTok for polyamorous education.Special Guest: Pheobe \"Phi\" Phillips.","content_html":""In this structure now, I have been able to figure out who I am and what I want. That isn't to say I haven't gone on dates - I've tried it - but my polysaturation point really is 1, and this way I have time for myself."
\n\n"A lot of the time, people don't know what they will want yet - and they say and ask for what makes them feel safe. So it can make sense to not want to date a monogamous person if you're polyam. But also, give each other a chance to see how it works out if the connection is real and you have the emotional space to do it, when this is someone you really like. Because maybe they'll break your heart or you'll break theirs. But maybe you won't."
\n\nOn today's podcast episode, we discuss one of the most contentious segments of the polyamorous community: the Mono + Polyam relationship, where one partner truly feels monogamously oriented but is happy to engage with their polyam partner, who sees others. Phi of the Polyammering Blog and Monocorn Sanctuary facebook group is our guest today, talking about her essential beliefs that mono + polyam relationships work best when everyone approaches them from a relationship anarchist lens, when the monog person is essentially polyamorously-minded but polysaturated at one, and when communication is extremely open between partners.
\n\nWith a hint of "dating isn't fun, but polycules can be!" and a discussion of how polyamory freed her from codependent patterns in previous relationships where she lost herself in couplehood, Phi shares a lot of intimate relationship history about her last several years in mono + polyam relationships.
\n\nPhoebe "Phi" Philips of polyammering.blog is a self-proclaimed Monocorn who has been writing, supporting, and educating on begalf of mono plus polyam relationships since 2015. She was recently named one of the top ten creators to follow on TikTok for polyamorous education.
Special Guest: Pheobe "Phi" Phillips.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Phi from Polyammering to talk about being a monocorn, the pitfalls and benefits of mono plus polyam relationships and where monog partners of polyam people can turn for support.","date_published":"2022-05-05T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/b1001e81-811a-4227-84dd-2b705b7e9a33.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":74903846,"duration_in_seconds":3120}]},{"id":"b2773ac1-e426-471e-ba56-de539f9c5767","title":"Season 5 Episode 4: Polyamory and Kink","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/kinkwannie","content_text":"Today's episode contains frank discussion of sexuality and kink dynamics, listener be aware. \n\n\"I feel like no one really talks about the ins and outs of intimacy that involves marks and BDSM dynamics, and it's worth talking about.\"\n\nLaura sits down with Annie Undone to talk about kink dynamics, polyamory from both sides of the slash, the pros and cons of kitchen table and parallel polyam dynamics when combined with kinky relationships, and the changes that shifts in these dynamics can cause within a polycule. \n\nTo read more of Laura's takes on kink & polyamory and deescalating relationships, see these blog posts and past podcast episodes:\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/combining-d-s-relationships-and-polyamory\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/why-de-escalation\n\nhttps://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/powerexchange\nhttps://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/raapplied\n\nAnnieUndone is a writer and artist seeking to normalize diverse sexual and love experiences because people deserve to be themselves. She speaks on the topics of polyamory, kink, and queerness. She began this work in earnest as a way to feel more enfranchised around the theme of kink, and then quickly realized that she was also polyamorous. She, her husband, and their partners are sharing their journeys of opening relationships and learning to let in more love so that people feel less alone in their humanity and desires to live outside the box. Follow her on Instagram at @Annie_Undone or join her Patreon here for more content only available to subscribers. \n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book is available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle formats, and we'd love to have you with us on social media - there's the facebook [page](www.facebook.com/readyforpolyamory) and group www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory; or Laura is on tiktok and instagram @readyforpolyamory and Twitter @lauracb88. You can help keep the blog and podcast ad-free by becoming a $3/month ko-fi supporter at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and find details about upcoming classes and 1-1 peer support [here](www.readyforpolyamory.com/events).Special Guest: Annie Undone.","content_html":"Today's episode contains frank discussion of sexuality and kink dynamics, listener be aware.
\n\n"I feel like no one really talks about the ins and outs of intimacy that involves marks and BDSM dynamics, and it's worth talking about."
\n\nLaura sits down with Annie Undone to talk about kink dynamics, polyamory from both sides of the slash, the pros and cons of kitchen table and parallel polyam dynamics when combined with kinky relationships, and the changes that shifts in these dynamics can cause within a polycule.
\n\nTo read more of Laura's takes on kink & polyamory and deescalating relationships, see these blog posts and past podcast episodes:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/combining-d-s-relationships-and-polyamory
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/why-de-escalation
https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/powerexchange
\nhttps://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/raapplied
AnnieUndone is a writer and artist seeking to normalize diverse sexual and love experiences because people deserve to be themselves. She speaks on the topics of polyamory, kink, and queerness. She began this work in earnest as a way to feel more enfranchised around the theme of kink, and then quickly realized that she was also polyamorous. She, her husband, and their partners are sharing their journeys of opening relationships and learning to let in more love so that people feel less alone in their humanity and desires to live outside the box. Follow her on Instagram at @Annie_Undone or join her Patreon here for more content only available to subscribers.
\n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book is available on Amazon in paperback and Kindle formats, and we'd love to have you with us on social media - there's the facebook [page](www.facebook.com/readyforpolyamory) and group www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory; or Laura is on tiktok and instagram @readyforpolyamory and Twitter @lauracb88. You can help keep the blog and podcast ad-free by becoming a $3/month ko-fi supporter at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and find details about upcoming classes and 1-1 peer support [here](www.readyforpolyamory.com/events).
Special Guest: Annie Undone.
","summary":"Laura and AnnieUndone talk about the intersection of kink dynamics and polyam relationships and the ways shifts in these dynamics can affect one another.","date_published":"2022-04-28T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/b2773ac1-e426-471e-ba56-de539f9c5767.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":97516274,"duration_in_seconds":4063}]},{"id":"38161390-48e2-40f6-8b10-30a419b40914","title":"Season 5 Episode 3: Change and Balance in your CNM Ecosystem","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/ecoamory","content_text":"\"Nothing I do ever goes viral, but one of my posts that did pretty well recently said 'I want my polyamory to be less about compersion and more about compassion,' and I think that applies here.\"\n\nThe only certainty in any relationship is that there will absolutely be change. Laura's guests this week are polyamorous event coordinators and educators who recognize that from their own experience as well as seeing it in the community they've built online. She sits down with Lea and Shai of Leveled Up Love to talk about changing polycule structures and relationship rules to focus on the needs and growth of the people involved, rather than trying to make people fit a pre-determined structure, and the ways that we can destigmatize this process of change for ourselves to make relationships a space where we the people in them thrive, rather than a task we carry out. \n\nIf you want to know more about Shai and Lea after this episode, see their guest page at the podcast site for more details, or visit [Leveled Up Love](www.leveleduplove.com), where they are offering a free 30 Day Trial of their Secure Poly Collective at: www.LeveledUpLove.com/VIP, which includes multiple workshops to support more conscious and sustainable open relationships. \n\nIn Ready for Polyamory Housekeeping, there's still time to [get tickets](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop) to the Polyamory and Parenting class on April 23 (with encore q&a after recording available all week on April 30). As always you can find the blog at [readyforpolyamory.com](www.readyforpolyamory.com), the book at Amazon, and me on Tiktok and Instagram @readyforpolyamory and twitter @lauracb88. Special Guest: Shai and Lea.","content_html":""Nothing I do ever goes viral, but one of my posts that did pretty well recently said 'I want my polyamory to be less about compersion and more about compassion,' and I think that applies here."
\n\nThe only certainty in any relationship is that there will absolutely be change. Laura's guests this week are polyamorous event coordinators and educators who recognize that from their own experience as well as seeing it in the community they've built online. She sits down with Lea and Shai of Leveled Up Love to talk about changing polycule structures and relationship rules to focus on the needs and growth of the people involved, rather than trying to make people fit a pre-determined structure, and the ways that we can destigmatize this process of change for ourselves to make relationships a space where we the people in them thrive, rather than a task we carry out.
\n\nIf you want to know more about Shai and Lea after this episode, see their guest page at the podcast site for more details, or visit [Leveled Up Love](www.leveleduplove.com), where they are offering a free 30 Day Trial of their Secure Poly Collective at: www.LeveledUpLove.com/VIP, which includes multiple workshops to support more conscious and sustainable open relationships.
\n\nIn Ready for Polyamory Housekeeping, there's still time to [get tickets](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop) to the Polyamory and Parenting class on April 23 (with encore q&a after recording available all week on April 30). As always you can find the blog at [readyforpolyamory.com](www.readyforpolyamory.com), the book at Amazon, and me on Tiktok and Instagram @readyforpolyamory and twitter @lauracb88.
Special Guest: Shai and Lea.
","summary":"Laura sits down with Shai and Lea of Leveled Up Love to discuss how changes in relationship structure are common throughout folks' polyamorous journeys and destigmatizing that can be important to helping people find comfortable balance in their relationships.","date_published":"2022-04-21T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/38161390-48e2-40f6-8b10-30a419b40914.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":61076356,"duration_in_seconds":2515}]},{"id":"ce728e0d-263b-40a8-87e1-bde5e8d25122","title":"Season 5 Episode 2: Polyamory Advice Is Relationship Advice","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/forthemonogs","content_text":"\"I'm relationship style agnostic - I don't think there's one right way to do relationships, but gosh are there a lot of really crappy ways to do relationships.\"\n\nOn today's episode, Laura and Dr. Joli Hamilton, a certified sex educator and jealousy researcher whose writing focuses on couples for whom nonmonogamy works for some phases of their lives but not all phases, discuss what lessons nonmonogamy can teach people who decide to intentionally pursue monogamy instead. This is the episode you can share with your sister, cousin, or monogamous friend who wants to \"get it\" but isn't sure they do - it's about how the personal growth and lessons of being nonmonogamous (forever or temporarily) can improve our interpersonal connections with friends as well as a partner. \n\nThey chat about communication, gender roles and scheduling, discovering how many cultural scripts you've bought into, trauma and co-regulation, and the joys and challenges of building poorly defined and unlabeled relationships with non-romantic partners. \n\nFind Dr. Joli Hamilton at drjoli_hamilton on Instagram or listentojoli.com, or read more about her on the guest page on the podcast's website. \n\nComing up later in April, join Laura for a class on Polyamory and Parenting running live on April 23 at 3 pm Eastern, or with a second live q&a on April 30 at 11:30 pm Eastern following a week of the class recording being available to purchasers; tickets are available at https://ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop. As always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory; Laura on tiktok and instagram @readyforpolyamory or Twitter @lauracb88. Special Guest: Dr. Joli Hamilton.","content_html":""I'm relationship style agnostic - I don't think there's one right way to do relationships, but gosh are there a lot of really crappy ways to do relationships."
\n\nOn today's episode, Laura and Dr. Joli Hamilton, a certified sex educator and jealousy researcher whose writing focuses on couples for whom nonmonogamy works for some phases of their lives but not all phases, discuss what lessons nonmonogamy can teach people who decide to intentionally pursue monogamy instead. This is the episode you can share with your sister, cousin, or monogamous friend who wants to "get it" but isn't sure they do - it's about how the personal growth and lessons of being nonmonogamous (forever or temporarily) can improve our interpersonal connections with friends as well as a partner.
\n\nThey chat about communication, gender roles and scheduling, discovering how many cultural scripts you've bought into, trauma and co-regulation, and the joys and challenges of building poorly defined and unlabeled relationships with non-romantic partners.
\n\nFind Dr. Joli Hamilton at drjoli_hamilton on Instagram or listentojoli.com, or read more about her on the guest page on the podcast's website.
\n\nComing up later in April, join Laura for a class on Polyamory and Parenting running live on April 23 at 3 pm Eastern, or with a second live q&a on April 30 at 11:30 pm Eastern following a week of the class recording being available to purchasers; tickets are available at https://ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop. As always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the facebook group at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory; Laura on tiktok and instagram @readyforpolyamory or Twitter @lauracb88.
Special Guest: Dr. Joli Hamilton.
","summary":"Dr. Joli Hamilton joins Laura to discuss the ways that polyamorous philosophy and nonmonogamous dating advice and experience can apply even in a monogamous context, and can be used to enrich the intentional choice to engage monogamously.","date_published":"2022-04-14T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/ce728e0d-263b-40a8-87e1-bde5e8d25122.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":86398993,"duration_in_seconds":3571}]},{"id":"0375a1b8-3709-4408-9555-14dcf424aecd","title":"Season 5 Episode 1: Polyamory & Parenting (Part 1)","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyamparenting","content_text":"\"You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long time - because making space for your non-parent identity is important.\" \n\n\"Why would we stop doing the things that make us happy and make us better as humans if we're trying to raise good people, a task that means we need to show up as our best selves?\"\n\nTo open season 5 of the podcast, Laura and Jessica Levity Daylover of Remodeled Love sit down to talk about being polyamorous parents of young children - the benefits of having multiple partners to help with these phases, the realities of occasional judgement from the monogamous folks in our lives, difficulties of scheduling and Jes's Time-banking system with her husband, some of Laura's experiences being out to school, doctors, etc, as well as hopes for our families's futures.\n\nLater this season, there will be an episode with guests with teenaged kids talking about those different stages and the unique challenges therein. \n\nJessica Levity Daylover is a mom of two who has been with her husband, Joe, since 2009, and married and polyamorous since 2013. Jessica is a live event and digital media producer and entertainer. Their journey into polyamory was rocky because they had no mentors, no cultural script, and no support. They launched their podcast & platform \"Remodeled\" as a way to change that path for others.\n\nJes and Remodeled Love are on all the social media - you can find her on IG @remodeledlove, on TikTok @homesliceproductions, on Twitter @RemodeledLove, on Patreon at www.patreon.com/homesliceproductions, or find her podcast, peer support, and upcoming projects at www.remodeledlove.com.\n\nYou can find some of Laura's Polyamorous Parenting FAQs on the blog here, and tickets to her upcoming Polyamory and Parenting class ($15 for as many members of your polycule as care to share the screen, live on 4/23 at 3pmET with included recording and a second live q&a on 4/30 at 11:30pm ET to hopefully accomodate all the timezones and bedtimes) here. \n\nAs always, the podcast's music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com. \n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book on Amazon in kindle and paperback here; links to first appointments for peer support with Laura here; and we'll be back next week with a new episode.Special Guest: Jessica Levity Daylover.","content_html":""You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long time - because making space for your non-parent identity is important."
\n\n"Why would we stop doing the things that make us happy and make us better as humans if we're trying to raise good people, a task that means we need to show up as our best selves?"
\n\nTo open season 5 of the podcast, Laura and Jessica Levity Daylover of Remodeled Love sit down to talk about being polyamorous parents of young children - the benefits of having multiple partners to help with these phases, the realities of occasional judgement from the monogamous folks in our lives, difficulties of scheduling and Jes's Time-banking system with her husband, some of Laura's experiences being out to school, doctors, etc, as well as hopes for our families's futures.
\n\nLater this season, there will be an episode with guests with teenaged kids talking about those different stages and the unique challenges therein.
\n\nJessica Levity Daylover is a mom of two who has been with her husband, Joe, since 2009, and married and polyamorous since 2013. Jessica is a live event and digital media producer and entertainer. Their journey into polyamory was rocky because they had no mentors, no cultural script, and no support. They launched their podcast & platform "Remodeled" as a way to change that path for others.
\n\nJes and Remodeled Love are on all the social media - you can find her on IG @remodeledlove, on TikTok @homesliceproductions, on Twitter @RemodeledLove, on Patreon at www.patreon.com/homesliceproductions, or find her podcast, peer support, and upcoming projects at www.remodeledlove.com.
\n\nYou can find some of Laura's Polyamorous Parenting FAQs on the blog here, and tickets to her upcoming Polyamory and Parenting class ($15 for as many members of your polycule as care to share the screen, live on 4/23 at 3pmET with included recording and a second live q&a on 4/30 at 11:30pm ET to hopefully accomodate all the timezones and bedtimes) here.
\n\nAs always, the podcast's music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com.
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the book on Amazon in kindle and paperback here; links to first appointments for peer support with Laura here; and we'll be back next week with a new episode.
Special Guest: Jessica Levity Daylover.
","summary":"In an episode that just scratches the surface of this rich topic, Laura and Jessica Levity Daylover of Remodeled Love sit down to discuss the challenges and joys of being polyamorous parents. ","date_published":"2022-04-07T11:30:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/0375a1b8-3709-4408-9555-14dcf424aecd.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":77543258,"duration_in_seconds":3230}]},{"id":"e1941de9-9220-41b9-af6c-7a02903d2e3a","title":"Season 4 Episode 9: Polyamory in Fiction","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polyaminfiction","content_text":"Laura and her friend Abbie K. (Tiktok's @Polyanarchy) talk about a variety of fiction they've read that contains CNM &polyamorous relationships, trends they see in polyamorous literature, and favorite books with polyam relationships. \n\nWhen Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok(@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with direct action in her community. They have been polyamorous for 4 years and practice non-hierarchical Kitchen Table Polyamory.\n\nLaura's post on Polyam in Fiction: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/polyamory-in-fiction\n\nLaura's review of I am My Beloveds: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/book-review-i-am-my-beloveds\n\nLaura's review of Iron Widow: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/iron-widow-book-review\n\nPost including Abbie's Polyam Reading List: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/podcast-season-4-episode-9-polyamory-in-fiction\n\nLinks to upcoming classes and events Laura is teaching at: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/events\n\nLinks to support the podcast and blog financially, find merch, and the link to buy the book: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory Special Guest: Abbie K.","content_html":"Laura and her friend Abbie K. (Tiktok's @Polyanarchy) talk about a variety of fiction they've read that contains CNM &polyamorous relationships, trends they see in polyamorous literature, and favorite books with polyam relationships.
\n\nWhen Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok(@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with direct action in her community. They have been polyamorous for 4 years and practice non-hierarchical Kitchen Table Polyamory.
\n\nLaura's post on Polyam in Fiction: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/polyamory-in-fiction
\n\nLaura's review of I am My Beloveds: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/book-review-i-am-my-beloveds
\n\nLaura's review of Iron Widow: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/iron-widow-book-review
\n\nPost including Abbie's Polyam Reading List: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/podcast-season-4-episode-9-polyamory-in-fiction
\n\nLinks to upcoming classes and events Laura is teaching at: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/events
\n\nLinks to support the podcast and blog financially, find merch, and the link to buy the book: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory
Special Guest: Abbie K.
","summary":"Laura and Abbie discuss a number of novels, graphic novels, and series that have good representation of CNM and polyam relationships.","date_published":"2022-01-28T14:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/e1941de9-9220-41b9-af6c-7a02903d2e3a.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":82689792,"duration_in_seconds":3416}]},{"id":"317d3e39-2e2a-4c4b-853f-4d9abd1dc7e3","title":"Season 4 Episode 8: Polyamorous Cohabitation","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/cohabition","content_text":"\"Once or twice a year hotels are an adventure... more than that it just becomes an expense\"\n\nLaura and her friend Corwin met because they both were cohabiting polyamorous people who went to a meetup for polyam families. They have a conversation about the various pros, cons and considerations of polyamorous cohabitation. \n\nThe literal book on polyam cohabitation is \"the polyamorous home\" by Jess Mahler https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N3KT3E2/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1 \n\nLaura and Corwin will both be teaching at Tethered Together in March; find tickets and detailed info at [tetheredtogether.net](tetheredtogether.net)\n\nLaura's classes in January and February can be found at [ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop](ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop) Special Guest: Corwin.","content_html":""Once or twice a year hotels are an adventure... more than that it just becomes an expense"
\n\nLaura and her friend Corwin met because they both were cohabiting polyamorous people who went to a meetup for polyam families. They have a conversation about the various pros, cons and considerations of polyamorous cohabitation.
\n\nThe literal book on polyam cohabitation is "the polyamorous home" by Jess Mahler https://www.amazon.com/dp/B01N3KT3E2/ref=dp-kindle-redirect?_encoding=UTF8&btkr=1
\n\nLaura and Corwin will both be teaching at Tethered Together in March; find tickets and detailed info at [tetheredtogether.net](tetheredtogether.net)
\n\nLaura's classes in January and February can be found at [ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop](ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory/shop)
Special Guest: Corwin.
","summary":"Laura discusses polyamorous cohabition and the upsides and downsides of sharing a polyam household with her friend Corwin","date_published":"2022-01-21T12:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/317d3e39-2e2a-4c4b-853f-4d9abd1dc7e3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":87957338,"duration_in_seconds":3664}]},{"id":"c8668a93-cadb-45ba-acc9-bc339372d78d","title":"Season 4 Episode 7: Unicorn Hunters","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/unicornhunters","content_text":"\"There's a great series on TikTok by Claire of PolyPages comparing unicorn hunter bios to tech startup ads and I think that says a lot.\" \n\nIn today's episode, Laura disambiguates the terms \"unicorn\" and \"Unicorn Hunters\" and talks about the differences between unicorn hunting and simply dating in a triad dynamic. She talks about challenges of the triad dynamic, how power imbalances exist and can be mitigated or not, and how choices around those power imbalances define the unicorn hunting dynamic. \n\nSome related blog posts: \nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/triad-questions\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/new-triads-relationships-on-hard-mode\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-a-one-penis-policy-and-what-are-unicorn-hunters\n\nNew Class Announcement: Registration is open for two digital classes in January! On January 9, 2023, at 3pm Eastern, join me for a Polyamory 101 class. Find detailed class info and registration link https://ko-fi.com/s/57252fbae7. On January 23, 2023, I'm running my most popular class, Beyond the Kitchen Table, an examination of metamour relationships, boundaries, and healthy parallel polyamory, also at 3pm Eastern. You can find more information and the registration link https://ko-fi.com/s/bfbca46a40. Each class is $15 or you can get a bundle ticket to both for $20 at https://ko-fi.com/s/23b8499262. \n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode.","content_html":""There's a great series on TikTok by Claire of PolyPages comparing unicorn hunter bios to tech startup ads and I think that says a lot."
\n\nIn today's episode, Laura disambiguates the terms "unicorn" and "Unicorn Hunters" and talks about the differences between unicorn hunting and simply dating in a triad dynamic. She talks about challenges of the triad dynamic, how power imbalances exist and can be mitigated or not, and how choices around those power imbalances define the unicorn hunting dynamic.
\n\nSome related blog posts:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/triad-questions
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/new-triads-relationships-on-hard-mode
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-a-one-penis-policy-and-what-are-unicorn-hunters
New Class Announcement: Registration is open for two digital classes in January! On January 9, 2023, at 3pm Eastern, join me for a Polyamory 101 class. Find detailed class info and registration link https://ko-fi.com/s/57252fbae7. On January 23, 2023, I'm running my most popular class, Beyond the Kitchen Table, an examination of metamour relationships, boundaries, and healthy parallel polyamory, also at 3pm Eastern. You can find more information and the registration link https://ko-fi.com/s/bfbca46a40. Each class is $15 or you can get a bundle ticket to both for $20 at https://ko-fi.com/s/23b8499262.
\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode.
","summary":"A discussion of unicorn hunters, unicorns, & how to have an ethical triad instead","date_published":"2021-12-01T14:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c8668a93-cadb-45ba-acc9-bc339372d78d.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":40165168,"duration_in_seconds":1673}]},{"id":"15deb259-329d-4143-af28-d5a1adf313a8","title":"Season 4 Episode 6: Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/ktpparallelredux","content_text":"Assuming that, broadly speaking, polyamory is what you want out of a consensually non-monogamous relationship - that you want multiple, loving relationships - there is still so much ground to cover in terms of how to do that. In the days of old, (ok, that’s enough dramatic old lady voice for me - until the last year or two) we only talked about Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory. These are still the most commonly used terms and categories, and can be used as kind of umbrella terms for these structures. So. What is kitchen table polyamory? Different people use many different definitions, but some of the most popular definitions are “the entire network gets along well enough that they could sit down at the kitchen table together” or “the network operates like a family and lives around the same kitchen table” - it’s being expected to have a close-friend or sibling-like relationship with your metas. This definition of kitchen table polyamory covers the parts of the spectrum we’re going to call Communal Polyamory, Lap-sitting Polyamory, Kitchen Table Polyamory, and half of the section Garden Party Polyamory.\n\nNow, how about parallel polyamory? For years, parallel polyamory got presented as an “opposite” to kitchen table, or a situation where metamours never spoke, or dyadic relationships are extremely siloed. While all of this is possible - it’s definitely not the only thing that exists within the structures called “parallel polyamory.” Presenting parallel polyamory in stark opposition to a very close-knit and happy kitchen table dynamic can sometimes make it seem in the community like “parallel” is a dirty word - but that’s a changing phenomenon, and people are embracing alternate terms for portions of the parallel spectrum. It doesn’t say anything in particular about the relationships between the metamours or telemours - some of them may be friendly with one another - but it says there’s no particular effort to bring the polycule together in a greater entanglement than necessary, and there may be some relational or emotional distance between members of the polycule. That definition of parallel covers the rest of Garden Party Polyamory, Parallel Polyamory, Siloed Relationships, and Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell. \n\nToday, Laura discusses the various structures of polyamorous relationships, why you might select one over another, and benefits of different structures. Find some related content at the blog here: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/home/categories/relationship-spectrum\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode.","content_html":"Assuming that, broadly speaking, polyamory is what you want out of a consensually non-monogamous relationship - that you want multiple, loving relationships - there is still so much ground to cover in terms of how to do that. In the days of old, (ok, that’s enough dramatic old lady voice for me - until the last year or two) we only talked about Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory. These are still the most commonly used terms and categories, and can be used as kind of umbrella terms for these structures. So. What is kitchen table polyamory? Different people use many different definitions, but some of the most popular definitions are “the entire network gets along well enough that they could sit down at the kitchen table together” or “the network operates like a family and lives around the same kitchen table” - it’s being expected to have a close-friend or sibling-like relationship with your metas. This definition of kitchen table polyamory covers the parts of the spectrum we’re going to call Communal Polyamory, Lap-sitting Polyamory, Kitchen Table Polyamory, and half of the section Garden Party Polyamory.
\n\nNow, how about parallel polyamory? For years, parallel polyamory got presented as an “opposite” to kitchen table, or a situation where metamours never spoke, or dyadic relationships are extremely siloed. While all of this is possible - it’s definitely not the only thing that exists within the structures called “parallel polyamory.” Presenting parallel polyamory in stark opposition to a very close-knit and happy kitchen table dynamic can sometimes make it seem in the community like “parallel” is a dirty word - but that’s a changing phenomenon, and people are embracing alternate terms for portions of the parallel spectrum. It doesn’t say anything in particular about the relationships between the metamours or telemours - some of them may be friendly with one another - but it says there’s no particular effort to bring the polycule together in a greater entanglement than necessary, and there may be some relational or emotional distance between members of the polycule. That definition of parallel covers the rest of Garden Party Polyamory, Parallel Polyamory, Siloed Relationships, and Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell.
\n\nToday, Laura discusses the various structures of polyamorous relationships, why you might select one over another, and benefits of different structures. Find some related content at the blog here: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/home/categories/relationship-spectrum
\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode.
","summary":"A discussion of various styles of ethical nonmonogamy and the practice of kitchen table and parallel polyamory","date_published":"2021-11-25T00:15:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/15deb259-329d-4143-af28-d5a1adf313a8.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":77222265,"duration_in_seconds":3217}]},{"id":"16c146c3-1a21-42b1-9fe5-139e9402ff3b","title":"Season 4 Episode 5: Couple's Privilege","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/couplesprivilege","content_text":"In this episode, Laura examines the cultural reality of couple's privilege - the ways in which pair-bonding is encouraged and rewarded in our mono-normative culture - and the ways that folks sometimes unthinkingly or out of additional cultural conditioning work to uphold that privilege by enforcing hierarchies and prioritizing relationships over the needs of individuals. This episode looks at which parts of that are avoidable or mitigatable in our present society, which parts need \"working around,\" and offers some options for folks who choose to stay within largely couple-based and hierarchical frameworks as well as those who prefer to explode those frameworks in their relational choices. \n\nRelated articles mentioned in the episode: \nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/privacy-and-honesty\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/inherent-hierarchy\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-and-hierarchy\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/feelings-rules-and-hierarchy\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fluid-bonding-feelings-and-risk-profile\n\nAs always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com . \n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode before the holiday long weekend. \n\nThere's a book giveaway on at Tiktok until Thursday 11/18 in the evening, if you follow there and leave a comment on the giveaway video you'll be entered for a chance to win a copy of Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy. ","content_html":"In this episode, Laura examines the cultural reality of couple's privilege - the ways in which pair-bonding is encouraged and rewarded in our mono-normative culture - and the ways that folks sometimes unthinkingly or out of additional cultural conditioning work to uphold that privilege by enforcing hierarchies and prioritizing relationships over the needs of individuals. This episode looks at which parts of that are avoidable or mitigatable in our present society, which parts need "working around," and offers some options for folks who choose to stay within largely couple-based and hierarchical frameworks as well as those who prefer to explode those frameworks in their relational choices.
\n\nRelated articles mentioned in the episode:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/privacy-and-honesty
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/inherent-hierarchy
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/jealousy-and-hierarchy
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/feelings-rules-and-hierarchy
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fluid-bonding-feelings-and-risk-profile
As always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com .
\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a new episode before the holiday long weekend.
\n\nThere's a book giveaway on at Tiktok until Thursday 11/18 in the evening, if you follow there and leave a comment on the giveaway video you'll be entered for a chance to win a copy of Ready for Polyamory: A Pragmatic Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy.
","summary":"An examination of the cultural underpinnings and common application of couple's privilege in non-monogamous relationships.","date_published":"2021-11-17T10:15:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/16c146c3-1a21-42b1-9fe5-139e9402ff3b.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":41841602,"duration_in_seconds":1743}]},{"id":"599e424c-e812-4c92-9c54-c8046adf2b72","title":"Season 4 Episode 4: Religion and Polyamory Part 2","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/religion2","content_text":"In this examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences. \n\nIn part 2, Laura converses with a person of devout Christian belief who explains how he holds his polyamory to be compatible theologically but not always logistically with his faith & everyday life as an active member of his church. \n\nAs always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com . \n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a look at couple's privilege in polyamory. ","content_html":"In this examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences.
\n\nIn part 2, Laura converses with a person of devout Christian belief who explains how he holds his polyamory to be compatible theologically but not always logistically with his faith & everyday life as an active member of his church.
\n\nAs always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com .
\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with a look at couple's privilege in polyamory.
","summary":"A series of interviews on how religious background & spirituality affect folks' practice of polyamory. ","date_published":"2021-11-10T13:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/599e424c-e812-4c92-9c54-c8046adf2b72.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":47940463,"duration_in_seconds":1997}]},{"id":"efab9e67-0db9-490e-9032-b5d4f439fe8e","title":"Season 4 Episode 3: Religion & Polyamory Part 1","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/religion1","content_text":"In this two-episode examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences. \n\nIn the first part, we hear from Purity to Polyamory, a podcaster/instagrammer/educator who is trying to create community for other ex-vangelicals, about her transition from 19-year-old bride in a purity culture to 30-something nonmonogamist. You can find her podcast, discord, and more here: https://campsite.bio/puritytopolyamory or follow her on Instagram @puritytopolyamory.\n\nWe also have a conversation on the other end of the religious spectrum of experience, with Laura's metamour Daniel GreenWolf (friend of the show) - who was raised and remains Wiccan, or as he says in his show, is \"a pansexual, polyamorous pagan.\" He discusses with us how being the latter in a largely Christian-flavored culture prepared him for coming out as polyamorous as an adult, and why his coven's leadership, and especially his mom, were and are great for supporting him in being a unique individual. You can find him at https://danielgreenwolf.com and https://celticmagicshow.com . \n\nAnd since we mention her in the show and she's awesome - Daniel's mom Judy sells super-cool crochet things at https://rhiannonshook.weebly.com. \n\nAs always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com . \n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with Part 2 of this series. Special Guests: Daniel GreenWolf and Purity to Polyamory.","content_html":"In this two-episode examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences.
\n\nIn the first part, we hear from Purity to Polyamory, a podcaster/instagrammer/educator who is trying to create community for other ex-vangelicals, about her transition from 19-year-old bride in a purity culture to 30-something nonmonogamist. You can find her podcast, discord, and more here: https://campsite.bio/puritytopolyamory or follow her on Instagram @puritytopolyamory.
\n\nWe also have a conversation on the other end of the religious spectrum of experience, with Laura's metamour Daniel GreenWolf (friend of the show) - who was raised and remains Wiccan, or as he says in his show, is "a pansexual, polyamorous pagan." He discusses with us how being the latter in a largely Christian-flavored culture prepared him for coming out as polyamorous as an adult, and why his coven's leadership, and especially his mom, were and are great for supporting him in being a unique individual. You can find him at https://danielgreenwolf.com and https://celticmagicshow.com .
\n\nAnd since we mention her in the show and she's awesome - Daniel's mom Judy sells super-cool crochet things at https://rhiannonshook.weebly.com.
\n\nAs always, the music for the show is by the lovely, talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at http://vinceconaway.com .
\n\nYou can find all the links to support Ready for Polyamory in all its forms (blog, podcast, book, social media, everything!) at the linktree: linktr.ee/readyforpolyamory , including the now launched-to-the-public non-monogamy coaching and peer support options, if you're so moved. We'd love to see you in the facebook group or interacting on the social media (@readyforpolyamory everywhere but twitter, where I'm @lauracb88); and we'll be back next week with Part 2 of this series.
Special Guests: Daniel GreenWolf and Purity to Polyamory.
","summary":"A series of interviews on how religious background & spirituality affect folks' practice of polyamory. Featuring interviews w/ Purity to Polyamory and Daniel GreenWolf","date_published":"2021-10-29T14:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/efab9e67-0db9-490e-9032-b5d4f439fe8e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":66665243,"duration_in_seconds":2777}]},{"id":"20b13d67-6931-4493-a9da-d2afa3886eac","title":"Season 4 Episode 2: Codependence","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/codependence","content_text":"What does it mean to be codependent? Does the pop culture usage and the polyamorous culture usage match, and should we throw the term around? Laura analyzes the way the term gets used in general vs the medicalized and popular history and suggests an alternative lens to view relationships often vilified as 'codependent.'\n\nA blog post about the type of relationship for which this term gets used in polyamorous circles: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/independence-is-important\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.","content_html":"What does it mean to be codependent? Does the pop culture usage and the polyamorous culture usage match, and should we throw the term around? Laura analyzes the way the term gets used in general vs the medicalized and popular history and suggests an alternative lens to view relationships often vilified as 'codependent.'
\n\nA blog post about the type of relationship for which this term gets used in polyamorous circles: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/independence-is-important
\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"Codependence is hardly a new concept, but is it a useful one? This week Laura looks at alternate ways to discuss relationships that struggle with being all-consuming. ","date_published":"2021-08-07T08:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/20b13d67-6931-4493-a9da-d2afa3886eac.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":33531529,"duration_in_seconds":1396}]},{"id":"c6789e81-26b1-43c0-ac1b-f7e951a3b6aa","title":"Season 4 Episode 1: Guarding Yes and Saying No","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/guardingyes","content_text":"Today's episode is a discussion of when saying \"no\" is healthier for us as people, especially in interpersonal relationships, and why we generally are conditioned to say \"yes\" anyway. \n\nWe cover: \n\n\nReasons it's hard to say no.\nSigns we may need to be saying 'yes' less often in particular relationships\nHow this applies to polyamory in particular\nHow this applies to relationships and sexual situations\nHow to stop owning others' emotional and physical \"stuff\" and focus on our own through \"no\" and its substitutes\nHow ask v. guess culture may play into our ability to receive no in a way that makes others feel safe to tell us no within relationships\nWhy being a safe person to tell no is a goal we should strive for in relationships, romantic and otherwise.\n\n\nResources: \n\nMy favorite reminder to guard my yes, the article by René Brooks that gave me that concise phrase for the idea: https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/how-to-guard-your-yes/ . She meant it for ADHD folks to keep us from going off the deep end of overcommitment to activities, but it applies equally to polyamorous folks who want to be there for every moment of every partner's life and need. \n\nDr. Judith Sills on when and why saying No is good for us: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201311/the-power-no?collection=135500 \n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.","content_html":"Today's episode is a discussion of when saying "no" is healthier for us as people, especially in interpersonal relationships, and why we generally are conditioned to say "yes" anyway.
\n\nWe cover:
\n\nResources:
\n\nMy favorite reminder to guard my yes, the article by René Brooks that gave me that concise phrase for the idea: https://blackgirllostkeys.com/adhd/how-to-guard-your-yes/ . She meant it for ADHD folks to keep us from going off the deep end of overcommitment to activities, but it applies equally to polyamorous folks who want to be there for every moment of every partner's life and need.
\n\nDr. Judith Sills on when and why saying No is good for us: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/articles/201311/the-power-no?collection=135500
\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"In all kinds of relationships, but especially romantic and polyamorous network ones, being trusted to say 'no' when you mean it and hold your boundaries by 'guarding your yes' for things you mean to keep your word to is an essential life skill. In this episode we discuss why saying 'no' can be difficult, signs you aren't reserving 'yes' for times you mean it enthusiastically, and how to transition into a pattern of using 'No' more often and 'Yes' intentionally. ","date_published":"2021-07-31T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c6789e81-26b1-43c0-ac1b-f7e951a3b6aa.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":56179065,"duration_in_seconds":2340}]},{"id":"cd92fd60-13ef-4dfd-8207-2a6b639aa4f3","title":"Season 3 Episode 10: Podcastiversary","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/podcastiversary","content_text":"\"Pear...Fruit...technology...devices!\"\n\nThere were some live video technical difficulties during this livestreamed episode (in video! too!) so I'm releasing the audio now and fixing the video up after some more coffee (it's too early Saturday morning) so there was a little bit of my very android partner cursing all my fruit based technology but not wanting to get me in trouble with one of the biggest podcast hosts. It was adorable. \n\nIt is our podcastiversary! Last year, S1 E1 of the Ready For Polyamory Podcast released. So we did a kind of silly laugh along retrospective to celebrate. \n\nTo more seriously answer some of the questions about favorite episodes (and get down the answer about episodes I think are most important that got cut off mid-ramble because...well... technical difficulties and I ramble: \n\nMy favorite episodes to record were: \nS1E5 on Compersion\nS1E6 and S2E5 tearing apart trashy tv with Corwin\nS1E11 on media portrayal of polyamory (Where, contrary to his assertions, Ken tries to correct me in public)\nS2E7 & 8, the coming out episodes\nS3E1 talking about Disability&Polyamory with Rachael Rose\nand S3E3 talking about emotional processing with Orphne\n\nand the episodes I think came out the best and do the clearest job of sharing really important information are: \nS1E1: Polyamory 101 (which is a re-record but now has the info AND sounds great)\nS1E3: Triads\nS2E4: Off Escalator Relationships\n[S2E7 &8: Coming Out Part 1](readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/comingout) and 2 (I'm especially partial to part 2, but that whole conversation was great and came out how it was supposed to, and both at once is very rare)\nS3E3: Emotional Processing \nS3E5: FWB and Play Partners didn't come out just how I want but is a really good jumping off point to start talking about the topic, which I think is an important one. \n\nIt's been a great year and I hope to have an even better one to share with you next year! \n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.","content_html":""Pear...Fruit...technology...devices!"
\n\nThere were some live video technical difficulties during this livestreamed episode (in video! too!) so I'm releasing the audio now and fixing the video up after some more coffee (it's too early Saturday morning) so there was a little bit of my very android partner cursing all my fruit based technology but not wanting to get me in trouble with one of the biggest podcast hosts. It was adorable.
\n\nIt is our podcastiversary! Last year, S1 E1 of the Ready For Polyamory Podcast released. So we did a kind of silly laugh along retrospective to celebrate.
\n\nTo more seriously answer some of the questions about favorite episodes (and get down the answer about episodes I think are most important that got cut off mid-ramble because...well... technical difficulties and I ramble:
\n\nMy favorite episodes to record were:
\nS1E5 on Compersion
\nS1E6 and S2E5 tearing apart trashy tv with Corwin
\nS1E11 on media portrayal of polyamory (Where, contrary to his assertions, Ken tries to correct me in public)
\nS2E7 & 8, the coming out episodes
\nS3E1 talking about Disability&Polyamory with Rachael Rose
\nand S3E3 talking about emotional processing with Orphne
and the episodes I think came out the best and do the clearest job of sharing really important information are:
\nS1E1: Polyamory 101 (which is a re-record but now has the info AND sounds great)
\nS1E3: Triads
\nS2E4: Off Escalator Relationships
\n[S2E7 &8: Coming Out Part 1](readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/comingout) and 2 (I'm especially partial to part 2, but that whole conversation was great and came out how it was supposed to, and both at once is very rare)
\nS3E3: Emotional Processing
\nS3E5: FWB and Play Partners didn't come out just how I want but is a really good jumping off point to start talking about the topic, which I think is an important one.
It's been a great year and I hope to have an even better one to share with you next year!
\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.
Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.
","summary":"In which we celebrate 1 year of the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Ken interviews me but we didn't really decide that in advance, and much silliness ensues because We Did It Live.","date_published":"2021-06-12T09:30:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/cd92fd60-13ef-4dfd-8207-2a6b639aa4f3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":57356456,"duration_in_seconds":2389}]},{"id":"c84beff5-fe4e-4b54-9d24-4c4df81f582a","title":"Season 3 Episode 9: Practical Solutions for Jealousy and FOMO","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/practicaljealousy","content_text":"Jealousy is presented as the mind-killer in polyamory a lot of the time, but it's a presentation of all kinds of other emotions and dealing in a practical way with some of those underlying causes is going to be the best way to get through or past it. While everyone's individual expressions of jealousy will be unique and include their own personal blend of different issues that need to be explored, there are a few strategies that are broadly applicable or transferrable. \n\nWe look at those in today's episode - strategies for communication before and after activities that are giving you a bit of a jealous or envious wobble; techniques for self awareness or distraction and focus elsewhere during events that are bothering you; reframing techniques for thoughts about missing events to allow partners to attend them; how to build a toolbox of skills you can turn to so the jealous or envious 'freakout' is shorter and the pivot to self care is more instinctual. \n\nI've always been a big fan of the Jealousy Workbook, but there's lots of guided meditations and journals that people find helpful for this kind of work. (That's an affiliate link, just fyi.)\n\nSome related blog posts are: \nOn envy and FOMO: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/envy-is-real\nOn your partners being there when things are difficult: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/your-partners-can-handle-emotions-when-they-re-hard\nOn Jealousy: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous\nOn jealousy again: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-green-eyed-monster-in-my-life-spoilers-it-s-me\n\nNext week we're doing a live episode on June 11 (friday) in the evening Eastern Time for the podcastiversary and I'll be releasing it on the regular places during the weekend. If you have questions you want answered in that show, send them to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com!\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.","content_html":"Jealousy is presented as the mind-killer in polyamory a lot of the time, but it's a presentation of all kinds of other emotions and dealing in a practical way with some of those underlying causes is going to be the best way to get through or past it. While everyone's individual expressions of jealousy will be unique and include their own personal blend of different issues that need to be explored, there are a few strategies that are broadly applicable or transferrable.
\n\nWe look at those in today's episode - strategies for communication before and after activities that are giving you a bit of a jealous or envious wobble; techniques for self awareness or distraction and focus elsewhere during events that are bothering you; reframing techniques for thoughts about missing events to allow partners to attend them; how to build a toolbox of skills you can turn to so the jealous or envious 'freakout' is shorter and the pivot to self care is more instinctual.
\n\nI've always been a big fan of the Jealousy Workbook, but there's lots of guided meditations and journals that people find helpful for this kind of work. (That's an affiliate link, just fyi.)
\n\nSome related blog posts are:
\nOn envy and FOMO: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/envy-is-real
\nOn your partners being there when things are difficult: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/your-partners-can-handle-emotions-when-they-re-hard
\nOn Jealousy: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous
\nOn jealousy again: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-green-eyed-monster-in-my-life-spoilers-it-s-me
Next week we're doing a live episode on June 11 (friday) in the evening Eastern Time for the podcastiversary and I'll be releasing it on the regular places during the weekend. If you have questions you want answered in that show, send them to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com!
\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"A discussion of strategies and solutions for different forms and presentations of jealousy, envy, and fear of missing out. ","date_published":"2021-06-05T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c84beff5-fe4e-4b54-9d24-4c4df81f582a.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":44944322,"duration_in_seconds":1872}]},{"id":"44ceb550-7bef-456c-874e-fe267d8fb4d8","title":"Season 3 Episode 8: Labels ","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/labels","content_text":"\"You're nesting- like little birds!\"\n\nLaura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how they reflect our narratives of relationship and self, and what those have to do with how we identify our polyamorous relationships in particular versus monogamous relationships and relationship escalator style relating. What does it mean to be a partner? What terms do we use for our partners? Are we lovers? boy/girl/joyfriends? Something different?\n\nOne of the points she examines is the use of connotation in language - primary partner vs. nesting partner, vs. anchor partner as an example - what the differences and similarities of some of these terms are and why one might use one over another. She also examines how hierarchy, non-hierarchy, and relationship anarchy interact in this space and how language and labels for those types of relationships and expression of the emotional state of people in these relationships feed in. \n\nAll of these ideas are concepts that are being parsed out in individual relationships every day, and that are mentioned in passing on the blog but seldom the center of a piece. Some posts that touch on them are: \n\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/defining-if-it-works-out\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/kitchen-table-and-parallel-polyamory-part-4-kitchen-table-polyamory\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/polyamorous-experts-or-why-i-don-t-call-myself-that\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners\n\nI'll try to get something written that synthesizes my points a bit more concisely and add it when it's ready, but for now, those are what we've got. \n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.","content_html":""You're nesting- like little birds!"
\n\nLaura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how they reflect our narratives of relationship and self, and what those have to do with how we identify our polyamorous relationships in particular versus monogamous relationships and relationship escalator style relating. What does it mean to be a partner? What terms do we use for our partners? Are we lovers? boy/girl/joyfriends? Something different?
\n\nOne of the points she examines is the use of connotation in language - primary partner vs. nesting partner, vs. anchor partner as an example - what the differences and similarities of some of these terms are and why one might use one over another. She also examines how hierarchy, non-hierarchy, and relationship anarchy interact in this space and how language and labels for those types of relationships and expression of the emotional state of people in these relationships feed in.
\n\nAll of these ideas are concepts that are being parsed out in individual relationships every day, and that are mentioned in passing on the blog but seldom the center of a piece. Some posts that touch on them are:
\n\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/defining-if-it-works-out
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/kitchen-table-and-parallel-polyamory-part-4-kitchen-table-polyamory
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/polyamorous-experts-or-why-i-don-t-call-myself-that
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners
I'll try to get something written that synthesizes my points a bit more concisely and add it when it's ready, but for now, those are what we've got.
\n\nAs always, our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com; the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory; you can join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, I'm on twitter @lauracb88 and instagram @readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"In a discussion of labels, their connotations, and how they uniquely apply in polyamorous situations, Laura examines different labels for relationships in particular.","date_published":"2021-05-29T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/44ceb550-7bef-456c-874e-fe267d8fb4d8.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":53754066,"duration_in_seconds":2239}]},{"id":"96839509-d38f-490f-9ce1-106ecef02c81","title":"Season 3 Episode 7: Early Relationship Agreements","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/earlyrelagree","content_text":"\"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least.\" \n\nIn today's episode, Laura tells the story of two of her earliest non-monogamous relationships as a frame for explaining ways to make relationship agreements (and some really good examples of ways not to). You can get out some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle of her insecure and underinformed early 20s in between listening to excellent advice. \n\nHere are some resources she wishes she'd had (or had already read) before several short-lived relationships where terms were dictated to her: \n\nThe Ethical Slut \nThe Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory\nBuilding Open Relationships\nThe Jealousy Workbook\nThe Relationship Escalator\nThe \"Relationship Spectrum\" posts from Ready for Polyamory to think about kinds of relationship one might want to have. \n\nAnd here are a couple more related posts from the blog on things to consider when making relationship agreements: \nWhat are relationship agreements?\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-are-relationship-agreements\nAgreements when you're both polyamorous? \n\nAs always, our music provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.","content_html":""I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least."
\n\nIn today's episode, Laura tells the story of two of her earliest non-monogamous relationships as a frame for explaining ways to make relationship agreements (and some really good examples of ways not to). You can get out some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle of her insecure and underinformed early 20s in between listening to excellent advice.
\n\nHere are some resources she wishes she'd had (or had already read) before several short-lived relationships where terms were dictated to her:
\n\nThe Ethical Slut
\nThe Smart Girl's Guide To Polyamory
\nBuilding Open Relationships
\nThe Jealousy Workbook
\nThe Relationship Escalator
\nThe "Relationship Spectrum" posts from Ready for Polyamory to think about kinds of relationship one might want to have.
And here are a couple more related posts from the blog on things to consider when making relationship agreements:
\nWhat are relationship agreements?
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-are-relationship-agreements
\nAgreements when you're both polyamorous?
As always, our music provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"Laura tells all! (Well, not quite) in a discussion of how to make early relationship agreements, with detailed examples from her early relationships.","date_published":"2021-05-22T10:30:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/96839509-d38f-490f-9ce1-106ecef02c81.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":68234471,"duration_in_seconds":2842}]},{"id":"43c80879-561b-42dc-9f30-4256a84516e2","title":"Season 3 Episode 6: Polyamorous Breakups","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/breakups","content_text":"\"So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over someone, AND poly dominoes.\"\n\nThis week, Laura discusses the ways polyamorous breakups share traits with and differ from monogamous ones, both from her own perspective and using the framework laid out by Kathy Labriola in The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival. \n\nSpoilers: most breakups are caused by the same basic reasons as monogamous relationship breakups, but there are some addendums and caveats, and we'll go through them here. \n\nReady for Polyamory's take on polyamorous breakups: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory\n\nKathy Labriola's Polyamory Breakup Book\n\nJess Mahler's The Polyamorous Home\n\nAs always, our music provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)\n\nThere's a poll running in the Facebook group about what to do for our podcastiversary! If you want to have a say, join us and vote!\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.","content_html":""So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over someone, AND poly dominoes."
\n\nThis week, Laura discusses the ways polyamorous breakups share traits with and differ from monogamous ones, both from her own perspective and using the framework laid out by Kathy Labriola in The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, and Survival.
\n\nSpoilers: most breakups are caused by the same basic reasons as monogamous relationship breakups, but there are some addendums and caveats, and we'll go through them here.
\n\nReady for Polyamory's take on polyamorous breakups: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory
\n\nKathy Labriola's Polyamory Breakup Book
\n\nJess Mahler's The Polyamorous Home
\n\nAs always, our music provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)
\n\nThere's a poll running in the Facebook group about what to do for our podcastiversary! If you want to have a say, join us and vote!
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"Laura discusses Polyamorous breakups, how they differ from monogamous ones, theory and practice ","date_published":"2021-05-15T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/43c80879-561b-42dc-9f30-4256a84516e2.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":60459176,"duration_in_seconds":2518}]},{"id":"310eb6a3-4fa0-49ca-b00c-b483a8848a2a","title":"Season 3 Episode 5: FWB and Play Partners","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/raapplied","content_text":"\"You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?\"\n\nAs an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura discusses how to apply the ideas of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship anarchist theory to friends with benefits and play partner relationships - and the ways each differ and combining them complicate one another. \n\nThe idea that these relationships can be part of polyamorous folks' networks and shouldn't be dismissed as 'only' anything because they can be rich and fulfilling relationships that create important friendships and connections features, as highlighted in this post from the Ready for Polyamory blog.\n\nStrategies for handling jealousy, especially for folks who are previously monogamous or largely monogamish but engaging in play partnerships (as in the kink scene) are suggested, building off of this: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous\n\nMultiamory's RADAR concept is mentioned in the podcast, as a strategy for folks who want to build in some relationship-check-ins. Here are some links to find more info: \nhttps://www.multiamory.com/podcast/147-relationship-radar-scrum-20\nhttps://www.multiamory.com/radar\n\nNo guests today! But as always our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.","content_html":""You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?"
\n\nAs an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura discusses how to apply the ideas of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship anarchist theory to friends with benefits and play partner relationships - and the ways each differ and combining them complicate one another.
\n\nThe idea that these relationships can be part of polyamorous folks' networks and shouldn't be dismissed as 'only' anything because they can be rich and fulfilling relationships that create important friendships and connections features, as highlighted in this post from the Ready for Polyamory blog.
\n\nStrategies for handling jealousy, especially for folks who are previously monogamous or largely monogamish but engaging in play partnerships (as in the kink scene) are suggested, building off of this: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/but-don-t-you-get-jealous
\n\nMultiamory's RADAR concept is mentioned in the podcast, as a strategy for folks who want to build in some relationship-check-ins. Here are some links to find more info:
\nhttps://www.multiamory.com/podcast/147-relationship-radar-scrum-20
\nhttps://www.multiamory.com/radar
No guests today! But as always our music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter @lauracb88 & instagram @readyforpolyamory, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"Laura discusses the application of CNM, polyamory, and relationship anarchy theory to fwb and play partner relationships and the joy points and points involved. ","date_published":"2021-05-08T09:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/310eb6a3-4fa0-49ca-b00c-b483a8848a2a.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":45836456,"duration_in_seconds":1909}]},{"id":"1ad63de5-979e-4788-865f-164ce20e424c","title":"Season 3 Episode 4: Relationship Anarchy","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/relationshipanarchy","content_text":"\"I feel like you're telling me a true story here-\"\n\nLaura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of Relationship Anarchy in this week's episode. So what is Relationship Anarchy? In the most basic and technical sense it’s the application of political anarchy theory to relationships. It’s anti-hierarchy, anti-government intervention in relationships, pro-autonomy, pro-community interdependence, and anti-monogamy. Generally, this is compatible with non-hierarchical forms of polyamory, but we'll talk a little about the places where you might get hung up and why. \n\nWe also talk a little about Andie Nordgren's Relationship Anarchist Manifesto and the principles it explicitly outlines about how to conduct relationships - not just romantic relationships but all interpersonal relationships. A relationship anarchist can practice polyamory as a relationship style, but they are still a believer in relationship anarchy. A polyamorist can support some or most of the underlying premises of relationship anarchy and not be a relationship anarchist because the one or two they don’t are A Big Deal in RA; and we examine both and their intersection this week. \n\nThe RA Manifesto: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy\nWhat is Relationship Anarchy? https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy\nRelationship Anarchy Applied: Friends with Benefits and Play Partners: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners\nApproaching Relationships from Joy, not Fear: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fear-and-joy\n\nYou may remember our guest, David Overton, from Season 2 and our \"Love in the Time of COVID-19\" episode. He is a former event organizer in his area north of Boston, MA, and doesn't currently have any events or projects for me to promote in this space. \n\nAs always, the intro and outro music is provided by the lovely and talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com.\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, support us and keep the lights on via Patreon or ko-fi at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory and I'm on twitter @lauracb88. ","content_html":""I feel like you're telling me a true story here-"
\n\nLaura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of Relationship Anarchy in this week's episode. So what is Relationship Anarchy? In the most basic and technical sense it’s the application of political anarchy theory to relationships. It’s anti-hierarchy, anti-government intervention in relationships, pro-autonomy, pro-community interdependence, and anti-monogamy. Generally, this is compatible with non-hierarchical forms of polyamory, but we'll talk a little about the places where you might get hung up and why.
\n\nWe also talk a little about Andie Nordgren's Relationship Anarchist Manifesto and the principles it explicitly outlines about how to conduct relationships - not just romantic relationships but all interpersonal relationships. A relationship anarchist can practice polyamory as a relationship style, but they are still a believer in relationship anarchy. A polyamorist can support some or most of the underlying premises of relationship anarchy and not be a relationship anarchist because the one or two they don’t are A Big Deal in RA; and we examine both and their intersection this week.
\n\nThe RA Manifesto: https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/andie-nordgren-the-short-instructional-manifesto-for-relationship-anarchy
\nWhat is Relationship Anarchy? https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy
\nRelationship Anarchy Applied: Friends with Benefits and Play Partners: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/relationship-anarchy-applied-friends-with-benefits-and-play-partners
\nApproaching Relationships from Joy, not Fear: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fear-and-joy
You may remember our guest, David Overton, from Season 2 and our "Love in the Time of COVID-19" episode. He is a former event organizer in his area north of Boston, MA, and doesn't currently have any events or projects for me to promote in this space.
\n\nAs always, the intro and outro music is provided by the lovely and talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com.
\n\nYou can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, support us and keep the lights on via Patreon or ko-fi at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, join us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory and I'm on twitter @lauracb88.
","summary":"In an examination of the Relationship Anarchist Manifesto, Laura and David Overton look at how different relationships can fit polyamorous norms or not within the principles of relationship anarchy.","date_published":"2021-05-02T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/1ad63de5-979e-4788-865f-164ce20e424c.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":68341051,"duration_in_seconds":2847}]},{"id":"69f0dc72-0d07-4730-92dc-10ea4417b2f7","title":"Season 3 Episode 3: Emotional Processing","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/processemotion","content_text":"\"Externally, I haven't changed much - I'm always going to be a possum in goth makeup - but internally I'm very different than just a few years ago and learning these coping skills is a lot of it.\" \n\nThis week, Laura and Orphne sit down and discuss how people process difficult emotions and conflicts, and talk particularly about processing through externalizing problems and working through them with others (partners, friends, therapists) versus working through them internally or with physical coping mechanisms. \n\nJust as last time she was on, Orphne can't promote her personal projects because of her job, but she has a charity she'd like to make you aware of if you enjoyed the episode. If you're so moved, please visit http://ripmedicaldebt.org and make a donation, because getting rid of medical debt is punk AF. \n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter & instagram, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.Special Guest: Orphne Sicarius.","content_html":""Externally, I haven't changed much - I'm always going to be a possum in goth makeup - but internally I'm very different than just a few years ago and learning these coping skills is a lot of it."
\n\nThis week, Laura and Orphne sit down and discuss how people process difficult emotions and conflicts, and talk particularly about processing through externalizing problems and working through them with others (partners, friends, therapists) versus working through them internally or with physical coping mechanisms.
\n\nJust as last time she was on, Orphne can't promote her personal projects because of her job, but she has a charity she'd like to make you aware of if you enjoyed the episode. If you're so moved, please visit http://ripmedicaldebt.org and make a donation, because getting rid of medical debt is punk AF.
\n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, you can join us on facebook at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory, follow on Twitter & instagram, and if you'd like to support us financially we're on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guest: Orphne Sicarius.
","summary":"Laura and Orphne discuss processing difficult emotions and conflicts internally and externally and the pros and cons of both approaches.","date_published":"2021-04-24T08:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/69f0dc72-0d07-4730-92dc-10ea4417b2f7.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":51364175,"duration_in_seconds":2140}]},{"id":"70980153-3058-4f6e-ba9d-c03806d8f16e","title":"Season 3 Episode 2: Attachment Theory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polysecure","content_text":"\"I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there isn't one - the points don't matter.\" \n\nThis week, Laura sits down with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure , to discuss attachment theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous networks. Their conversation roams across the book and the topic. If you aren't at all familiar with attachment theory, there's a post on the Ready for Polyamory blog with more information to help clarify the concepts: www.readyforpolyamory/post/why-attachment , and if you're intrigued and want to read PolySecure you can find the book here. \n\nJessica's mailing list with information on various free workshops and lectures can be subscribed to at https://jessicafern.com, and she also posts paid events she's hired for there. \n\nReady for Polyamory has a new Facebook home! We've started a group - to better build community and a discussion forum for polyamorous folks we have a private (membership not visible except to other group members) but searchable (you can type Ready for Polyamory to find it and request to join) group at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory . Come join us! \n\nAs always, you can find us at the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, support us and keep the lights on via Patreon or ko-fi at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and I'm on twitter @lauracb88. Special Guest: Jessica Fern.","content_html":""I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there isn't one - the points don't matter."
\n\nThis week, Laura sits down with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure , to discuss attachment theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous networks. Their conversation roams across the book and the topic. If you aren't at all familiar with attachment theory, there's a post on the Ready for Polyamory blog with more information to help clarify the concepts: www.readyforpolyamory/post/why-attachment , and if you're intrigued and want to read PolySecure you can find the book here.
\n\nJessica's mailing list with information on various free workshops and lectures can be subscribed to at https://jessicafern.com, and she also posts paid events she's hired for there.
\n\nReady for Polyamory has a new Facebook home! We've started a group - to better build community and a discussion forum for polyamorous folks we have a private (membership not visible except to other group members) but searchable (you can type Ready for Polyamory to find it and request to join) group at www.facebook.com/groups/readyforpolyamory . Come join us!
\n\nAs always, you can find us at the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, support us and keep the lights on via Patreon or ko-fi at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory and ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and I'm on twitter @lauracb88.
Special Guest: Jessica Fern.
","summary":"Jessica Fern appears to discuss Attachment Theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous relationships in an interview.","date_published":"2021-04-17T08:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/70980153-3058-4f6e-ba9d-c03806d8f16e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":58829082,"duration_in_seconds":2422}]},{"id":"60808740-4981-4760-8222-f63d27418aaa","title":"Season 3 Episode 1: Polyamory, Disability & Accessibility","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/disability","content_text":"\"No, no, no - I really like orgasms. We need to bring those back.\"\n\nTo kick of Season 3 of the podcast, Rachael Rose of [Hedonish](hedonish.com) is here to talk about sex education, event planning, disability, accessibility, and how her polyamorous journey has been shaped by the conjunction of all of these. \n\nWe discuss the ways the pandemic has impacted everyday accessibility of certain spaces and activities, and how eager but cautious we are to get back to in person events; how polyamory in general has been a very understanding community for accomodations for our accessibility needs but what steps we would like to see become more commonplace both in this community and in wider society; and how some days it's a bit rough to admit, but taking care of ourselves and not judging based on the productivity of others is most important.\n\nRachael Rose (she/her) is a chronically ill and disabled, bisexual, neurodivergent, and polyamorous Certified Sex & Relationship Coach and Educator whose work focuses on an inclusive, sex-positive, and pleasure-focused approach to sex education and sexual health for all, and specializes in the ways chronic illness, disabilities, and ADHD impact sex and relationships. She is the creator of the award-winning sex-education blog Hedonish, and co-creator of Glittergasm Events, an event company hosting inclusive sex-positive play parties for the LGBTQ+ community. In addition to on her blog at Hedonish, you can find her as @hedonish on Twitter and Instagram, and on [facebook](www.facebook.com/hedonish). You can learn more about Glittergasm events and hear when those restart post-pandemic at glittergasm.com. \n\nShe's teaching a class on April 24 on \"Communicating Your Needs and Disclosing Your Chronic Illness\" through The Staying Inn; you can register by signing up for their mailing list here.\n\nYou can find the Ready for Polyamory blog and Laura's work at readyforpolyamory.com. Support the blog and podcast via Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory or Ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. Catch up with funny or silly things Laura thinks on Twitter @lauracb88, and the blog's social media are on Instagram and Facebook @readyforpolyamory. Special Guest: Rachael Rose.","content_html":""No, no, no - I really like orgasms. We need to bring those back."
\n\nTo kick of Season 3 of the podcast, Rachael Rose of [Hedonish](hedonish.com) is here to talk about sex education, event planning, disability, accessibility, and how her polyamorous journey has been shaped by the conjunction of all of these.
\n\nWe discuss the ways the pandemic has impacted everyday accessibility of certain spaces and activities, and how eager but cautious we are to get back to in person events; how polyamory in general has been a very understanding community for accomodations for our accessibility needs but what steps we would like to see become more commonplace both in this community and in wider society; and how some days it's a bit rough to admit, but taking care of ourselves and not judging based on the productivity of others is most important.
\n\nRachael Rose (she/her) is a chronically ill and disabled, bisexual, neurodivergent, and polyamorous Certified Sex & Relationship Coach and Educator whose work focuses on an inclusive, sex-positive, and pleasure-focused approach to sex education and sexual health for all, and specializes in the ways chronic illness, disabilities, and ADHD impact sex and relationships. She is the creator of the award-winning sex-education blog Hedonish, and co-creator of Glittergasm Events, an event company hosting inclusive sex-positive play parties for the LGBTQ+ community. In addition to on her blog at Hedonish, you can find her as @hedonish on Twitter and Instagram, and on [facebook](www.facebook.com/hedonish). You can learn more about Glittergasm events and hear when those restart post-pandemic at glittergasm.com.
\n\nShe's teaching a class on April 24 on "Communicating Your Needs and Disclosing Your Chronic Illness" through The Staying Inn; you can register by signing up for their mailing list here.
\n\nYou can find the Ready for Polyamory blog and Laura's work at readyforpolyamory.com. Support the blog and podcast via Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory or Ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. Catch up with funny or silly things Laura thinks on Twitter @lauracb88, and the blog's social media are on Instagram and Facebook @readyforpolyamory.
Special Guest: Rachael Rose.
","summary":"Laura & Rachael Rose of Hedonish talk about disability, accessibility, and how the polyamorous community can best address the needs of its members with disabilities. ","date_published":"2021-04-10T08:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/60808740-4981-4760-8222-f63d27418aaa.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":79301263,"duration_in_seconds":3275}]},{"id":"4d47c5d9-bda2-4b12-b9d9-d3f80c30c9a6","title":"Season 2 Episode 12: Insecurity and Polyamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/insecurity","content_text":"This week, in the last episode of season 2, I talked with Seva about different ways that polyamory can serve as a format to work through personal insecurities. Obviously, this is a subject everyone approaches in their own way, and we primarily speak through the lens of personal experiences and a little bit through theory in this episode. \n\nWe focus on:\n-the concept of security vs insecurity in general;\n-how meeting metamours to not build them up into personifications of our insecurities can be helpful;\n-the process of growing in individual relationships over time and returning to those relationships makes each of those relationships more secure;\n-and choosing individual partners and having them choose us is security building.\n\nThere are other directions we could have gone in, but we were trying to keep faithful to our own insecurities, envies and jealousies that we’ve grown through over the last several years, and our own experiences. We were also trying to stick to a timeline you might all listen to! Hopefully folks enjoy this episode. \n\nIf you have some time over the next couple weeks, I’m taking a couple weeks off to record the beginning of Season 3 before starting to release it. In my opinion, Season 2 really got its sea legs in terms of quality, compared to season 1, so if you missed any Season 2 episodes, I’d recommend going back and checking them out, and I’d love it if you left me a review, especially if you’re listening on one of the big platforms like Apple Podcasts. It helps me get more visibility and into more ears. Thanks so much.\n\nIn case anyone didn’t notice, during the week after last week’s podcast, the ordinance in Cambridge was successfully amended and I have an update here on the blog explaining the exact changes and why they’re positive in [Wednesday’s post. ](www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/cambridgedpordinance)\n\n\n\nI’ll be teaching my Beyond the Kitchen Table: Modes and Models of Parallel Polyamory class at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, the digital version of Tethered Together, on Saturday March 20 from 11:30am -1pm. The con as a whole runs from the 19-21 and you can get tickets at tetheredtogether.net. Tickets are $30 until sales close the day before the event. There are a lot of great presenters on topics ranging from relationships to movement to rope and a couple cool shows; come play with us! \n\n[Like the blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com)? Want to support it and[ the podcast](readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm)?\nDonate to the [Patreon](www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory), Throw a coin in my hat on [Ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory), or follow on:\nInstagram @readyforpolyamory\nTwitter @lauracb88\nFacebook Ready For PolyamorySpecial Guest: Seva.","content_html":"This week, in the last episode of season 2, I talked with Seva about different ways that polyamory can serve as a format to work through personal insecurities. Obviously, this is a subject everyone approaches in their own way, and we primarily speak through the lens of personal experiences and a little bit through theory in this episode.
\n\nWe focus on:
\n-the concept of security vs insecurity in general;
\n-how meeting metamours to not build them up into personifications of our insecurities can be helpful;
\n-the process of growing in individual relationships over time and returning to those relationships makes each of those relationships more secure;
\n-and choosing individual partners and having them choose us is security building.
There are other directions we could have gone in, but we were trying to keep faithful to our own insecurities, envies and jealousies that we’ve grown through over the last several years, and our own experiences. We were also trying to stick to a timeline you might all listen to! Hopefully folks enjoy this episode.
\n\nIf you have some time over the next couple weeks, I’m taking a couple weeks off to record the beginning of Season 3 before starting to release it. In my opinion, Season 2 really got its sea legs in terms of quality, compared to season 1, so if you missed any Season 2 episodes, I’d recommend going back and checking them out, and I’d love it if you left me a review, especially if you’re listening on one of the big platforms like Apple Podcasts. It helps me get more visibility and into more ears. Thanks so much.
\n\nIn case anyone didn’t notice, during the week after last week’s podcast, the ordinance in Cambridge was successfully amended and I have an update here on the blog explaining the exact changes and why they’re positive in [Wednesday’s post. ](www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/cambridgedpordinance)
\n\nI’ll be teaching my Beyond the Kitchen Table: Modes and Models of Parallel Polyamory class at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, the digital version of Tethered Together, on Saturday March 20 from 11:30am -1pm. The con as a whole runs from the 19-21 and you can get tickets at tetheredtogether.net. Tickets are $30 until sales close the day before the event. There are a lot of great presenters on topics ranging from relationships to movement to rope and a couple cool shows; come play with us!
\n\n[Like the blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com)? Want to support it and[ the podcast](readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm)?
\nDonate to the [Patreon](www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory), Throw a coin in my hat on [Ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory), or follow on:
\nInstagram @readyforpolyamory
\nTwitter @lauracb88
\nFacebook Ready For Polyamory
Special Guest: Seva.
","summary":"Laura and Seva talk about ways polyamory is well-suited to help people work through their insecurities in themselves and in relationships.","date_published":"2021-03-13T07:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/4d47c5d9-bda2-4b12-b9d9-d3f80c30c9a6.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":57605978,"duration_in_seconds":2400}]},{"id":"c87bbedc-3289-4030-9eea-13b29a0aae2c","title":"Season 2 Episode 11: Legal Hypotheticals","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/legalhypothetical","content_text":"\"I'm definitely not a lawyer, but even if I were, you'd give better legal advice than me\" - a line I edited out, but Ken did say. Just so you all know. Even his ego has limits. He's only a fake doctor. \n\nIn today's episode, we examine real legal progress made by polyamorous people and relationships in the USA, and how hypothetical additional progress might work out. Content Warning: There's a little language because Ken struggles with not using blue language and I don't mind it, in appropriate context. \n\nWe examine the possibilities of how to get to a national standard of more than two person domestic partnership or marriage and why there's a difference between those (and Ken's rant about marriage being an outdated institution that should be abolished is can't-miss! and my eye roll at his being married to not one but two people despite this is AUDIBLE), and have some laughs along the way. I hope you enjoy it. See you next week for the last of this season before a short break between seasons 2 and 3. \n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi is at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and you can find us on facebook and instagram @readyforpolyamory; or me on twitter @lauracb88. Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.","content_html":""I'm definitely not a lawyer, but even if I were, you'd give better legal advice than me" - a line I edited out, but Ken did say. Just so you all know. Even his ego has limits. He's only a fake doctor.
\n\nIn today's episode, we examine real legal progress made by polyamorous people and relationships in the USA, and how hypothetical additional progress might work out. Content Warning: There's a little language because Ken struggles with not using blue language and I don't mind it, in appropriate context.
\n\nWe examine the possibilities of how to get to a national standard of more than two person domestic partnership or marriage and why there's a difference between those (and Ken's rant about marriage being an outdated institution that should be abolished is can't-miss! and my eye roll at his being married to not one but two people despite this is AUDIBLE), and have some laughs along the way. I hope you enjoy it. See you next week for the last of this season before a short break between seasons 2 and 3.
\n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; the ko-fi is at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and you can find us on facebook and instagram @readyforpolyamory; or me on twitter @lauracb88.
Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.
","summary":"Laura and her guest examine some possible paths for future legal acceptance of polyamorous relationships , based on growing social acceptance. #notlegaladvice. ","date_published":"2021-03-06T07:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c87bbedc-3289-4030-9eea-13b29a0aae2c.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":83285390,"duration_in_seconds":3470}]},{"id":"60e4920a-f070-429d-bb42-7a4ef8de5d6e","title":"Season 2 Episode 10: Polyamory and Power Exchange","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/powerexchange","content_text":"\"This episode might have different Venn diagram of listeners than my class usually does.\" \n\nContent warning for allusions to BDSM and sexual interaction, but there is not explicit sexual content in this episode. \n\nLaura gives a personal account plus theory discussion of boundary setting and considerations folks might want to take when engaging in power exchange relationships and polyamory at the same time. She's done this a couple times, and has friends who have too, and has some advice and ideas. \n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory if you'd like to subscribe and help keep the lights on, the ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory if you'd like to throw a tip in my jar, and you can find Ready for Polyamory on facebook or instagram, and can follow on twitter @lauracb88.\n\nI’ll be teaching my Beyond the Kitchen Table: Modes and Models of Parallel Polyamory class at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, the digital version of Tethered Together, on Saturday March 20 from 11:30am -1pm. The con as a whole runs from the 19-21 and you can get tickets at tetheredtogether.net. Tickets are $25 until the end of February, when the price will go up until sales close the day before the event. There are a lot of great presenters on topics ranging from relationships to movement to rope and a couple cool shows; come play with us! ","content_html":""This episode might have different Venn diagram of listeners than my class usually does."
\n\nContent warning for allusions to BDSM and sexual interaction, but there is not explicit sexual content in this episode.
\n\nLaura gives a personal account plus theory discussion of boundary setting and considerations folks might want to take when engaging in power exchange relationships and polyamory at the same time. She's done this a couple times, and has friends who have too, and has some advice and ideas.
\n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the patreon at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory if you'd like to subscribe and help keep the lights on, the ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory if you'd like to throw a tip in my jar, and you can find Ready for Polyamory on facebook or instagram, and can follow on twitter @lauracb88.
\n\nI’ll be teaching my Beyond the Kitchen Table: Modes and Models of Parallel Polyamory class at Tethered to Wifi 2.0, the digital version of Tethered Together, on Saturday March 20 from 11:30am -1pm. The con as a whole runs from the 19-21 and you can get tickets at tetheredtogether.net. Tickets are $25 until the end of February, when the price will go up until sales close the day before the event. There are a lot of great presenters on topics ranging from relationships to movement to rope and a couple cool shows; come play with us!
","summary":"Laura (sans guest, because the pandemic has disabled her planned guest!) discusses polyamory and power exchange relationships.","date_published":"2021-02-27T07:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/60e4920a-f070-429d-bb42-7a4ef8de5d6e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":49937890,"duration_in_seconds":2080}]},{"id":"037a2576-7db2-4d78-832e-38817c83c3c6","title":"Season 2 Episode 9: Love and Apology Languages","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/languages","content_text":"Why We Fight and How We Make Up\n\n\"What if your partner made you a bouquet of spoons?\"\n\nThis week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain amount of delicate handling. They've been polyamorous and out in all areas of their life for about five years and were happy to lend their perspective on interpersonal conflict and conflict resolution for this podcast episode focused broadly on Love Languages and Apology Languages, and how these concepts apply in polyamorous networks.\n\nThey have a broad ranging conversation rolling between general information about love languages and apology languages to trauma informed interpersonal interaction to what different kinds of more and less invested conflict can look like (and whether we agree about only getting in big fights if it's a hill we're willing to die on). It was a pretty great conversation to get to have, and we hope you enjoy listening to it. \n\nRelated blog posts at Ready for Polyamory include: \nLove Languages: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/love-languages-and-polyamory\nApology Languages: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/apology-languages\nIs this fight a hill worth dying on?https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/is-this-a-hill-i-m-really-willing-to-die-on\nFighting to lose: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fighting-to-lose\nBreakups in polyamory: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory\n\nAs always the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and the ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory and I am eternally grateful for your support. Special Guest: Orphne Sicarius.","content_html":"Why We Fight and How We Make Up
\n\n"What if your partner made you a bouquet of spoons?"
\n\nThis week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain amount of delicate handling. They've been polyamorous and out in all areas of their life for about five years and were happy to lend their perspective on interpersonal conflict and conflict resolution for this podcast episode focused broadly on Love Languages and Apology Languages, and how these concepts apply in polyamorous networks.
\n\nThey have a broad ranging conversation rolling between general information about love languages and apology languages to trauma informed interpersonal interaction to what different kinds of more and less invested conflict can look like (and whether we agree about only getting in big fights if it's a hill we're willing to die on). It was a pretty great conversation to get to have, and we hope you enjoy listening to it.
\n\nRelated blog posts at Ready for Polyamory include:
\nLove Languages: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/love-languages-and-polyamory
\nApology Languages: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/apology-languages
\nIs this fight a hill worth dying on?https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/is-this-a-hill-i-m-really-willing-to-die-on
\nFighting to lose: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/fighting-to-lose
\nBreakups in polyamory: https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/breakups-in-polyamory
As always the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and the ko-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory and I am eternally grateful for your support.
Special Guest: Orphne Sicarius.
","summary":"This week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius for this podcast episode focused broadly on Love Languages and Apology Languages, and how these concepts apply in polyamorous networks. The conversation expands to include conflict with metamours and trauma informed interpersonal interactions. ","date_published":"2021-02-20T07:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/037a2576-7db2-4d78-832e-38817c83c3c6.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":67247044,"duration_in_seconds":4202}]},{"id":"37a078cb-a305-4737-a3ff-9ea1e34e1a5f","title":"Season 2 Episode 8: Coming Out Part 2","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/comingout2","content_text":"\"Isn't that cat toes?\" \n\nToday, in the second half of their conversation, our heroes from last week continue on their epic Quest For Answers About Coming Out.\n\n...Wait, wrong genre. \n\nThey do have a nice conversation including a bunch of strategies for how to handle situations where folks have negative or shocked reactions to information on polyamory, as well as some funny stories about people getting things Very Wrong because the monogamous programming is strong with them. (that's where the cat's toes come in.)\n\nRegardless of whether you come out often, once, or not yet, these two podcast episodes taken together have good information for you. \n\nAs always, you can click the guest bios below for detailed information on my guests, but for those of you not using my podcast host to listen:\n\n\nDaniel GreenWolf is an Award-winning Magician, writer, creator, & slightly mad Irishman who you can find at www.danielgreenwolf.com . He's also a pagan, pansexual polyamorist who's been in his longest running polyamorous relationship for seven years, and he's an outspoken advocate for polyamory as well as an amazing performer. \nCorwin is the owner and operator of Upline Studios who you can find at uplinestudio.com . He's been in ethically nonmonogamous relationships for eight years.\nSeva has been polyamorous for seven years. She is an educator in the non-monogamy and rope communities and helped build the Upline Studio.\n Jami and Brian Zapata are poly-pagans who've been out all closets for a long time. Brian's a hetero software QA release manager, Jami is a pansexual, non-binary, gender-non-conforming Fire official. They enjoy Renaissance Faires, Dungeons and Dragons, and can't wait to socialize with their friends again. \n\n\nAs always, the music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway (www.vinceconaway.com), the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, and the ko-fi is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.Special Guests: Corwin, Daniel GreenWolf, and Seva.","content_html":""Isn't that cat toes?"
\n\nToday, in the second half of their conversation, our heroes from last week continue on their epic Quest For Answers About Coming Out.
\n\n...Wait, wrong genre.
\n\nThey do have a nice conversation including a bunch of strategies for how to handle situations where folks have negative or shocked reactions to information on polyamory, as well as some funny stories about people getting things Very Wrong because the monogamous programming is strong with them. (that's where the cat's toes come in.)
\n\nRegardless of whether you come out often, once, or not yet, these two podcast episodes taken together have good information for you.
\n\nAs always, you can click the guest bios below for detailed information on my guests, but for those of you not using my podcast host to listen:
\n\nAs always, the music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway (www.vinceconaway.com), the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, and the ko-fi is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guests: Corwin, Daniel GreenWolf, and Seva.
","summary":"Laura and guests Daniel GreenWolf, Corwin, Seva, Jami, and Brian discuss reactions to coming out, controlling the message, and the ongoing role of coming out in one's day-to-day life in Part 2 of their roundtable discussion.","date_published":"2021-02-13T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/37a078cb-a305-4737-a3ff-9ea1e34e1a5f.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":88278331,"duration_in_seconds":3678}]},{"id":"c75613dd-f2f9-4902-bad3-c5a88b8f67b4","title":"Season 2 Episode 7: Coming Out","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/comingout","content_text":"\"Did we really need to know this? We knew you were weird.\"\n\nOn today's episode, the first half of a really great roundtable discussion on coming out between my metamour Daniel GreenWolf and a group of my friends, Seva, Corwin, Jami, and Brian, moderated by your stalwart host. We try to show a variety of experiences with the process of coming out as polyamorous, altered by sexual orientation, family reaction, age we came out, and other circumstances through our conversation. \n\n...Of course, we're a bunch of chatterboxes who are all friends so we talked for about three hours, so I cut that down to about two and cut that in half to give you two digestible episodes. This first half is who did our panel come out to first (and how, and why), and what reactions they all got. (SPOILER: the tagline is part of one reaction.) \n\nl hope that this episode helps people who have come out and it didn't go especially well, or who haven't come out yet because they're worried, see that the odds of it going well aren't terribly bad even if they aren't perfect. (and if it goes badly, we have your back next week - we talk all about controlling the message and managing reactions and conversations with someone who isn't understanding or positive in response.) \n\nAs always, you can click the guest bios below for detailed information on my guests, but for those of you not using my podcast host to listen:\n\n\nDaniel GreenWolf is an Award-winning Magician, writer, creator, & slightly mad Irishman who you can find at www.danielgreenwolf.com . He's also a pagan, pansexual polyamorist who's been in his longest running polyamorous relationship for seven years, and he's an outspoken advocate for polyamory as well as an amazing performer. \nCorwin is the owner and operator of Upline Studios who you can find at uplinestudio.com . He's been in ethically nonmonogamous relationships for eight years.\nSeva has been polyamorous for seven years. She is an educator in the non-monogamy and rope communities and helped build the Upline Studio.\nJami and Brian Zapata are poly-pagans who've been out all closets for a long time. Brian's a hetero software QA release manager, Jami is a pansexual, non-binary, gender-non-conforming Fire official. They enjoy Renaissance Faires, Dungeons and Dragons, and can't wait to socialize with their friends again. \n\n\nAs always, the music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway (www.vinceconaway.com), the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, and the ko-fi is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.Special Guests: Corwin, Daniel GreenWolf, and Seva.","content_html":""Did we really need to know this? We knew you were weird."
\n\nOn today's episode, the first half of a really great roundtable discussion on coming out between my metamour Daniel GreenWolf and a group of my friends, Seva, Corwin, Jami, and Brian, moderated by your stalwart host. We try to show a variety of experiences with the process of coming out as polyamorous, altered by sexual orientation, family reaction, age we came out, and other circumstances through our conversation.
\n\n...Of course, we're a bunch of chatterboxes who are all friends so we talked for about three hours, so I cut that down to about two and cut that in half to give you two digestible episodes. This first half is who did our panel come out to first (and how, and why), and what reactions they all got. (SPOILER: the tagline is part of one reaction.)
\n\nl hope that this episode helps people who have come out and it didn't go especially well, or who haven't come out yet because they're worried, see that the odds of it going well aren't terribly bad even if they aren't perfect. (and if it goes badly, we have your back next week - we talk all about controlling the message and managing reactions and conversations with someone who isn't understanding or positive in response.)
\n\nAs always, you can click the guest bios below for detailed information on my guests, but for those of you not using my podcast host to listen:
\n\nAs always, the music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway (www.vinceconaway.com), the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, and the ko-fi is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guests: Corwin, Daniel GreenWolf, and Seva.
","summary":"Laura and guests Daniel GreenWolf, Corwin, Seva, Brian, and Jami discuss coming out as polyamorous (and in the case of some guests, as queer) to friends and family, who they came out to first, and what reactions they received. ","date_published":"2021-02-06T07:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/c75613dd-f2f9-4902-bad3-c5a88b8f67b4.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":71801126,"duration_in_seconds":2991}]},{"id":"ce86ab12-7e49-44ef-a153-21e09a83f9c5","title":"Season 2 Episode 6: Boundaries","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/boundaries","content_text":"\"When you step in dog shit, you don't throw your shoes out, you clean the shit off.\"\n\nLaura and guests, Gina, Sarah, Corwin, and Ken (all friends of the Ready for Polyamory blog, some previous guests of the podcast) discuss the importance of being aware of your own personal boundaries and the multitude of shapes those can take in this week's episode. \n\nAll of our relationships are shaped by the interplay of different people's boundaries, so this topic is really important, and depending on your own socialization, whether because of gender, race, class, or simply your family's habits, you may have an easier or harder time recognizing and enforcing those boundaries. We hope you find this episode informative and a little entertaining - I tried not to cut out every meander off topic into a joke because the laughing did us good. \n\nGina and Sarah are friends of the blog who were kind enough to not only help record this, but don't even have anything to promote on top of it. Corwin, as always, is the charming owner and operator of Upline, and is putting on a virtual fundraiser in cooperation with The Society on February 13 that you can find more information on here. Ken Briodagh is, in addition to being a guest contributor to this show and the Ready for Polyamory blog, an excellent author whose latest book, Stories and Sins you can find here. \n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, and subscribing there is the best way to get immediate updates when there are new posts! \n\nIf you'd like to support the podcast and blog, we have a Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, or if you prefer to throw a one time tip in the hat, a ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. Listener and reader support covered our 2020 hosting, and we're immensely appreciative. Special Guests: Corwin and Ken Briodagh.","content_html":""When you step in dog shit, you don't throw your shoes out, you clean the shit off."
\n\nLaura and guests, Gina, Sarah, Corwin, and Ken (all friends of the Ready for Polyamory blog, some previous guests of the podcast) discuss the importance of being aware of your own personal boundaries and the multitude of shapes those can take in this week's episode.
\n\nAll of our relationships are shaped by the interplay of different people's boundaries, so this topic is really important, and depending on your own socialization, whether because of gender, race, class, or simply your family's habits, you may have an easier or harder time recognizing and enforcing those boundaries. We hope you find this episode informative and a little entertaining - I tried not to cut out every meander off topic into a joke because the laughing did us good.
\n\nGina and Sarah are friends of the blog who were kind enough to not only help record this, but don't even have anything to promote on top of it. Corwin, as always, is the charming owner and operator of Upline, and is putting on a virtual fundraiser in cooperation with The Society on February 13 that you can find more information on here. Ken Briodagh is, in addition to being a guest contributor to this show and the Ready for Polyamory blog, an excellent author whose latest book, Stories and Sins you can find here.
\n\nAs always, you can find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com, and subscribing there is the best way to get immediate updates when there are new posts!
\n\nIf you'd like to support the podcast and blog, we have a Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, or if you prefer to throw a one time tip in the hat, a ko-fi at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. Listener and reader support covered our 2020 hosting, and we're immensely appreciative.
Special Guests: Corwin and Ken Briodagh.
","summary":"Laura and a roundtable of guests discuss personal boundaries and how they apply to all interpersonal relationships, but especially romantic and polyamorous relationships. ","date_published":"2021-01-30T06:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/ce86ab12-7e49-44ef-a153-21e09a83f9c5.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":85460452,"duration_in_seconds":5341}]},{"id":"b151beab-7ad1-458d-bb14-e87b66d32616","title":"Season 2 Episode 5: Polyamory: Married and Dating","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/pmd2","content_text":"\"Remind me not to go to any of YOUR soirées.\"\n\nIn today's episode Laura and Corwin tear apart the tropes and stereotypes in the second half of season 1 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating. If you'd like to watch along, anywhere you can stream showtime shows, be it an individual app or adding the channel to Amazon or Hulu accounts, will get you access. We're discussing episodes 4-7 today; you can hear our take on episodes 1-3 in Season 1, Episode 6 of this podcast. \n\nWe talk about what looks faked and real in this prime example of a scripted/ \"unscripted\" reality show, and how to avoid the interpersonal errors made by the characters on the program. We also giggle about how cringey it is, abuse the word \"soirée\" and generally have a good time, becaus getting your best friend on Zoom for a couple hours of trash tv trashing is a quality pandemic activity for THIS host. \n\nCorwin has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for the past eight years, getting his start with polyamory and slowly branching out into other styles of non-monogamy. Currently, he describes his relationship style as ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy. He also owns and operates Upline, CT's premiere rope studio, the details about which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com. His personal rope & photography projects can be found on Instagram @corwinropeSpecial Guest: Corwin.","content_html":""Remind me not to go to any of YOUR soirées."
\n\nIn today's episode Laura and Corwin tear apart the tropes and stereotypes in the second half of season 1 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating. If you'd like to watch along, anywhere you can stream showtime shows, be it an individual app or adding the channel to Amazon or Hulu accounts, will get you access. We're discussing episodes 4-7 today; you can hear our take on episodes 1-3 in Season 1, Episode 6 of this podcast.
\n\nWe talk about what looks faked and real in this prime example of a scripted/ "unscripted" reality show, and how to avoid the interpersonal errors made by the characters on the program. We also giggle about how cringey it is, abuse the word "soirée" and generally have a good time, becaus getting your best friend on Zoom for a couple hours of trash tv trashing is a quality pandemic activity for THIS host.
\n\nCorwin has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for the past eight years, getting his start with polyamory and slowly branching out into other styles of non-monogamy. Currently, he describes his relationship style as ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy. He also owns and operates Upline, CT's premiere rope studio, the details about which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com. His personal rope & photography projects can be found on Instagram @corwinrope
Special Guest: Corwin.
","summary":"Laura and Corwin tear apart the tropes and stereotypes in the second half of season 1 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating, both for humor and to talk about what looks real, what looks fake, and how to avoid the relationship mistakes characters make in the show.","date_published":"2021-01-23T04:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/b151beab-7ad1-458d-bb14-e87b66d32616.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":78256089,"duration_in_seconds":4890}]},{"id":"b059e44e-3b8f-4a5c-80ac-e393d032d94e","title":"Season 2 Episode 4: Off Escalator Relationships ","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/escalator","content_text":"\"I mean, really I just want to scream it from the rooftops that I love these humans - that's my important thing.\"\n\nThe Relationship Escalator (https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator) is a strong cultural imperative even beyond monogamous culture to make sure your relationship keeps \"going somewhere\"- that you go through all the steps of dating, \"getting serious,\" getting engaged, getting married, having kids, getting a house, and being together forever til death do you part at that pinnacle. Polyamory inherently assumes that not all relationships must do this; in fact, that no relationships need do this. So, outside of these cultural norms, what markers do we use to measure the progress of our relationships? What milestones do we embrace? This is an essentially personal decision in each relationship, but this week's podcast tries to give some food for thought on the topic. \n\nToday's discussion is between our blog author & host, Laura, and her telemour, Meadow Perry, who have both found themselves intentionally building off-escalator relationships in recent years following breakups with spouses and nesting partners. Faithful readers of the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com may remember Meadow's guest post, Love is Not A Loaf of Bread.\n\nMeadow Perry is a Philadelphia-based Magician, Bubble Artist, and Actress who has been performing in various venues for 15 years. She has been in polyamorous relationships for three years, and during the pandemic, in addition to being booked for socially distanced and virtual group events, she has been putting on her own virtual shows. You can find information on her work in general at www.meadowperry.com and click [here](www.meadowperry.com/events) for tickets to her hour-long virtual Bubble Magic show on February 5. \n\nAs always, we are grateful to our Patrons for helping keep the boat afloat and if you'd like to join them you can do so at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, or one-time coins in the hat may be left at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. The wonderful intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com.Special Guest: Meadow Perry.","content_html":""I mean, really I just want to scream it from the rooftops that I love these humans - that's my important thing."
\n\nThe Relationship Escalator (https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator) is a strong cultural imperative even beyond monogamous culture to make sure your relationship keeps "going somewhere"- that you go through all the steps of dating, "getting serious," getting engaged, getting married, having kids, getting a house, and being together forever til death do you part at that pinnacle. Polyamory inherently assumes that not all relationships must do this; in fact, that no relationships need do this. So, outside of these cultural norms, what markers do we use to measure the progress of our relationships? What milestones do we embrace? This is an essentially personal decision in each relationship, but this week's podcast tries to give some food for thought on the topic.
\n\nToday's discussion is between our blog author & host, Laura, and her telemour, Meadow Perry, who have both found themselves intentionally building off-escalator relationships in recent years following breakups with spouses and nesting partners. Faithful readers of the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com may remember Meadow's guest post, Love is Not A Loaf of Bread.
\n\nMeadow Perry is a Philadelphia-based Magician, Bubble Artist, and Actress who has been performing in various venues for 15 years. She has been in polyamorous relationships for three years, and during the pandemic, in addition to being booked for socially distanced and virtual group events, she has been putting on her own virtual shows. You can find information on her work in general at www.meadowperry.com and click [here](www.meadowperry.com/events) for tickets to her hour-long virtual Bubble Magic show on February 5.
\n\nAs always, we are grateful to our Patrons for helping keep the boat afloat and if you'd like to join them you can do so at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory, or one-time coins in the hat may be left at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. The wonderful intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com.
Special Guest: Meadow Perry.
","summary":"Laura and Meadow Perry discuss relationships off the Relationship Escalator, designing your own metrics of whether they're working, and the ways it can be a struggle to get off the escalator in our larger culture.","date_published":"2021-01-16T10:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/b059e44e-3b8f-4a5c-80ac-e393d032d94e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":63918624,"duration_in_seconds":2663}]},{"id":"930b80a9-ad9e-4f17-ab4f-893ec0407d35","title":"Season 2 Episode 3: Love in the Time of Covid","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/covid19","content_text":"\"PS: I FOUND THE GUY!\"\n\n2020 has been defined, in large part, by the COVID-19 pandemic and precautions the population at large has taken to prevent its spread. How have these affected polyamorous relationships and networks? Have there been greater numbers of breakups? Have lockdown orders strengthened some relationships and weakened others? \n\nOur guest this week is a polyamorous event organizer in his local area and ran the New England Poly Prom event for 4 years (it would have been 5, but 2020 happened). His household came up with carefully defined, science-based, case-number per population guidelines for seeing their partners from outside the household when it became clear the shelter in place orders were not just going to be \"a couple weeks in March.\" So, we had an interesting conversation about the effects these guidelines have had on their extended polycule that I struggled to cut down to an hour-long podcast for you all. \n\nAdditionally, at the end of our long, fun conversation, I realized that he is \"The Guy\" Kimota Tigerlily and I thought was a myth in episode 1, so, having found the guy, I report back to you all that someone should alert the tabloids, and that I'm not going to because he's nice. He said he's got no events to promote or sites to link, so no formal guest page or links today. \n\nAs always, the wonderful music is provided by Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, and more information and ways to purchase and support can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nThe blog remains at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon, where in exchange for your support you can get advanced releases of posts, outtakes of podcasts or advance releases of podcasts (or video of my sight gags from recording via videochat - always worth it) is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and the Ko-fi, where you can throw a one time coin in my hat, is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. ","content_html":""PS: I FOUND THE GUY!"
\n\n2020 has been defined, in large part, by the COVID-19 pandemic and precautions the population at large has taken to prevent its spread. How have these affected polyamorous relationships and networks? Have there been greater numbers of breakups? Have lockdown orders strengthened some relationships and weakened others?
\n\nOur guest this week is a polyamorous event organizer in his local area and ran the New England Poly Prom event for 4 years (it would have been 5, but 2020 happened). His household came up with carefully defined, science-based, case-number per population guidelines for seeing their partners from outside the household when it became clear the shelter in place orders were not just going to be "a couple weeks in March." So, we had an interesting conversation about the effects these guidelines have had on their extended polycule that I struggled to cut down to an hour-long podcast for you all.
\n\nAdditionally, at the end of our long, fun conversation, I realized that he is "The Guy" Kimota Tigerlily and I thought was a myth in episode 1, so, having found the guy, I report back to you all that someone should alert the tabloids, and that I'm not going to because he's nice. He said he's got no events to promote or sites to link, so no formal guest page or links today.
\n\nAs always, the wonderful music is provided by Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, and more information and ways to purchase and support can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nThe blog remains at www.readyforpolyamory.com; the Patreon, where in exchange for your support you can get advanced releases of posts, outtakes of podcasts or advance releases of podcasts (or video of my sight gags from recording via videochat - always worth it) is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and the Ko-fi, where you can throw a one time coin in my hat, is at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
","summary":"Laura and David Overton discuss the effects of the COVID-19 pandemic and precautions against it on polycules and polyamorous relationships. ","date_published":"2021-01-09T09:30:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/930b80a9-ad9e-4f17-ab4f-893ec0407d35.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":93307634,"duration_in_seconds":3887}]},{"id":"03efad7d-4a0c-4228-9343-a0f9000e9947","title":"Season 2 Episode 2: Hierarchy","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/hierarchy","content_text":"\"Look, let's use an example that has nothing to do with polyamory - Let's talk about TERFs.\" \n\nLaura talks with Dr. Liz Powell (despite the best efforts of the local cable internet monopoly to make it impossible to do so) about hierarchies in polyamorous networks. They touch on reasons people often enter their polyamorous journies with prescriptive hierarchies in place, and what the distinction of using these terms descriptively rather than prescriptively means, as well as situations where hierarchies might appear by surprise or \"sneakily.\" Some of the conversation turns a little 'blue,' and is frank about sex and STIs, maybe don't listen to this one with the kids under teen age, so I'm marking the episode accordingly. \n\nDr. Liz is a sex educator, therapist, speaker, and popular podcast guest who works with singles, couples, and polycules across the sexual spectra to improve their lives - including the sexual portions of them. They work with anyone who wants to cultivate healthy, consent-driven, and autonomy-focused relationships, although non-monogamists, non-binary folx, kinksters, and queerdos are a special focus. You can learn more about their therapy practice (licensed in CA and OR) and coaching at their site, become a backer of their Patreon for early access and exclusive content at their Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/drliz, buy their book \"Building Open Relationships\" here or follow their social media for more information on their future work.\n\nThis January they're leading an initiative to go into the New Year treating ourselves well with self-love for our present beings, instead of beating our bodies up with diet and exercise resolutions for a future self. You can find more information on that here.\n\nLaura remains the author of the Ready for Polyamory Blog, www.readyforpolyamory.com, both blog and podcast can be supported either monthly at the Patreon www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory or in a one-off at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. \n\nAs always, intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com . Special Guest: Dr. Liz Powell.","content_html":""Look, let's use an example that has nothing to do with polyamory - Let's talk about TERFs."
\n\nLaura talks with Dr. Liz Powell (despite the best efforts of the local cable internet monopoly to make it impossible to do so) about hierarchies in polyamorous networks. They touch on reasons people often enter their polyamorous journies with prescriptive hierarchies in place, and what the distinction of using these terms descriptively rather than prescriptively means, as well as situations where hierarchies might appear by surprise or "sneakily." Some of the conversation turns a little 'blue,' and is frank about sex and STIs, maybe don't listen to this one with the kids under teen age, so I'm marking the episode accordingly.
\n\nDr. Liz is a sex educator, therapist, speaker, and popular podcast guest who works with singles, couples, and polycules across the sexual spectra to improve their lives - including the sexual portions of them. They work with anyone who wants to cultivate healthy, consent-driven, and autonomy-focused relationships, although non-monogamists, non-binary folx, kinksters, and queerdos are a special focus. You can learn more about their therapy practice (licensed in CA and OR) and coaching at their site, become a backer of their Patreon for early access and exclusive content at their Patreon at https://www.patreon.com/drliz, buy their book "Building Open Relationships" here or follow their social media for more information on their future work.
\n\nThis January they're leading an initiative to go into the New Year treating ourselves well with self-love for our present beings, instead of beating our bodies up with diet and exercise resolutions for a future self. You can find more information on that here.
\n\nLaura remains the author of the Ready for Polyamory Blog, www.readyforpolyamory.com, both blog and podcast can be supported either monthly at the Patreon www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory or in a one-off at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
\n\nAs always, intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com .
Special Guest: Dr. Liz Powell.
","summary":"Dr. Liz Powell and Laura discuss Prescriptive, Descriptive, and Sneaky Hierarchies - as well as a bunch of jokes, sight gags, Dr. Liz's New Year's Project, and how fear and trauma intersect with hierarchy and rules. ","date_published":"2021-01-02T10:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/03efad7d-4a0c-4228-9343-a0f9000e9947.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":81145648,"duration_in_seconds":3380}]},{"id":"9778ab83-f738-40e9-b324-bf7e8dc6ad94","title":"Season 2 Begins: Polyamory as a Catch-all for Ethical Non-monogamy","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/s2e1","content_text":"\"One of those is your boyfriend, one of those is your husband, one is your best friend, and one has been your lover for the last 15 years\" \n\n\nKimota Tigerlily and Laura discuss different forms of ethical non-monogamy, how polyamory has become a catch-all term for all of them, the ways this is good and bad for polyamorous visibility, and how our guest could have four relationships all called best friend that an outsider describes with that tagline.\n\n\nThey touch on this being a re-recording of an episode intended to close Season 1 (guess who only has half her notes?); the legalization of domestic partnerships between 3+ people in Somerville, MA (sorry for the jokes, Somerville, but the fact that your city employees can add other city employees they're in partnerships with to their health plans now was too good not to giggle at); the pros and cons of using polyamory as our public \"pretty word\" for all non-monogamy; and much more, mostly on topic!\n\n(That's this show's motto - much more, mostly on topic!)\n\nAs always, our beautiful music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nIf you're listening from somewhere other than host of our podcast and don't get a cute link to her guest page here, Kimota would like you to know that she's a dominatrix, shibari switch, lover of food, and huge nerd, who has been on the polyamorous side of the ENM spectrum for 8 years, and you can find her at https://kimotatigerlily.tumblr.com/tagged/polyamory or on OF under KimotaTigerlily. \n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com and if you'd like to support the blog and podcast and get excised tidbits and early releases, you can become a Patron at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory . Alternatively, you can throw a one time tip in the hat at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. \n\nHave a lovely week, everyone.Special Guest: KimotaTigerlily.","content_html":""One of those is your boyfriend, one of those is your husband, one is your best friend, and one has been your lover for the last 15 years"
\n\nThey touch on this being a re-recording of an episode intended to close Season 1 (guess who only has half her notes?); the legalization of domestic partnerships between 3+ people in Somerville, MA (sorry for the jokes, Somerville, but the fact that your city employees can add other city employees they're in partnerships with to their health plans now was too good not to giggle at); the pros and cons of using polyamory as our public "pretty word" for all non-monogamy; and much more, mostly on topic!
\n\n(That's this show's motto - much more, mostly on topic!)
\n\nAs always, our beautiful music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nIf you're listening from somewhere other than host of our podcast and don't get a cute link to her guest page here, Kimota would like you to know that she's a dominatrix, shibari switch, lover of food, and huge nerd, who has been on the polyamorous side of the ENM spectrum for 8 years, and you can find her at https://kimotatigerlily.tumblr.com/tagged/polyamory or on OF under KimotaTigerlily.
\n\nAs always, you can find the Ready for Polyamory blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com and if you'd like to support the blog and podcast and get excised tidbits and early releases, you can become a Patron at patreon.com/readyforpolyamory . Alternatively, you can throw a one time tip in the hat at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
\n\nHave a lovely week, everyone.
Special Guest: KimotaTigerlily.
","summary":"\"One of those is your boyfriend, one of those is your husband, one is your best friend, and one has been your lover for the last 15 years\" - Kimota Tigerlily and Laura discuss different forms of ethical non-monogamy, how polyamory has become a catch-all term for all of them, the ways this is good and bad for polyamorous visibility, and how our guest could have four relationships all called best friend that an outsider describes with that tagline.","date_published":"2020-12-26T10:00:00.000-05:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/9778ab83-f738-40e9-b324-bf7e8dc6ad94.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":57748293,"duration_in_seconds":2406}]},{"id":"1a4352e9-dba6-4c92-b003-9476f6930ac9","title":"Episode 11: Polyamory in the Media","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/media","content_text":"You all may remember that Laura wrote a bit of a screed against polyamorous representation in media on the blog on April 20 called \"Advertising Polyamory\" because she was getting annoyed at white FFM triads getting all the press. You may recently have read Ken's post about positive news media on polyamory this week, [\"In the News: How the media Perception of Polyamory is good, actually.\" ](www.readyforpolyamory.com)\n\nSo, we sit down and have a nice conversation about whether polyamorous representation is a good thing. (We got the fight out the first 5 times, the benefit of being partners. The number of times we've had the conversation changes every time you ask, also a benefit of being partners.)\n\nKen is a brilliant author and storyteller. Now, the link pimping. Ken's new book Stories and Sins is available here. Ken is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which you can visit at StoryPhoenix.com, facebook.com/StoryPhoenixes/, Twitter @StoryPhoenix_ . You can follow Ken @AtlasWriter on Twitter and youtube.com/user/atlaswriter. You can buy his book of poetry Stories and Sins here, and you should, not just because I love him but because I like it.\n\nAs always the intro and outro music has been provided by Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nIt is the last episode of season 1, I feel like I should be deeper than link pimping myself. \n\nHonestly, thank any and all of you who listened to all of these. I think it's a shame I lost the theory-wonkiest episodes; they're my deepest passion. If they're yours too and you'd like them for Season 2, let me know. If you want more general knowledge content, please tell me so, I can definitely do that too or instead, I'm just in my happy place arguing semantics. It's the near-academic in me. Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.","content_html":"You all may remember that Laura wrote a bit of a screed against polyamorous representation in media on the blog on April 20 called "Advertising Polyamory" because she was getting annoyed at white FFM triads getting all the press. You may recently have read Ken's post about positive news media on polyamory this week, ["In the News: How the media Perception of Polyamory is good, actually." ](www.readyforpolyamory.com)
\n\nSo, we sit down and have a nice conversation about whether polyamorous representation is a good thing. (We got the fight out the first 5 times, the benefit of being partners. The number of times we've had the conversation changes every time you ask, also a benefit of being partners.)
\n\nKen is a brilliant author and storyteller. Now, the link pimping. Ken's new book Stories and Sins is available here. Ken is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which you can visit at StoryPhoenix.com, facebook.com/StoryPhoenixes/, Twitter @StoryPhoenix_ . You can follow Ken @AtlasWriter on Twitter and youtube.com/user/atlaswriter. You can buy his book of poetry Stories and Sins here, and you should, not just because I love him but because I like it.
\n\nAs always the intro and outro music has been provided by Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nIt is the last episode of season 1, I feel like I should be deeper than link pimping myself.
\n\nHonestly, thank any and all of you who listened to all of these. I think it's a shame I lost the theory-wonkiest episodes; they're my deepest passion. If they're yours too and you'd like them for Season 2, let me know. If you want more general knowledge content, please tell me so, I can definitely do that too or instead, I'm just in my happy place arguing semantics. It's the near-academic in me.
Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.
","summary":"Laura and Ken Briodagh talk about Polyamory in the Media and whether it's positive representation or not, largely.","date_published":"2020-08-22T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/1a4352e9-dba6-4c92-b003-9476f6930ac9.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":56678735,"duration_in_seconds":2361}]},{"id":"47c1d930-2adf-476d-a6ad-49235ca6706e","title":"Episode 10: Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/ktp-parallel","content_text":"Today's guests are my metamours Daniel Greenwolf and Vanessa/Bella Greenwolf, discussing the relationship spectrum of parallel to kitchen table polyamory, how relationship definitions get slippery, why they think that makes them kind of useless for most people, and why the semantics are, in my opinion, kind of important anyway, because both agreeing you're \"kitchen table polyamorous\" and meaning two different things can cause huge problems down the line. In a polycule like ours, where things are kind of organically shifting and part kitchen table part parallel anyway (see this post from way back when everyone wanted me using pseudonyms for more information) that's less important, but for some folks it really matters. You can find more information from my blog under the Relationship Spectrum tag, and as always I'm on [Patreon](www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and [ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory). \n\nFind our guests at www.DanielGreenWolf.com \nwww.GreenWolfCast.Libsyn.com\nFacebook.com/GreenWolfCast\nand on all the social media through their guest links below. \n\nAs always the beautiful intro and outro music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.comSpecial Guests: Daniel GreenWolf and Vanessa \"Bella GreenWolf\".","content_html":"Today's guests are my metamours Daniel Greenwolf and Vanessa/Bella Greenwolf, discussing the relationship spectrum of parallel to kitchen table polyamory, how relationship definitions get slippery, why they think that makes them kind of useless for most people, and why the semantics are, in my opinion, kind of important anyway, because both agreeing you're "kitchen table polyamorous" and meaning two different things can cause huge problems down the line. In a polycule like ours, where things are kind of organically shifting and part kitchen table part parallel anyway (see this post from way back when everyone wanted me using pseudonyms for more information) that's less important, but for some folks it really matters. You can find more information from my blog under the Relationship Spectrum tag, and as always I'm on [Patreon](www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and [ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory).
\n\nFind our guests at www.DanielGreenWolf.com
\nwww.GreenWolfCast.Libsyn.com
\nFacebook.com/GreenWolfCast
\nand on all the social media through their guest links below.
As always the beautiful intro and outro music is by Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com
Special Guests: Daniel GreenWolf and Vanessa "Bella GreenWolf".
","summary":"Laura talks with her metamours Daniel and Vanessa about the spectrum of Kitchen Table to Parallel polyamorous relationship and they offer their different perspectives on whether any kind of relationship should be \"goals\"","date_published":"2020-08-15T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/47c1d930-2adf-476d-a6ad-49235ca6706e.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":63990095,"duration_in_seconds":2666}]},{"id":"9dcb7408-b0df-42f6-9454-6bc0af7481d3","title":"Episode 9: Community and Finding Your People","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/talya","content_text":"This episode was meant to be centered on finding local community, meeting people near you, integrating into new polyamorous social circles, and so on - and went rather off the rails because I invited a very old friend to do it with me. Talya recently re-relocated (she was kind of migratory for a while) to Mexico City, and is exploring polyamory in that cultural context in a more serious way for the first time, which colored the conversation. \n\nCurrent events colored the conversation. \n\nFamilial interruption colored the conversation. \n\nSo, I've cut you a delightful, entertaining, and (I think) educational episode of me picking this brilliant woman I've been lucky enough to call a friend for many years' brain, and I hope you enjoy it. \n\nAs always, the intro and outro music is provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)\n\nTalya is a polyamorous holistic mental health coach, mother and pagan eclectic witch with an M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Concordia University in Montreal, Canada. She has been polyamorous for more than a decade and draws on her experiences in polyamorous relationships, as well as her own mental health journey, to empower others to find their own ways of expressing their authenticity. She recently relocated to Mexico City and is exploring polyamory in this new cultural context. You can follow her journey and musings on Instagram: blue_lotus_mind\n\nThe blog, of course, is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; I'd love it if you subscribed at the [Patreon](www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) or threw a coin in the hat at [ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory).Special Guest: Talya Grumberg.","content_html":"This episode was meant to be centered on finding local community, meeting people near you, integrating into new polyamorous social circles, and so on - and went rather off the rails because I invited a very old friend to do it with me. Talya recently re-relocated (she was kind of migratory for a while) to Mexico City, and is exploring polyamory in that cultural context in a more serious way for the first time, which colored the conversation.
\n\nCurrent events colored the conversation.
\n\nFamilial interruption colored the conversation.
\n\nSo, I've cut you a delightful, entertaining, and (I think) educational episode of me picking this brilliant woman I've been lucky enough to call a friend for many years' brain, and I hope you enjoy it.
\n\nAs always, the intro and outro music is provided by the talented [Vince Conaway.](www.vinceconaway.com)
\n\nTalya is a polyamorous holistic mental health coach, mother and pagan eclectic witch with an M.A. in Clinical Psychology from Concordia University in Montreal, Canada. She has been polyamorous for more than a decade and draws on her experiences in polyamorous relationships, as well as her own mental health journey, to empower others to find their own ways of expressing their authenticity. She recently relocated to Mexico City and is exploring polyamory in this new cultural context. You can follow her journey and musings on Instagram: blue_lotus_mind
\n\nThe blog, of course, is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; I'd love it if you subscribed at the [Patreon](www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) or threw a coin in the hat at [ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory).
Special Guest: Talya Grumberg.
","summary":"Laura and her friend Talya have a wide-ranging discussion centered around polyamorous community and finding one's \"people\"","date_published":"2020-08-08T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/9dcb7408-b0df-42f6-9454-6bc0af7481d3.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":65702265,"duration_in_seconds":2737}]},{"id":"3539b70b-0895-48a7-ac44-493bfea22c14","title":"Episode 8: Relationships With Metamours","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/metamours","content_text":"Laura and Seva discuss the good, the bad, and the meh, as regards relationships with metamours. Mostly an interview of Seva and discussion of the past.\n\nThe ladies largely agree that 80-90% of metamour relationships are good to \"meh\", and bad relationships are few and farther between, as well as often being initiated by partners or \"partner problems, rather than meta problems.\" Small content warning: allusions to adult/sexual activity content, no explicit descriptions. If you're looking for encouragement that good metamour relationships, or at least better ones, are coming, skip the nine to ten minutes after the intro, that's Seva reliving her worst ever metamour relationship, which was definitely a partner problem, but she was new enough to not know that yet. \n\nSeva is largely anonymous on this show due to not being out at work but teaches in the poly and rope communities and helped build upline rope; you can find the link in her guest link below. \n\nAs always, intro and outro music is provided by [Vince Conaway](www.vinceconaway.com)Special Guest: Seva.","content_html":"Laura and Seva discuss the good, the bad, and the meh, as regards relationships with metamours. Mostly an interview of Seva and discussion of the past.
\n\nThe ladies largely agree that 80-90% of metamour relationships are good to "meh", and bad relationships are few and farther between, as well as often being initiated by partners or "partner problems, rather than meta problems." Small content warning: allusions to adult/sexual activity content, no explicit descriptions. If you're looking for encouragement that good metamour relationships, or at least better ones, are coming, skip the nine to ten minutes after the intro, that's Seva reliving her worst ever metamour relationship, which was definitely a partner problem, but she was new enough to not know that yet.
\n\nSeva is largely anonymous on this show due to not being out at work but teaches in the poly and rope communities and helped build upline rope; you can find the link in her guest link below.
\n\nAs always, intro and outro music is provided by [Vince Conaway](www.vinceconaway.com)
Special Guest: Seva.
","summary":"Laura and Seva discuss the good, the bad, and the meh, as regards relationships with metamours.","date_published":"2020-08-01T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/3539b70b-0895-48a7-ac44-493bfea22c14.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":57249250,"duration_in_seconds":2385}]},{"id":"102c3817-f45c-439c-972c-04d7e4f621c0","title":"Episode 7: Ambiamory","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/ambiamory","content_text":"Laura and her friend Olivia discuss Ambiamory, the ability to go between polyamory and monogamy as a matter of choice rather than orientation. \n\n(Giving full credit where credit is due, the term seems to have been coined by Page Turner of Poly.Land)\n\nOlivia is not out in all aspects of her life and all her projects as ambiamorous and pansexual, and so she isn't sharing her project links, but would love it if you donated to Planned Parenthood. \n\nMy wonderful metamour Daniel Greenwolf provided a small statement on why Polyamory is an orientation for him and you can find links to all his projects and social media in his guest page below. \n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com and updates Monday/Wednesday/Friday. You can give at the P[atreon](www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and the [Ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory)\n\nThe intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.comSpecial Guest: Daniel GreenWolf.","content_html":"Laura and her friend Olivia discuss Ambiamory, the ability to go between polyamory and monogamy as a matter of choice rather than orientation.
\n\n(Giving full credit where credit is due, the term seems to have been coined by Page Turner of Poly.Land)
\n\nOlivia is not out in all aspects of her life and all her projects as ambiamorous and pansexual, and so she isn't sharing her project links, but would love it if you donated to Planned Parenthood.
\n\nMy wonderful metamour Daniel Greenwolf provided a small statement on why Polyamory is an orientation for him and you can find links to all his projects and social media in his guest page below.
\n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com and updates Monday/Wednesday/Friday. You can give at the P[atreon](www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and the [Ko-fi](www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory)
\n\nThe intro and outro music is provided by the talented Vince Conaway who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com
Special Guest: Daniel GreenWolf.
","summary":"Laura and her friend Olivia discuss Ambiamory, the ability to go between polyamory and monogamy as a matter of choice rather than orientation. ","date_published":"2020-07-25T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/102c3817-f45c-439c-972c-04d7e4f621c0.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":60209655,"duration_in_seconds":2508}]},{"id":"cd347583-0c85-49b0-acc5-7bdc4d78d4e9","title":"Episode 6: Polyamory- Married and Dating","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/polymarriedanddating","content_text":"Warning: discussion of some adult situations as portrayed on an explicit television show. If frank discussion of human sexuality or its misuse by a television network for cheap entertainment offends you, do not listen to this episode. \n\nCorwin and Laura take apart all the ways the 2012 Season 1 Episodes 1-3 of Polyamory: Married and Dating portray polyamory negatively, or as a stereotyped joke, while noting that this was pretty much the heyday and high point of scripted/not scripted \"reality tv\" and that if you missed this then, you might still find equal parts enjoyment and anger in watching it, as Laura did. It looks like it's available through showtime's streaming service, though Laura has that channel as an add-on to her Amazon prime account. \n\nIf you want to watch before you listen, or after you listen to the \"recap,\" (or after the episode, because, really, while we make a great case for it being bad community representation, we also make a great case for it being quite entertaining, albeit cringier than I like) it's \"half-hour\" made for cable episodes so it takes an hour to watch all three. It's absolutely not necessary, but if you want the option, that's where to find the show; season 1, episodes 1-3. \n\nIn addition to being an expert on pre 2015 reality tv, Corwin has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for the past eight years, getting his start with polyamory and slowly branching out into other styles of non-monogamy. Currently, he describes his relationship style as ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy. He also owns and operates Upline, CT's premiere rope studio, the details about which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com. His personal rope & photography projects can be found on Instagram @corwinrope.\n\nAs always, the intro and outro music are provided by the lovely and talented Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nAlso, as always, send comments and feedback over to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com; find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; trade monthly support for a MWF blog and a Saturday podcast (and extras!) at www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and throw a tip in my jar at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory. \n\nLet me know if you found this funny or hated it, because if you hated it I just won't record my zoom date with my bestie after I watch more. Now I need to know where this goes...Special Guest: Corwin.","content_html":"Warning: discussion of some adult situations as portrayed on an explicit television show. If frank discussion of human sexuality or its misuse by a television network for cheap entertainment offends you, do not listen to this episode.
\n\nCorwin and Laura take apart all the ways the 2012 Season 1 Episodes 1-3 of Polyamory: Married and Dating portray polyamory negatively, or as a stereotyped joke, while noting that this was pretty much the heyday and high point of scripted/not scripted "reality tv" and that if you missed this then, you might still find equal parts enjoyment and anger in watching it, as Laura did. It looks like it's available through showtime's streaming service, though Laura has that channel as an add-on to her Amazon prime account.
\n\nIf you want to watch before you listen, or after you listen to the "recap," (or after the episode, because, really, while we make a great case for it being bad community representation, we also make a great case for it being quite entertaining, albeit cringier than I like) it's "half-hour" made for cable episodes so it takes an hour to watch all three. It's absolutely not necessary, but if you want the option, that's where to find the show; season 1, episodes 1-3.
\n\nIn addition to being an expert on pre 2015 reality tv, Corwin has been practicing ethical non-monogamy for the past eight years, getting his start with polyamory and slowly branching out into other styles of non-monogamy. Currently, he describes his relationship style as ethical non-hierarchical non-monogamy. He also owns and operates Upline, CT's premiere rope studio, the details about which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com. His personal rope & photography projects can be found on Instagram @corwinrope.
\n\nAs always, the intro and outro music are provided by the lovely and talented Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nAlso, as always, send comments and feedback over to readyforpolyamory@gmail.com; find the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com; trade monthly support for a MWF blog and a Saturday podcast (and extras!) at www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory; and throw a tip in my jar at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
\n\nLet me know if you found this funny or hated it, because if you hated it I just won't record my zoom date with my bestie after I watch more. Now I need to know where this goes...
Special Guest: Corwin.
","summary":"Laura and Corwin take apart representation and entertainment in a reality tv show about polyamory from 2012, Polymory: Married and Dating.","date_published":"2020-07-18T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/cd347583-0c85-49b0-acc5-7bdc4d78d4e9.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":72525451,"duration_in_seconds":4532}]},{"id":"614c2b15-ab1b-41bd-97e7-5e5b11c3d576","title":"Episode 5: Compersion","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/compersion","content_text":"Compersion is typically defined in the polyamorous community as happiness at the happiness of one's partner with their other partner(s). Some people go so far as to use the phrase \"the opposite of jealousy.\" Laura discusses the concept, the possibility of broadening this definition to \"positive empathy for one's partner\" and whether that waters down the concept too far (and if so, if we need the concept) - with Kimota Tigerlily and Seva. \n\nRelated blog posts to today's podcast include: \nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/compersion-is-not-mandatory\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/hard-won-compersion\n\nSeva is a community educator in alternative relationships and the rope community and helped build Upline rope studio which is at www.uplinestudio.com. \n\nKimota Tigerlily is a foodie, shibari enthusiast, has a page on O. N. L. Y. F> A> N> S> (Because I'd like a chance at maybe getting the one named after a fruit to take my podcast someday I'm not direct linking) username kimotatigerlily; you can find her at @KimotaTigerlily on Twitter and @KimotaxTigerlily on Instagram, as well as her thoughts on polyamory on tumblr here: \nhttps://kimotatigerlily.tumblr.com/tagged/polyamory \n\nAs always, intro and outro music provided by the lovely Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nAlso, as always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; support us financially and get benefits at www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory.com, or throw a one time donation in the hat at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.Special Guests: KimotaTigerlily and Seva.","content_html":"Compersion is typically defined in the polyamorous community as happiness at the happiness of one's partner with their other partner(s). Some people go so far as to use the phrase "the opposite of jealousy." Laura discusses the concept, the possibility of broadening this definition to "positive empathy for one's partner" and whether that waters down the concept too far (and if so, if we need the concept) - with Kimota Tigerlily and Seva.
\n\nRelated blog posts to today's podcast include:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/compersion-is-not-mandatory
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/hard-won-compersion
Seva is a community educator in alternative relationships and the rope community and helped build Upline rope studio which is at www.uplinestudio.com.
\n\nKimota Tigerlily is a foodie, shibari enthusiast, has a page on O. N. L. Y. F> A> N> S> (Because I'd like a chance at maybe getting the one named after a fruit to take my podcast someday I'm not direct linking) username kimotatigerlily; you can find her at @KimotaTigerlily on Twitter and @KimotaxTigerlily on Instagram, as well as her thoughts on polyamory on tumblr here:
\nhttps://kimotatigerlily.tumblr.com/tagged/polyamory
As always, intro and outro music provided by the lovely Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nAlso, as always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com; support us financially and get benefits at www.Patreon.com/readyforpolyamory.com, or throw a one time donation in the hat at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guests: KimotaTigerlily and Seva.
","summary":"Laura discusses the concept of compersion, happiness at your partner's happiness with their other partners, with two guests. ","date_published":"2020-07-11T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/614c2b15-ab1b-41bd-97e7-5e5b11c3d576.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":73239743,"duration_in_seconds":2288}]},{"id":"630f265e-0b41-41e6-920a-c416a9b24ecd","title":"Episode 4:Jealousy","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/jealousy","content_text":"Jealousy is a very human emoition, and one that doesn't go away just because you decide that you're polyamorous. This week, we examine it, reasons one might feel it, and ways to cope with it, in two conversations with an old friend and a metamour of mine, both polyamorous for between 6 and 7 years. \n\nOn the [blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com), you can find resources on jealousy under the \"Jealousy\" post tag, or a start in the \"But Don't You Get Jealous?\" entry under Start Here. \n\nSeva's current project is helping build Upline Rope studio which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com.\n\nVanessa/Bella Greenwolf, as head wrangler of Daniel GreenWolf, can be found at www.DanielGreenWolf.com, www.greenwolfcast.libsyn.com, and facebook.com/bellagreenwolfmagic.\n\nThe intro and outro music as always is provided by Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nThe Ready For Polyamory[ Patreon](patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and [Ko-fi ](ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory) are there and I'd really appreciate your support to keep the lights on on the blog and podcast; the blog is up every Monday/Wednesday/Friday, and the podcast every Saturday. Special Guests: Seva and Vanessa \"Bella GreenWolf\".","content_html":"Jealousy is a very human emoition, and one that doesn't go away just because you decide that you're polyamorous. This week, we examine it, reasons one might feel it, and ways to cope with it, in two conversations with an old friend and a metamour of mine, both polyamorous for between 6 and 7 years.
\n\nOn the [blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com), you can find resources on jealousy under the "Jealousy" post tag, or a start in the "But Don't You Get Jealous?" entry under Start Here.
\n\nSeva's current project is helping build Upline Rope studio which can be found at https://uplinestudio.com.
\n\nVanessa/Bella Greenwolf, as head wrangler of Daniel GreenWolf, can be found at www.DanielGreenWolf.com, www.greenwolfcast.libsyn.com, and facebook.com/bellagreenwolfmagic.
\n\nThe intro and outro music as always is provided by Vince Conaway who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nThe Ready For Polyamory[ Patreon](patreon.com/readyforpolyamory) and [Ko-fi ](ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory) are there and I'd really appreciate your support to keep the lights on on the blog and podcast; the blog is up every Monday/Wednesday/Friday, and the podcast every Saturday.
Special Guests: Seva and Vanessa "Bella GreenWolf".
","summary":"Two conversations regarding jealousy in polyamorous relationships. One with Seva, an educator in the non-monogamy and rope communities, and one with Vanessa/Bella GreenWolf, my metamour of 4 years. ","date_published":"2020-07-03T12:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/630f265e-0b41-41e6-920a-c416a9b24ecd.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":59448761,"duration_in_seconds":1857}]},{"id":"360ade5e-1fe0-4991-9c67-e5f3ddcb5314","title":"Episode 3: Triads, Why They're Hard, and Why People Want Them Anyway","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/triads","content_text":"Polyamorous triads are an occasionally contentious topic within the community because they're many people's entry point in but often also challenging - and, as people's entry point, much like high school sweethearts, it often doesn't work out, but for a select few it does. Today's guest is one of those select few. \n\nDaniel GreenWolf joins Laura Boyle for a discussion of triad relationships, their challenges, their positives, and how he's landed in two of them at once without meaning to. You can find more information on this topic in the blog post “New Triads: Relationships on Hardmode,” from May 6.\n\nDaniel can be found at www.DanielGreenWolf.com, www.Greenwolfcast.libsyn.com and facebook.com/GreenWolfCast, as well as on essentially all social media as Daniel GreenWolf.\n\nIntro and outro music is provided by the lovely Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com\n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, updating Monday/Wednesday/Friday, and we're back next Saturday with another podcast, this one discussing jealousy. If you like what you hear, consider throwing a tip in our tip jar at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and if you want additional content in the same vein, become a patron at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory. Special Guest: Daniel GreenWolf.","content_html":"Polyamorous triads are an occasionally contentious topic within the community because they're many people's entry point in but often also challenging - and, as people's entry point, much like high school sweethearts, it often doesn't work out, but for a select few it does. Today's guest is one of those select few.
\n\nDaniel GreenWolf joins Laura Boyle for a discussion of triad relationships, their challenges, their positives, and how he's landed in two of them at once without meaning to. You can find more information on this topic in the blog post “New Triads: Relationships on Hardmode,” from May 6.
\n\nDaniel can be found at www.DanielGreenWolf.com, www.Greenwolfcast.libsyn.com and facebook.com/GreenWolfCast, as well as on essentially all social media as Daniel GreenWolf.
\n\nIntro and outro music is provided by the lovely Vince Conaway, who can be found at www.vinceconaway.com
\n\nAs always, the blog is at www.readyforpolyamory.com, updating Monday/Wednesday/Friday, and we're back next Saturday with another podcast, this one discussing jealousy. If you like what you hear, consider throwing a tip in our tip jar at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and if you want additional content in the same vein, become a patron at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory.
Special Guest: Daniel GreenWolf.
","summary":"Polyamorous triads are an occasionally contentious topic within the community because they're many people's entry point in but often also challenging - and, as people's entry point, much like high school sweethearts, it often doesn't work out, but for a select few it does. Today's guest is one of those select few. ","date_published":"2020-06-27T11:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/360ade5e-1fe0-4991-9c67-e5f3ddcb5314.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":74856409,"duration_in_seconds":2339}]},{"id":"2911cd2d-1ba7-4361-95ff-2d7332b5a2e6","title":"Episode 2: Relationship Agreements","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/relationship-agreements","content_text":"Today Laura gets to have a lovely conversation about relationship agreements, the basis of ethical non-monogamy, and somehow, today, the basis for giving her a lot of shit. This may be because our guest is her boyfriend.\n\nKen Briodagh is a storyteller, writer and editor. He's been my partner for more than 4 years and polyamorous for some years more than that. He is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which you can visit at www.StoryPhoenix.com, facebook.com/StoryPhoenixes/, Twitter @StoryPhoenix . You can follow Ken @AtlasWriter on Twitter and youtube.com/user/atlaswriter. He’s been a cook, telemarketer, medical supply technician and mover of the bodies at a funeral home. Most of his exploits are either exaggerated or blatantly false and no one can prove otherwise.\n\nRelated articles to today's topic: \nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-are-relationship-agreements\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/if-you-re-new-to-polyamory-with-a-partner\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/navigating-boundaries-and-agreements-when-you-re-both-polyamorous\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/questions-to-ask-when-dating-while-polyamorous\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-time-i-had-a-fight-about-sleepovers\n\nAnd, as always, the whole blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com updates MWF, and you can follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/readyforpolyamory, on instagram @readyforpolyamory and on Twitter @lauracb88. If you'd like to toss a coin in the hat we're at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory. Patrons get access to exclusive content and I get to make jokes about you subscribing to my newsletter. Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.","content_html":"Today Laura gets to have a lovely conversation about relationship agreements, the basis of ethical non-monogamy, and somehow, today, the basis for giving her a lot of shit. This may be because our guest is her boyfriend.
\n\nKen Briodagh is a storyteller, writer and editor. He's been my partner for more than 4 years and polyamorous for some years more than that. He is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which you can visit at www.StoryPhoenix.com, facebook.com/StoryPhoenixes/, Twitter @StoryPhoenix . You can follow Ken @AtlasWriter on Twitter and youtube.com/user/atlaswriter. He’s been a cook, telemarketer, medical supply technician and mover of the bodies at a funeral home. Most of his exploits are either exaggerated or blatantly false and no one can prove otherwise.
\n\nRelated articles to today's topic:
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-are-relationship-agreements
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/if-you-re-new-to-polyamory-with-a-partner
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/navigating-boundaries-and-agreements-when-you-re-both-polyamorous
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/questions-to-ask-when-dating-while-polyamorous
\nhttps://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-time-i-had-a-fight-about-sleepovers
And, as always, the whole blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com updates MWF, and you can follow us on Facebook at www.facebook.com/readyforpolyamory, on instagram @readyforpolyamory and on Twitter @lauracb88. If you'd like to toss a coin in the hat we're at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory, and the Patreon is at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory. Patrons get access to exclusive content and I get to make jokes about you subscribing to my newsletter.
Special Guest: Ken Briodagh.
","summary":"A discussion on how to set polyamorous relationship agreements, and general joking around, with writer & storyteller Ken Briodagh.","date_published":"2020-06-20T10:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/2911cd2d-1ba7-4361-95ff-2d7332b5a2e6.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":85128174,"duration_in_seconds":2660}]},{"id":"7abcf46b-d714-40c8-b3cb-8b5fe1f7db6c","title":"Episode 1: Polyamory 101","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/poly101","content_text":"Today's episode is the only one this season without specific guests in conversation with our charming host. \n\nBasic information on polyamory can be found under the \"Start Here\" posts tag on the blog, and the February 24 post \"What is Polyamory, Anyway?\" covers most of this territory at: www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-polyamory-anyway; the immediately following post, A Brief History of Polyamory, may interest you as well. You can find many more definitions at the site's Polyamory Glossary\n\nThe Ready for Polyamory blog can be found at www.readyforpolyamory.com \nYou can become a patron for additional goodies on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory\nYou can leave a tip to help keep the metaphorical lights on for these projects at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory\nFollow us on instagram @readyforpolyamory ; on Twitter @lauracb88 ; and at www.facebook.com/readyforpolyamory\n\nOur intro and outro music as always comes from the talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com","content_html":"Today's episode is the only one this season without specific guests in conversation with our charming host.
\n\nBasic information on polyamory can be found under the "Start Here" posts tag on the blog, and the February 24 post "What is Polyamory, Anyway?" covers most of this territory at: www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-polyamory-anyway; the immediately following post, A Brief History of Polyamory, may interest you as well. You can find many more definitions at the site's Polyamory Glossary
\n\nThe Ready for Polyamory blog can be found at www.readyforpolyamory.com
\nYou can become a patron for additional goodies on Patreon at www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory
\nYou can leave a tip to help keep the metaphorical lights on for these projects at www.ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory
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Our intro and outro music as always comes from the talented Vince Conaway, who you can find at www.vinceconaway.com
","summary":"In this episode of the Ready for Polyamory podcast, Laura explains the basics of what polyamory and ethical non-monogamy are and aren't, with a little help from her friends in narrowing definitions. ","date_published":"2020-06-13T10:00:00.000-04:00","attachments":[{"url":"https://aphid.fireside.fm/d/1437767933/f4a76c0c-91c2-445e-88df-e84e83c5ca1b/7abcf46b-d714-40c8-b3cb-8b5fe1f7db6c.mp3","mime_type":"audio/mpeg","size_in_bytes":34066307,"duration_in_seconds":1419}]},{"id":"58a08942-fa45-45a8-a659-acfee569230f","title":"Episode 0: Episode 0: The Introduction","url":"https://readyforpolyamory.fireside.fm/0","content_text":"Introduction of format for Ready for Polyamory podcast, hosted by Laura Boyle, discussing ethical non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships as an extension of the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com. \n\nEpisodes will include many guests, content both extremely serious and extremely humorous, depending on the week. Season 1 will run weekly with 12 episodes; season 2 is in the works but no promises on release dates, a girl has to sleep. \n\nPatreon at: www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory for early releases and exclusive content; \nKo-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory if a blog post or podcast episode speaks to you and you'd like to drop a tip in my jar. \nIntro music by Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, www.vinceconaway.com has the links to all the goodies.","content_html":"Introduction of format for Ready for Polyamory podcast, hosted by Laura Boyle, discussing ethical non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships as an extension of the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com.
\n\nEpisodes will include many guests, content both extremely serious and extremely humorous, depending on the week. Season 1 will run weekly with 12 episodes; season 2 is in the works but no promises on release dates, a girl has to sleep.
\n\nPatreon at: www.patreon.com/readyforpolyamory for early releases and exclusive content;
\nKo-fi at ko-fi.com/readyforpolyamory if a blog post or podcast episode speaks to you and you'd like to drop a tip in my jar.
\nIntro music by Vince Conaway and his hammered dulcimer, www.vinceconaway.com has the links to all the goodies.